I found out 7 months ago that STBX was living with a girlfriend in another state (he is stationed there for the military). Since that time I have moved to full time work, saved money, consulted an attorney, moderated my responses to STBX when he is home once or twice a month, and just... tried to be very measured. I want this to be not horrible for the kids.
However, this weekend STBX noticed that I was upset. I've been visablly upset for 7 months but he has only just noticed. Until this weekend I'd always managed to get the kids to sleep in bed w/ him ("Oh they haven't seen you in so long they want to be w/ you.") However, Friday he managed to get them in their own beds and so I stayed upo really late and then went to bed in the guest room. At 4:00 am he came down all "Dont you love me anymore?" and sulking about. Which ended w/ "we need to talk later" since I was too sleepy to have a productive conversation.
Anyhow - late Saturday he asks me if I want to "fight for the marriage." I was evasive. I have no interest in fighting for a marriage with a self-aborbed adulterer who has picked-up multiple people, is living with his girlfriend, and takes absolutely no ownership for the problems our marriage has. I can't stand to be in the same room w/ him. Anyhow, the result of this was that it was hard to get him to leave on Sunday (he as a 6hour drive back to work) and he hs now emailing and calling all the time. He went 18 months w/o bothering to phone the kids and now it is some kind of emergency to him. He still thinks I don't know about his girlfriend. His latest brilliant plan is that he is going to drop out of the military and come back here *unemployeed* and fix it all.
Meanhile I have the papers nearly ready to go and a planned date of delivery. I just have to get though the next 6 days w/ o completly losing my shingles if you know what I mean, The more he badgers me about "fighting for the marriage" the closer I get to just cutting loose verbally, which is not in my best interest.
So ,..... HELP! Words of encouragement, something... tell me it is all going to be allright.