Originally Posted by philomom
DDC crashing to say "no deal". No baby should get cut. No mama should name a child a name she hates. If it were me, I'd say "nice try honey but the baby won't be cut no matter what its name".
I have told him this, I have to sign off at the hospital and no matter what, that ain't happening!!!
Originally Posted by mareseatoats
DF and I had such a hard time with this, too. He wouldn't, or couldn't hear anything that I said because he is cut, and he felt like I was shaming him or saying something was wrong with him (no matter how thoughtfully I presented the information). Circumcision was absolutely not something I was willing to compromise on, though. I really hoped he could hear me and come to the agreement with me that it would be best not to cut our baby, but that isn't going to happen. I finally proposed that I would take his name when we got married if this (and any future) baby could be uncircumsized. It was a trade I was willing to make. I don't think I would have in your situation, though. If there are names you both like then one of those should be chosen. I'm sorry you're having to deal with this, I know how hard it is. I think it's important to try and resolve it so no one feels resentful of it if possible, but more important is protecting your little boy.
This is his issue too, he's circed so he wants his son to be the same. For once he's being emotional, and I'm presenting all the rational arguments which is a very strange turn of events.
And he is willing to give me the name I like as a middle name, although I'd much rather have one of our backups as a full name.
More discussion is needed, but if you've seen my previous post on the subject, you'll realize this is a breakthrough as dh is now talking about the subject and even willing to entertain the idea of no circ.