Kids vaccinated without my consent - Page 3

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by sosurreal09 

IDK how much authority the GF really has here...I mean come on did he REALLY sign some paper saying she was allowed to take the kids in? Wouldn't you have to sign too? It is your kids....

My ex has never had to sign any paper approving any medical care (including vaccines) for my ds. Quite frankly, the doctors don't care and it's not their job to get in the middle of these arguments. As long as they have a parent approval (in this case, probably verbal from the gf saying the dad approved) then that's all they need.

[sosurreal09]

But it wasn't her ex it was his GF. So I could just send my DD to the Drs with a friend and she could perform any medical procedure she wanted on my kid?

[StephandOwen]

Originally Posted by sosurreal09 

But it wasn't her ex it was his GF. So I could just send my DD to the Drs with a friend and she could perform any medical procedure she wanted on my kid?

Pretty much, yeah. I could have sent my ds to the dr with my (now) dh (who is not the bio dad) and nobody would blink an eye. Lots of nannies take their charges to the dr for routine appointments, including getting vaccines. Do a quick search here and you'll find posts about grandparents who got the kids a vaccine without parental permission.

[sosurreal09]

WOW I am floored right now. I never thought that could happen! So if you signed a vax waiver are you all set then or did OP do that and her kids still got vaxed?

[StephandOwen]

That would depend on a) where the person took the kid to get vaccinated and b) how good your dr is. If you have something filed with your kiddos dr AND the dr agrees with it, I doubt he/she would vaccinate your kiddo without you specifically telling him/her to. But if you have something filed with your dr and the other person takes the kiddo to the health department or another doctor then that dr has no way of knowing you have an exemption and would probably vaccinate. I've heard stories of people taking kids across state lines to get him/her vaccinated without the parents consent before. It sucks, but it happens. Number 1 reason why my MIL will never ever be left alone with this baby. Among many other reasons, I don't trust her to not do something like that (and she's already mentioned that I need to pick a certain pediatrician because the office is close to her house and she's familiar with the area so she could take the baby. Guess which pediatrician we aren't picking?).

[TheGirls]

I bring my sons to the doctor by myself, and have since they were born.  They aren't my biokids (DP is the biomom for them) and I hadn't started adoption procedures yet, but the docs never had a problem with me making medical decisions for them. They'd have been thrilled to let me vax them.  I've never had to sign for vaxes for any of my kids (we are selective/delayed). 

[amnesiac]

In reviewing this thread, I see that several of the disrespectful posts I asked to be edited remain unedited. I will be sending PMs today and then I will remove any remaining posts that are unnecessarily rude and disrespectful tomorrow morning. Thanks for helping maintain a comfortable and respectful atmosphere.


ETA, thanks to everyone who edited any inflammatory or offensive comments from their posts. We appreciate you helping us to maintain a comfortable and respectful posting atmosphere. I did remove 2 posts by members who chose not to edit as requested.
Edited by amnesiac - 7/29/11 at 6:52am

[kathymuggle]

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[Honey693]

Originally Posted by miriam 

Your husband needs to take more responsibility for raising your children as a father and not pass his responsibilities off to his girlfriend.    

I am terribly sorry this happened to you as a mother.  That is just terrible.  Just the same, I hope they will continue to be healthy.

Why are you assuming the father isn't taking responsibility?  The gf could just have an easier schedule to work with so dad asked her to take the kids to the appointment b/c it's easier.  I always take my kids b/c my schedule is much easier to work around than my husband's.  That doesn't mean he's not involved in their care.  I'm just really annoyed by the fact that you seem to think this father is an irresponsible slack without knowing much about the situation.

[amma_mama]

Originally Posted by miriam 

Your husband needs to take more responsibility for raising your children as a father and not pass his responsibilities off to his girlfriend.    

I am terribly sorry this happened to you as a mother.  That is just terrible.  Just the same, I hope they will continue to be healthy.

Just because his legitimate medical choices are different than the OP (and you), there is no reason to presume that he is passing off his responsibilities. His belief in vaccinations is no less legitimate and is, perhaps, more so since he is the custodial parent. It is too bad that they cannot agree on vaccinations, but that does not make him irresponsible just because he had another trusted adult bring his child to a doctor's visit and carry out his directions.

[Cynthia Mosher]

Let's return the discussion to what the OP asked about - legal recourse. If you have more advice, knowledge or resources to share with her please do so but the side discussions should stop so the thread can stay on topic.  
 

Originally Posted by mamawrites612 

I have a 7 year old and a 4 year old daughter that I lost temporary custody of to my ex-husband. His girlfriend recently took my daughters to my family doctor and vaccinated my kids without my consent. I expressed my outrage to the clinic and got nothing but a letter showing what other vaxes they need--currently my 7-year-old has had 20 vaccinations, when I had a conscientious exemption on file with her school and the clinic knew my intentions. My ex-husband was working when the girls were taken to the doctor by his girlfriend and he claims it was legal because he gave her permission to take them to the doctor.

Is this true or do I have any legal recourse?

[CarrieMF]

So I could just send my DD to the Drs with a friend and she could perform any medical procedure she wanted on my kid?

For all we know the appointment was previously set up to include vaccines.  unless the GF had to sign a paper then nothing wrong has happened here.

If the Dad has legal custody to make medical appointments then the op has no legal case against him.