Names: Gulp, none at ALL so far! We know we won't name the kid anything that rhymes with May (Kay, Jay, Faye, Ray), and no months (June, April, July...). Also, Fannie, Ginnie, and Sallie are all out, though DH jokes he likes the idea of naming a girl Sallie May, so that everyone will owe her money (we both still have student loans with our good friend Sallie). We have a bunch of library books out, but haven't even begun to discuss. However, we are leaning towards a more international name (DH has a West African name). Meaning is important, and for me, a name that is somewhat phonetic (spelling?) and easy to pronounce is essential. We need to get on that soon...
Why I'm becoming a midwife: Another story to this one! In addition to my own amazing mother, I've had the honor of being "mothered" by two other amazing women in my life. One, the mother of my two close childhood friends, is also a childbirth educator. I'd never really connected the two, but I'd grown up exposed to the birth world, which I thought was incredible and amazing. I'd put her in touch with multiple friends of mine who were pregnant or having breastfeeding issues etc, and she'd connected me to a family with twin newborns, whom I nanny'd for for a few years. I always assumed that she'd be involved in my births someday too (side note, when we were back in CO, she had a private class for DH and I on labor techniques- it was awesome).
Anyway, I went to a women's college and got a degree in Women's Studies, and just sort of assumed that I'd be working for some sort of non-profit helping women. After graduation though, I moved to NYC where I was astonished to realize that what with paying rent in Manhattan, student loans (see Sallie Mae, above), and my lack of a trust fund, I actually needed a real job! I somehow wound up on Wall Street (I'd gone to a Seven Sisters elite women's college, gotten good grades, and somehow got a 1510 on my SATs, which are honestly the reason I believe I was hired...) and began working my way up the corporate ladder. I started out as an admin and just kept getting more and more certifications, but I never felt like I belonged. So, my decision to leave NYC was a huge one, but it meant I had a fresh start and could assess on my own terms where I wanted to be. Midwifery was something I'd always been interested in, but never thought it was actually possible. But, I moved to Boston, got married to the most amazing man on the planet, and began a midwifery program to be a home-birth midwife. I'm still working "my dayjob", which is in "soft finance", but intend to leave permanantly after baby is born and then transfer full-time into birth work (I'm also a doula, and want to get certified this summer as a childbirth educator). I can't be full-on doing birth work with a 9-5 job though!
So, becoming a midwife seems like a big jump from working in finance, but it feels like I'm just going full-circle to where I always thought I would be- helping & empowering women (and families). I got pregnant during the course (they say every year a few women do), and I feel like becoming a mother myself is part of the process of becoming a midwife too (though certainly not essential). I am a huge fan of birth, and trust that God created us to birth babies- I trust in the process and normality of birth, and feel really strongly about supporting women to have loving, safe, and empowered birth experiences.
How many kids: Three of four. See Sallie Mae quips above. Honestly, our biggest current thought about the number of kids we have is college education. We intend to raise bright, intelligent & hardworking kids who get some good college scholarships... LOL.
Originally Posted by tutucrazy
Do you have any name(s) picked out for you LO? If so, are you willing to share?
What made you decide to become a MW?
How many children do you want to have?