Originally Posted by lifeguard
Is there a closer gym (I'm assumign at least some of the time is commuting). Is he showering at the gym as well, could he go already dressed & come home to shower? What sort of program is he following? Can he make some changes so that the workouts are shorter (ex. if he is weight training it can be pretty standard to do 3 sets of several exercises with a minute or more break between each set but we usually do supersets or giant sets where you do a couple exercises back to back with no rests - ups the workload & speeds up the workout.).
his gym is five minutes away. its actually in a mall, so some days towards the end of his workout, i take the kids to the mall and we play in the play area. he isnt following a program really, just doing some weights, some cardio, and he is taking some of their biking classes (not sure what thats called, but its a really fast past, group biking sort of thing.)
he is gone so long because he is doing this with friends, and they take turns and "spot" each other when doing weights and encourage each other when doing cardio, stuff like that. i think thats why he is doing so good. im not sure i want to take that away from him.
Originally Posted by Ttarail
First of all one form of cardio done correctly takes less then 25 minutes. Google peak 8, DR Mercola.com. Weight training at the gym oy home takes 20 minutes with 10-12 minutes of stretching. One form of proper weight training is with a high enough resistance, the weight or your own body weight going through the entire range of motion done super slow, the count of 10 going into the excersice, contracting and the count of 20 coming out, extending, should exhaust the mucle group so only 3-5 reps are needed. And thirdly if someone is working out in this way, cardio and resistance/weight training are to be done on different days for proper recovery. This is dueable, with a learning curve.
I'm a physical therapist. I have a former marathon surfer ,golfer dh. I excersice 5-6 days/week. I have a 6 yearr old and a babe on the way. Movement around, and Daddy kid time, and Mommy private time here has a higher priority then making dinner. The learning curve was long and took therapy and ultimatums, but the doormat thing finally had to come to an end. Chronic fatigue, fibromyalgia, depression and resentment were killing me.
whoa mama you know your stuff!
Originally Posted by crunchy_mommy
So maybe he could tweak his routine a bit so it takes less time (but equal results)?
Originally Posted by Birdie B.
Mine goes to the gym and takes our 2.5 year old. She loves it, and after I have this baby (due in 4 weeks!!) I'll start going again too. It is really a great option. I agree with the PP that maybe you could try getting them used to it? I was paranoid for a long time about leaving my daughter, and this is actually the first time we had ever dropped her off anywhere, with anyone other than us. She loves it! Plus, the child care center is right in the center of the gym, so we can go by and check on her anytime. They will call the parents if the baby is crying for more than a few minutes. Even if your little one nurses a lot, you could drop by in between cardio and weights or something like that for a nursing sesssion. I don't want to sound like I'm pressuring you, but I had similar concerns and it's worked out really well. It might be the same for you, but if not, totally disregard my advice.
But yes, a jogging stroller is a great option for you to get exercise without having to leave your kids anywhere. Good luck!
your post gives me hope! i really really *want* to leave my ds (the 2yr old,) i even would love for dh to take him, just so i could have alone time with my other ds, i just keep picturing his adorable little face looking around for me that first time and realizing that he is in a room full of strangers! :( bahhh. im sure he would have tons of fun, i just hate thinking he might have that "where is my mama?" moment.
so dramatic, i know.
Originally Posted by sanguine_speed
Does it have to be all or nothing? He does not need to go to the gym for hours five days a week to achieve good weight loss. If he has a lot to lose, as you say, diet change will make a huge difference. And yes, exercise is important, but it doesn't have to be at such a high cost to your family. Even Tuesday/Thursday/Saturday/Sunday is plenty if he must go to the gym.
yes it does have to be all or nothing. thats completely his personality. and boy, have we had some arguments over this quirk of his =D
and actually, we changed our diet about a year ago. i cook almost completely made from scratch meals *almost* everyday. lots of all natural, veggie friendly meals. thats what made us realize how important working out was. he had done a complete turn around on his diet and for a long time, and didnt lose a pound. thats why its so hard to know what to do right now. working out and keeping him positive is the only thing that has worked
Originally Posted by maciascl
What if he went straight to the gym after work and was home earlier to help put the kids to bed? Might save more time then going back and forth too.
yes! i want to try this soon...