Today, I was visited by my father, his wife, and my sister and brother. They live 1,000 miles away, and this is the first time I've ever met my brother, who just turned 5. The last time I saw my dad was when my son was born 2 years ago. They were in the area for a family reunion, which I did not make it to because I'm pregnant and wasn't feeling well. They came to my house today to visit and are flying back home tomorrow.
The only thing my father's wife said to me the entire time they were here was, "Do you have any paper plates?" She said it while her back was turned to me. She never once looked at me all day. I tried several times to start a conversation with her, and she either grunted or pretended not to hear me. She talked to my husband. She interacted with my son. But she treated me like I didn't even exist. They were here for maybe 4 or 5 hours. She complained the whole time that she wanted to leave to go to her brother's house.
I've never done anything to this woman. My dad moved halfway across the country with her when I was 5 years old, and I've seen her a handful of times in the past 20+ years. Every time I tried talking to my sister, she would call her away with some excuse, like I wasn't allowed to talk to her at all! I really don't get it, and the more I think about it, the more upset I get. Should I say something about it to my dad, or should I just let it go? Should I have said something while they were still here? Am I missing something, like have I threatened her in some way? She is acting like I'm another woman in my father's life, not his daughter. I'm just not sure how to handle this.