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Anyone else not looking to give birth before their due date?

post #1 of 17
Thread Starter 

I'm not ready (for several good reasons) to have an early birth and have always gone to 40 weeks (except last time when son was born 2 days before his due date and that felt early). So I've been resting loads, taking liquid calcium/magnesium, eating plenty of protein, staying well hydrated etc; anyone else feel this way? My husband won't be back in this country until July8th and I'm due on the 12th so I have some pretty good reasons for not wanting to deliver sooner. My uterus feels very calm, nothing happening and my midwife is pretty sure I won't be going early since I don't have that history but I'm still doing everything I can to prolong this pregnancy (talking to baby and telling him not to come out).

post #2 of 17

Yes I too hope to "wait" - I'm due July 5 but my friend & doula who I have been really counting on had to change her date of arriving from today the 26th to July 8. I hope she can come first, we can chill and talk for a few days and then baby will come. I was really counting on her presence because I have no family or friends nearby, except the DH and his fam.

 

I feel fairly confident it will be this way as I have had practically no 'signs' yet and my mama had my brother & I 7-10 days "late." I'm patient. In no hurry. (Watch I get to 42 weeks and still no baby and start to freak out :)

post #3 of 17

I would not want to have my baby without my DH either, so I understand you want to wait. But I feel that baby only is ready to come when Mamma is ready, so I think you should be fine!!!

post #4 of 17
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Originally Posted by Gismobabe View Post

I would not want to have my baby without my DH either, so I understand you want to wait. But I feel that baby only is ready to come when Mamma is ready, so I think you should be fine!!!



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My husband was deployed when I was pregnant with my 3rd and came home for R&R only 4 days before my due date.  I had had my 2nd child 4 days prior to my due date, but we didn't want him to come home any sooner and chance not even getting to meet the new baby.  So I definitely did not wish to go before my due date with that one.  And I didn't do anything to encourage my body to go into labor.  He did make it home and on my due date we went in for an appt. and had my membranes stripped (since he had only 12 days of leave left at that point) and baby was born in the middle of the night that night.  My next two have been early, so I agree that baby won't come if mama is not emotionally ready, to an extent.  I'm not sure I was ready for baby #5, but he came 2 weeks early anyway.  

post #5 of 17

Oh Gawd Not Me!!! I am DONE DONE DONE! Get this Over With!

 

 I Have SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) And Am Constantly in Pain, Feels like my Pubic Bone is Broken, Can't Roll over in Bed, Can't sleep in any comfortable position, Can't put on my pants or underwear without my eyes crossing in agony. I am sick of being in Pain. I can barely Stand for any amount of time. I am Fatigued and breathing like a 700 pound asthmatic. I am Impatient and Hormonal with my kids. I want this baby OUT So I can get into a routine with 3 kids, and go back to enjoying my family instead of being in agony and irritable.

 

 On July 5th I will be 2 days shy of 37 Weeks and Legally 'Safe' To have my Home Birth. I am PRAYING I go into labor Shortly After that!!!!!

post #6 of 17

I'm happy to wait as well.  Not for any reason other than I like having baby in there and enjoy having the baby belly...and like having a normal routine that isn't yet thrown into chaos by a newborn.  I'm so excited to meet him but would like him to stay put until at least 39w (which is when DS1 was born).

post #7 of 17

I moved 3 weeks ago and am due July 11th (38+0wks today).  I have had to do so much quick preparation in these last few weeks that I am perfectly content for the baby to take as long as he needs to finish cooking, even though I am having pretty much constant pelvic pain.  Other than that I'm still relatively comfortable.  I'm still waiting on my shipment of cloth diapers and a changing table, so really, 2-3 more weeks would be great!  It's hard to imagine where more baby will go, though.  I feel FULL.

post #8 of 17

Yah, I was thinking about this today... on the one hand, I am DONE.  I want this baby OUT.  But on the other hand, I'm just not ready.  Actually, if the baby came in the next 10 days, it would be near-disastrous.  First of all, we only get 2 more weeks of subsidized daycare for DD after the baby arrives, and if we have to pull her out before she has her daycare "birthday party" (July 15th), she is going to be crushed, all the moreso because I don't think I can have any kind of party for her at home.  The daycare also has all kinds of field trips and special activities planned for the summer starting July 12th, and if she were pulled too soon she'd miss it all!  Secondly, DH is taking an intensive summer course until July 7th, and between it and work he simply can't help with things like getting DD to and from daycare right now.  Then there's the fact that my whole family scheduled their vacations and summer trips assuming the baby wouldn't be here until the end of July - if the baby were born in the next week I'd have NO extended family around to help.

 

And, of course, I haven't prepared ANYTHING.  All the newborn things I bought for the new one are stuck in the mail due to the Canada Post lockout.  The house is a disaster.  There's no stored food.  What I'm hoping will be my birthing room (at home) smells suspiciously and intensely of kitty litter. :P  Oh man... not ready.

 

So... yah.  I'm sick of being pregnant, but for real, this is not a good time for a baby.  Yet.

post #9 of 17
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Oh wow, a kitty litter scented birthing room- not fun!  I've gathered some nice soy/essential oil candles for labor/birth and placed them around tub and my bed so that's ready. My changing table was assembled today (never ordering from Pottery Barn again as they sent table a month ago unassembled and it sat in my living room until they got it together after 11 phones calls from me to send someone over here!!!) so I put the diapers away as well as the clothes in there but I have so many diapers they don't fit. Then I had been storing baby clothes in a basket and now they smell like cat urine because the cat must have peed at some point on the basket (not when clothes were in it) so I need to deal with that now LOL. At least my uterus feels calm/nothing happening.

Moving in late pregnancy would also make me want to wait as well! Well I hope us waiters get our wish- I wouldn't even mind going a week late or so.

post #10 of 17

I'm due on Saturday. I'm not in a rush, but I'm really excited to meet this baby. My DH is set to go on leave on the 1st for the whole month, and he has a PT test on Thursday so he'd rather the baby wait until after that. Then of course we're moving to Arizona on the 1st of August, so on the other hand if baby comes a little earlier it'll mean slightly more recovery time for me. I honestly didn't expect to have a baby before 39 weeks, I don't think I'll go past the 2nd though.

post #11 of 17
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Originally Posted by NuzzleNudge View Post

Oh Gawd Not Me!!! I am DONE DONE DONE! Get this Over With!

 

 I Have SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) And Am Constantly in Pain, Feels like my Pubic Bone is Broken, Can't Roll over in Bed, Can't sleep in any comfortable position, Can't put on my pants or underwear without my eyes crossing in agony. I am sick of being in Pain. I can barely Stand for any amount of time. I am Fatigued and breathing like a 700 pound asthmatic.



hug2.gifI also have SPD and I know exactly what you're talking about.  Rolling over in bed is insanely difficult!  On the plus side, I'ts given me lots of practice with breathing and pain-coping techniques... lol. Sometimes when I manage to get out of bed in the middle of the night to pee it takes every ounce of determination I have just to shuffle the three feet to the bathroom door!  Now I know what it's like to be 85 years old. :P

 

However, I'm not in a hurry to have the baby because it's my first!  I'm sure if I was already doing the mom thing I'd be ready to get on with my life.  Good luck!  Labor vibes, energy, and rest to you! goodvibes.gif

post #12 of 17

I'm trying to savor every moment of pregnancy.  Sometimes I wake up already tired, with a backache, like it's the end of the day instead of the beginning, but then I switch my thinking around to realize all these symptoms are meaningful and normal!  A pregnancy without discomfort would be no pregnancy at all!  I love watching my belly bulge out from baby's many parts. I love having two heartbeats and souls in my body... it's truly amazing!  I cannot wait to meet this daughter of mine, but I'm really enjoying being her home for now  :-) 

post #13 of 17
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Originally Posted by mamasmith View Post

I'm trying to savor every moment of pregnancy.  Sometimes I wake up already tired, with a backache, like it's the end of the day instead of the beginning, but then I switch my thinking around to realize all these symptoms are meaningful and normal!  A pregnancy without discomfort would be no pregnancy at all!  I love watching my belly bulge out from baby's many parts. I love having two heartbeats and souls in my body... it's truly amazing!  I cannot wait to meet this daughter of mine, but I'm really enjoying being her home for now  :-) 



yeahthat.gif  So sweet, mamasmith!!!!

post #14 of 17


This is so very true! It can be easy to lose sight of it but pregnancy is truly such a miraculous thing in and of itself. I think the discomfort we suffer now is necessary from a biological standpoint so that we can let go of our pregnancies and move into motherhood more easily, but I also think if you can still find some enjoyment at the end that it makes the post-partum period smoother as well.

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Originally Posted by mamasmith View Post

I'm trying to savor every moment of pregnancy.  Sometimes I wake up already tired, with a backache, like it's the end of the day instead of the beginning, but then I switch my thinking around to realize all these symptoms are meaningful and normal!  A pregnancy without discomfort would be no pregnancy at all!  I love watching my belly bulge out from baby's many parts. I love having two heartbeats and souls in my body... it's truly amazing!  I cannot wait to meet this daughter of mine, but I'm really enjoying being her home for now  :-) 



 

post #15 of 17
I've been hoping the whole time that this baby will come a few days late. My 40w edd is July 30 but I would much prefer and August birth. All of my kids came 1-2 days after their edds so it would be normal for me.
post #16 of 17
Thread Starter 

I'm savoring this pregnancy too which will most likely be my last  at my age(I said that last time though) and I've been lucky to have no discomfort aside from the initial nausea phase. My first pregnancy with twins came with all the discomforts (backache and swelling towards the end) so all my singleton pregnancies after that have been a piece of cake compared to that one!

 

 

Katie- you are getting so close!! This weekend you could be holding your baby in arms- so excited for you!

post #17 of 17

They've each had their own individual discomforts, I definitely enjoyed and savored my second pregnancy a whole lot more despite having MS with her. My first pregnancy definitely taught me how quickly it goes by and to enjoy that time. I've had a few nights of contractions so far but this baby seems very content to hang out for the time being, I'm starting to wonder if I'll have my first "overdue" baby lol.gif Usually once I start joking about that, they come.

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