i just use vinegar, lavender EO, and baking soda. I also will use a whitening powder if I need to.
I have done two days now of hand washing. I don't care for it, but it's not terribly difficult. First, at night, I put everything in the laundry sink with some whitening powder. Then, i do a quick cold rinse in the morning. then refill with cold and add the vinegar, baking soda, and EO. Then, I use a large wooden spoon to agitate it for several minutes. Then I agitate it by hand (gently squeezing the clothes and drawing cleaning agents through them) Then I let it soak for a bit while I do something else (usually another chore), and then rinse. Nothing in this lot really needed to be "scrubbed" -- so I rinsed everything out.
then i started hand wringing and it was really tough. So, i put the load into my washer and put it on the 2 minute spin cycle. I decided to do it twice -- even though it felt fine/normal after one -- to see if it would shake off more water. Some items came out nearly dry. I hung everything on the ine and most of it was dry in several hours!
We do not really get freezing temps here. It's sort of like San Fran or Portland in the weather. We occasionally get below zero, but not really. THe issue is really the wet. It usually takes several days for clothes to dry. But, using the spin cycle twice really made a huge difference on how wet the clothes were before I hung them up, so that's a process that I can easily repeat.
I think that I may need to scrub with my rock if I have really muddy/dirty clothes, but since DS is toilet trained and we rarely have accidents, and we now basically pre-soak everything, there's really no need to scrub. which is nice.
Also, I don't iron anything. I don't find that I need to. But I don't have anything that needs to be ironed anyway, like oxford style sirts. we really don't own any. Just a few for DS, and he doesn't care if he's wrinkled.