I went to an OB office for my very first appt with this pregnancy. I met with a woman I thought was a nurse practitioner (I found out by reading my chart she's a CNM). The appt was horrible, she told me that I needed to wean my 16 month old DD or risk miscarriage, she told me to sleep train my DD by letting her cry it out in a crib, she said the only way a baby doesn't sleep through the night after 6 months old is if they have "behavior problems". Needless to say, I never went back. Until tonight, I had been too lazy/scatterbrained to actually complain about her aside from mentioning it to the midwives I see at a different UCSD location.
Fast forward to tonight, I was looking through the copy of my chart I was given before our trip to London in April. I found her notes from my first appt:
Tamera is a new patient being seen today for her first obstetrical visit. She is at 13w1d by her LMP of 10/28/2010. This is her third pregnancy. The first was complicated by PROM @ 34 weeks. She was induced and had a healthy baby. The second was a term NSVD. Her husband just got out of the military and they just moved to San Diego. They are both students.
Pt is accompanied today by her husband and her 16 month old daughter, who is very restless. Pt states she is still breastfeeding. She was advised to wean her daughter ASAP. She states it is hard because her daughter still sleeps in bed with them and wakes up every 1-1 ½ hours and pt breastfeeds her to keep her quiet. I advised her to move her daughter to a crib ASAP. Pt states they plan to get a crib over the weekend.
They better be thanking their lucky starts that their office is closed right now and I can't go down there and slap her upside the head with some breastfeeding information. How the hell does she expect a 16 month old to act in a freaking doctors office? That's why I brought my husband to take care of her. I especially love the part where she says I only breastfeed my daughter at night to "keep her quiet" like I was co-sleeping and night nursing out of sheer laziness. I started writing a letter, maybe you ladies can give me some feedback:
To whom it may concern:
I had my first prenatal care visit at your office in January 2011. Based on my experience with Joan P. Laundy, I will never be returning. She is severely lacking knowledge about breastfeeding, especially during pregnancy. She also made rude and unnecessary comments about my daughter. You will see in the notes on my chart that she noted my daughter was restless during the appointment. She was acting in a way that was perfectly normal for a 16 month old toddler. Joan Laundy also took it upon herself to give me parenting advice based on her “time in pediatrics” and told me that the only reason my daughter would not be sleeping through the night is because she had behavior problems. I believe this is an ignorant and false assumption and had nothing to do with my prenatal appointment. She advised me to wean immediately and stated that I could miscarry my unborn baby if I continued to breastfeed. I’m genuinely concerned that her misinformation and bedside manner is a serious risk to women that come to her for care. I hope that you take my concerns seriously.
I really really want to find her and slap her right now! Ugh!