I have been reading this thread for a few reasons ~ 1) I just gave birth 3 months ago to our second son and feel the need to read up again on vaxing issues as my oldest son is 5 1/2 years old and it has been some time since I made the decision to stop all vaccines (he was 4 months old when I decided). And 2) I recently had a run in with my minister and a few other friends regarding the HPV vaccine and it really hurt my feelings.
After reading this thread and after much discussion with another likeminded friend I have learned this ~ I made the decision to stop vaxing because it was the decision that sat right with my "mommy gut" and made me feel safest about my own children. I harbor no ill will or even fear of parents who have made the decision to vax. We all want the right to do for our children as we feel most comfortable. What I DO wish is that vaxing parents would "get" that there is good science out there on both sides (obviously I feel there is better science to not vaxing...or I should say there is lack of good science to compel me to vax). I do hate the ideas that I find common among vaxing parents that I am a religious zealot (I am not), an uneducated idiot that is not vaxing because I am afraid my child will be autistic (it is actually the least of my worries...I worry more about auto-immune disorders, allergies, asthma and cancer), or that I got all of my research from Wakefield's studies. I cannot COUNT the times parents have said to me "well you know Wakefield was a fraud" as if he was the absolute only study that spoke out against the dangers of vaxing. As soon as Wakefield is mentioned I do immediately note that I am not the one lacking in my research/studies regarding vaccines.
I see it this way ~ if vaccine companies need my children to be vaxed to have their "herd" immunity...then they should invest monies into all kinds of vaccine research instead of paying costly lobby panels to get laws written to protect them or propel their products. But alas it is a "for-profit" business and I am afraid those kinds of studies will greatly harm the bottomline...so instead the fear-mongering continues. I have learned now ~ after 5 1/2 years ~ that I do not share my non-vaxing status until I know I am in safe company (even if it is safe company among vaxing parents who understand my choice) and that a great deal of the vaxing community is afraid because pharmaceutical companies have put the fear into them...so truly it is not their fault!