Is this considered CIO?

[mamika]

We have been a co-sleeping family for a couple years now and I recently noticed that DS2 (8.5 months) sleeps better in his crib than with us. I think our movement and the smell of me (BF) wakes him up. Anyway, I recently started putting him down in his crib with the idea that when he wakes up in the middle of the night I will then bring him into the bed. Surprisingly, if I put him down in his crib he will more or less sleep through the night. HOWEVER, he does wake a few times. Sometimes he just stirs and makes some sleepy noises and go back to sleep. Other times, he will cry. Its always a short cry, less than 30 seconds, and then he's back asleep. Due to exhaustion, I have been waiting to see if the cry is the 30 second cry or more before going to get him. If more, I always go get him or make DH :)

Am I letting him CIO by not responding to the brief cry?

Please be honest.

[clevelandmama]

My instinct is that it's not the same as CIO.  I would say you should go with your gut on this one - if it feels like he needs you, go to him (which it sounds like you are).

[MamieCole]

No. That is not CIO. 

[samstress]

Originally Posted by clevelandmama 

My instinct is that it's not the same as CIO.  I would say you should go with your gut on this one - if it feels like he needs you, go to him (which it sounds like you are).

you're doin' great mama!

[pauletoy]

I think that is a pretty normal sleep/wake cycle not CIO. The most important thing is how YOU feel about it. You are doing a great job!

[NiteNicole]

There is a difference between crying for someone to pick them up and crying/fussing because they're ticked off they're not asleep.  My daughter did both and you could certainly hear the difference!  For one thing, one lasted a LOT longer than 30 seconds and it escalated.  The other, she would fuss and root around, then be out again under a minute.  I think picking them up, comforting, or offering to feed when they're really just trying to comfortable probably disrupts their ability to get themselves back to sleep - and you do not want that.  Trust me.

[NANandAUBIE]

CIO advocates tell you to leave your baby to cry until they sleep, even if they vomit, do not go into them and do not pick them up. What you are doing is knowing your baby and his needs and anticipating how to soothe your lil guy. Your doing a great job mama. :)

[mamika]

Thank you EVERYONE! These are really great responses. I will continue to follow my instincts and when ds needs me I will be there, and when he doesn't I will sleep!! Hooray!