I am hot or cold ... either I want it bad or not all. And the wanting it bad happens only once every few weeks ... poor hubby. Lately it is uncomfortable. I feel slightly swollen down there ... anyone else? I don't remember this when I was pregnant with dd although this time is different since there are two in there!! Yes, twins:)
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While intercourse is sex, not all sex is intercourse. Get creative with each other! For example , you can pleasure him with your hand or moulth and you feel zero desire f for orgasm but you still like his touch, he can pleasure you by giving you a full body massage. Actually, as I think of male physiology, get the massage first!
Great! DH always treats me like his goddess, but I actually feel like one when I am pregnant; sexy, round and full. Total fertility goddess. He loves all my curves and is not afraid to show me just how much. I do not have most of the same discomforts that a lot of women do so it is all good for me. Morning is best for me, too. But I am always that way. I am not so sleepy and worn out.
Yes! I do too. I asked DF if he noticed it and he said he didn't really feel any difference except that I'm uncomfortable in a lot more positions and he can tell when that happens. I don't remember the swelling from last time, but I was single so no one else was down there, haha.
Me too!! I honestly think the full bladder has something to do with it too.
Honestly, at first, it was GREAT. I don't know if it was the extra blood flow down there or what . . . but really, it was awesome. Now, I am 28 weeks and think we are at the point where it is uncomfortable. I always have a belly, but it isn't as smushable as it was ;) Need to get creative.
Morning would be awesome, or even DS's nap time. . . . but it really depends on where DS is sleeping at the time. We are really not out of bed sort of people. (especially pregnant!)
Morning is good for me also but dh is up at 5am for work and that's a bit *too* early(for me). We just make do when we can...if I lay in the bed and relax for awhile at night it's easier to get in the mood. This requires me going to bed a bit early. He is very hands-on, massages, housework, kids, and very open-minded and fun. It's worth it to attempt sex even when I don't feel like it.
I have noticed here lately I'm not able to even get in the mood as much, where before now it was constant. With my last pregnancy we had sex alot up until the very end. I hope it hasn't totally gone away!
And speaking of feeling swollen- this is the first pregnancy I've noticed that. I think the engorged feeling is what has made me so sex-crazy this time LOL
totally jealous. DH is not feeling it with me pregnant, which has surprised us both greatly and leaves me feeling like I want it more than ever! But when we do its so freaking awkward anyway...so not like us. weve always had a pretty amazing sex life and now its come to a screaming hault. POOP.
Makes me feel pretty bummed. he is super attentive in all the other good ways and Im so grateful for that but this one he seems totally freaked out on and he isnt someone who is bothered by bodily functions, blood or anything. Makes me feel pretty "special". Makes me want to make sure he is behind me for the birth in fear he will never want to have sex with me again if he sees the whole birth. I honestly expected him to see me as sexy and fertile and desirable it couldnt be further from the case. He tells me Im beautiful all the time but in one very long deep conversation he admitted that he doesnt find pregnancy sexy at all. It was pretty heartbreaking but Im glad we could talk about it. He felt pretty guilty about it and had been keeping it from me for a while. Again, all of this a total shocker for me. If anything, it's been a turn off and my sex drive took a dip too because Im not interested in pity sex. Im trying to make sure I dont dwell on it too much cause it always leads to dissapointment and me feeling not so great about myself. Ive gained 18lbs at 30 weeks, its not like I look at all that different. He looks at me like Im fragile and Im really not appreciating it at all. Sigh...
This is the boat I'm in! Sick for the first 5 months, and when I wasn't sick I was completely exhausted, I never did get the second trimester energy burst this time around. Now I'm huge and can barely get comfortable just lying in bed! At night it's heartburn, restless leg syndrome, and back pain from chasing a toddler all day, in the morning it's hip pain, shoulder pain and calf cramps. Plus this baby seems to move 24 hours a day, pretty sure she doesn't sleep, that's a bit of a distraction for me. Oh and no matter how much water I drink the Braxton Hicks do not seem to go away, can't imagine what sex would do to that, and not much desire to find out at this point. We talked about it though and agreed to regroup and start working on that part of our relationship again after the baby is born and things start to return to some form of normalcy.