I know the 'binky' is a bit taboo to some....at least it is to my father in law, who ALWAYS has something to say when DS asks for it. DH also has jumped on the binky hate bandwagon......which probably has a lot to do with his father's influence. Anytime we are around any family, they ALWAYS have to make a comment about how DS doesn't 'need that thing'. They act like he should be ashamed to have it in his mouth, and I don't want DS exposed to that anymore. I am so sick of the comments and disapproving looks from family and strangers, and the other moms who make it a point to say around me 'my kids never took the binky'. Grrr....
So, I don't know if I am trying to prematurely take away something that brings DS SOOOOO much comfort for unnecessary social pressure reasons, or if it is truly necessary. DS never took a binky until he was 9 months. DH and I introduced it to him because we thought it would help with car rides. And it did. DS took to the binky like it was his best friend and has been totally hooked ever since.
DS will be 3 in a week. And lately we have had some challenging behaviors to deal with. I hate to say it, but if we just give in and give him the binky during the day (we have been trying to give it only at night, naps, and car rides) he is SO much calmer.
I really don't know what to do. Is it REALLY all that evil? His dentist said his teeth and mouth are perfectly fine and we always use the orthodontic binkies He talks just fine with it and without it.
I know he is not going to be walking down the isle at his wedding with a binky in his mouth, so half of me says to just let him have it whenever he wants because it is so soothing to him, and then the other half of me says I need to take it away because no one around us approves of it.
He is so much calmer when he has it in his mouth. IDK.....what's the right answer here? This is not an 'end of the world' issue, but it sure feels like it considering how many people feel about it. And I have a total complex about it telling the difference between whether I am failing or succeeding with my child. How stupid I know!