DP moved out on June 15th... feeling overwhelmed

[The Harpy]

It was amicable but I was the one who requested it. For the time being he has moved out and is sharing a bsmt suite with a friend from Church. We have "un" blended the family and I think it is going to be better in the long run right now.

DP has 3 kids, 14, 12, 8

I have 2 kids, 17 & 10

We have one DD, 21 months old.

DD is going back and forth happily. R and I are on "dating" mode right now but it is strained and there is a lot of hurt going on.

The split was due to finances (he haz none and it was getting to be too much) and his ex-wife who has boundary issues and I just could.not.deal.with.her a moment longer. :( After 2.5 yrs it was just too much and she smiles and hugs you as she crosses boundaries all over the place. In public and in private.

I am overwhelmed with figuring out finances (4 huge bills right now that are freaking me out and are not avoidable), I work 50 min away from home, DD goes to daycare close to home, juggling kids, summer holidays and trying to get enough sleep plus I work f/t M-F 7:30-4 (so 6:30-5 really)

Overwhelmed... it is huge. Last night I cried and went grocery shopping w/ my two DD"s and then precooked some meals to freeze. I need to just find a groove and then I will be ok I think.

[fiona2359]

Hugs. I am nearly in the same boat. I work 10 hour days + commute so that I have an extra day off. I am about to file for separation. It is overwhelming - the finances are scary, the single parenting is scary, the amount of housework and meal prep is scary.

I made a list of easy foods and for now that is what the kids eat. They pick for the week. I just can't cook at this time. We have a CSA share and I try to give it mostly away. It was one of the things that had to "give" in the schedule. I have been easing into this transition for 7 months and still feel many days that I am about to stop off the high dive.

I do think it will get better. You will find your groove. It will be easier. No one is on fire, there is no emergiency, the other stuff will get sorted out.

Best wishes.

[The Harpy]

Thanks so much. I am sorry you get the whole commute and long days thing. By the time I get home I have just enough energy to clean the kitchen up and make supper, feed the kids and get them into bed then I fall into bed myself.

The overwhelmed feeling is new and I hate it. :(