All better! :)
Edited by 31rubies - 2/23/12 at 8:56pm
I don't think you did anything wrong. I've never retracted or washed my boys any other way then what you described doing. Wash like a finger - never retract. My DS 2 had swelling and discharge around 2 years old as well. I didn't bother to take him to the doc though. He didn't have a fever. I just gave him a bath or two each day with baking soda in the water for 2-3 days and it cleared up on it's own. It's never happened again and he's 4.5. Just because it's happened once doesn't mean it will again. I'd recommend reading this thread :
I don't know what caused the infection, but I think you could print a copy of how to care for an intact penis from a reputable website to show at any future doctor appointments. It amazes me how clueless American doctors are about.....well....a lot of things, actually.
I hope your baby feels better soon.
Someone once posted here that us mamas of intact boys need to remember that the foreskin/penis isn't going to be harmed by the slightest touch. I think when speaking of the touching of non-infants this is important to remember. Not to allow retracting of course but to perhaps sometimes allow a slight manipulation for medical care. My 11 month old will retract himself to the point I can see the tip of his glands. While I have no reason to retract him, if he had puss coming from his penis I think I'd be comfortable allowing the same level of retraction to occur so that the puss could escape.
All that said, there's no reason to mess with his penis and a swishing in warm clean water is all that's needed to clean it. I'd agree with your idea that the poopy diapers contributed to his infection.
As for anyone givng you the I Told You So...why share that he had an infection?
I was gonna say the same thing, and then I remembered that other people sometimes have their family members far more enmeshed in their lives than I do. What if the OP lives with relatives? Or relatives babysit frequently? They will see diaper changes on occasion, and presumably also see the obviously infected penis. A relative might have even driven the OP to the doctor.
If none of that is the case, then I would say....your child's health is nobody else's business.
I think you are right, there is an environmental problem contributing to his infection. Let him go diaperless as much as possible for a while. At age two, he should be able to assist with retraction. Have him retract so you can rinse with clear water might help. The advantage of having him retract is that when his foreskin reaches its limit of easy retraction the pain will cause him stop before any harm is done. As a refresher, see this webpage for general washing instructions.