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post #181 of 641

oh wow, what a birth story ahope!!  one of the kids i was at high school with was born in a taxi, so i thought lilah was going to do the same!!  welcome to the world lilah (love the name!).  :)  afterpains are something i should probably warn dp about then, eh?

 

phew, what a baby rush these last few days!

 

gumshoe your daughter is ADORABLE.  :)

 

afu, crazy busy saturday visiting dp's family (great nephew turned one, nephew turned 19 (although he was off getting a tattoo so we didn't get to see him)) and dp's old school friend who was down from wisconsin.  her parents have a pool so it was a blast.  several other high school friends of dp showed up too, including the boy she dated in 4th grade...who is gay!  lol!  he's a sweetheart.  yesterday was catch up on chore day for me and since the boys didn't get much sleep on saturday they were overtired and driving me nuts.  poor dp threw up this morning although it seems the nausea is at least becoming manageable at this point.  fx for that.  we have an ob appt on wednesday.  ds2 is 18 months and he has a check-up tomorrow.  ds1 turns 4 in a couple of weeks!!  dp and i are taking off that day (it's her birthday too) and going to have a nice breakfast and see the harry potter movie.  :)

 

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post #182 of 641

Here is a link that should work for some photos we just got in the hospital room.  Please let me know if it doesn't work. 

 

 

 

 

post #183 of 641

Ahope, Yellow, and Pigirl CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!! Such beautiful (and hectic) stories and beautiful babies!!!!

 

It took me awhile to catch up around here theres been so much going on it really has been raining babies! LOL

 

I made it to12 weeks! My pregnancy is now public knowledge!

post #184 of 641

Wow, Amanda!  What a great story!  Lilah will love it, then be embarrassed by it, then embrace it, all in the span of her youth.  The pictures are spectacular.  You all look gorgeous.  Your dd looks utterly besotted!

Congratulations!

Welcome to the world, Lilah Nyx

post #185 of 641

CONGRATULATIONS to our wonderful new babies!!  Alice is super fussy (like, all the time...) so I have only a moment but I wanted to say WELCOME TO THE WORLD and hooray to our new moms!!

 

AHope~ Lilah Nyx, what a wonderful name for a fairy girl! And what a story!! Krazy!! And what gorgeous photos. SO happy!

 

PiGirl~ Quite a different story for you, and I'm so glad your boy's hear safe. Can't wait to see him and learn his name.

 

Love to everyone~ sorry I haven't time for more xoxoxo

post #186 of 641

Ahope-Wow what a birth story.

love the pics

 

Pigirl-Congrats!Cant wait to see pics.

 

 

post #187 of 641

Congrats Ahope and pigirl! I am so thrilled to hear that your babes are here safe and sound! Beautiful pics too!

 

Crystal--Glad to see you back! I've been wondering how you've been doing.

 

Library--Please tell me that you're getting some relief from the heat! It's been up and down in the Pacific NW. Hopefully you, DP and Alice are staying comfortable.

 

Indigo--Here's to hoping that DP's nausea will soon be gone for good! Sounds like you had a great weekend.

 

I'm woefully behind on other personals, so forgive me (plus I'm afraid to navigate off this page and risk losing the post). Thanks to all who continue to send me healing thoughts about dealing with m/s. Every time I think it's getting better, I get hit all over like a ton of bricks. I'm trying to stay upbeat, but it is seriously starting to break me down. I feel inspired when I see cute baby pictures though, so keep posting! Still haven't told our 3-year-old but am waiting to hit that 12 week mark.

post #188 of 641

Just thread crashing to say Congratualations AmandaHope on your newest addition Lilah Nyxjumpers.gif ...I soooo love her name. Irene (my DP) says congratulations and she is jealous of your beautiful baby...she loves her wavy hair and her super round head. Happy babymoon to you and your family! Congratulations again!!!

 

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post #189 of 641
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AmandaHope: Congratulations! Hooray! Welcome to the world Lilah! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif
That is quite a story. What an adventure! And what great pictures. It's so exciting that you're now a family of four!

Pigirl: Hooray! joy.gifjoy.gifjoy.gif I'm so glad that you had a great team to work with. Impressive pushing! I hope that you are now settled happily at home!

Mizyellow: What sweet pictures! I hope that nursing and everything else is continuing to go smoothly.

QMama: I'm sorry you're still having such a hard time with the morning sickness. I hope that it gets significantly better for you soon!

Crystal: Congratulations on 12 weeks! That's a fun milestone.

Indigo: It's exciting that you have so many birthdays and half-birthdays in your family around this time of year! I hope your OB appointment goes well.

Gumshoe: It sounds like things are going well. I'm glad that Addi is such a joy. What a cutie!

Seraf: Thanks for the link to Penniless Parenting. It was neat to read about why she likes living in a smaller space. She is amazingly frugal. While I agree that toilet paper is not a necessity, it is a luxury that I'm not likely to give up anytime soon. Are you thinking now that your little one is a girl?

Julietea: That sounds like a great weekend! How did the GTT go?

AFM: I'm suddenly having trouble with hip and lower back pain when I sleep. I guess my belly has gotten big enough that it is pulling me off balance? I'm experimenting with pillows, but I haven't found something that works well yet. It seems to help some when I do the DVD Prenatal Fitness Fix with Erin O'Brien, but I don't really want to be doing that at 5am--I want to be sleeping!

Hey, and when does the third trimester start anyway? I was thinking maybe 27 weeks, but I really don't know.
post #190 of 641
AmandaHope, yellow, pigirl wishing you all love, peace and joy this morning.

Mami, have you told the kids yet? Have you had another doctor visit since those blood tests?

Indigo, I would recommend a heads up. I had no warning about after pains. Mine were worse than labor last time (hence my obsessive intrest now).

Crystal, yay for 12 weeks!

Qmama, *hugs* the exhaustion will let up soon.

Escher , I have 1 more post than you! I think you're in the third trimester when pregnancy starts to make you sore. Lol, just like you're in the first trimester until the nausea lets up. Yeah, she is really frugal. I can sing some praises for doing away with toilet paper, but that's a rather personal choice (for the record, we have tp). I have no idea if I'm having a boy or girl. I say she because so many people call anyone of unknown sex "he.". You havin any feelings? I have had lots of girl dreams, but I have also been wrong with both the older kids.

Sara's sister said something about my only having 3 months left. I have more than that, but holy cow, not by much! I feel pretty good still. Just started sleeping with a pillow under one leg recently. I'm leaking milk more often (mmm wet shirt) but generally enjoying the pregnancy. We all play with the baby. She will prob be a lot less man-handled in a sling than in my belly. And even less so once she can fight back. We got our bed on the floor, which is nice because its making me move more and I'm more able to reach the flor than I was a week ago. It's hard to imagine that it Will cool off before the baby comes. I figured out my new sewing machine, so I have been sewing away. I don't seem to be finishing projects, but I sure am starting a lot!
post #191 of 641

AmandaHope and Pigirl - congrats to you both! And hooray for quiet and/or quick labors! How are you each settling in after a few days with a new little one?

 

Escher - I have one of those crazy pregnancy pillows that's shaped like a giant upside down U, and takes up almost 2/3 of the bed - but these days I can't imagine sleeping without it. 

 

QMama - I bet you'll feel better in a week or two. I think 11 weeks was my turning point. 

 

Crystal - congrats on 12 weeks! What are people making of your exciting news? 

 

AFM: Still pregnant. Doing crazy nesting things like making DP pull the dryer out from the basement wall so I can disassemble it and vacuum the lint from the inside. Midwife appt tomorrow, going to ask when we start things like acupuncture to get this show on the road. Family hits the road from MN on Friday and arrives in 9 days, baby or no baby. 

post #192 of 641

AmyPDX, looks like your next huh? People took my news really well. I posted it on FB and a few people texted me and DP and said, Is she really pregnant? My dad said Congratulations........ Are you really? A lot of people ask how. I felt kind of bad because 2 friends of mine posted on FB the day after about how they feel like everyone else is having babies but them and they want to. I figure they are thinking "Even the lesbian is pregnant". So I offered my fertility knowledge because turns out they are both trying with no luck.

 

Qmama- I'm glad your still chuggin along! You are almost to relief, you should be feeling better very soon.

 

Seraf- I call mine a she for that reason too. (And because I'm really hoping for a girl)

 

 

post #193 of 641

Good afternoon ladies,

Ahope: Oh my god she is lovely, as if DD#1. Those eyes! Your family looks so happy, I am so happy and proud for you. Hope everyone is settling in well.

 

Pigirl: Names? How are things in your neck of the woods?

 

Escher: Oh the lack of sleep in the last trimester, I honestly think it is more frustrating and awful than with a newborn. At least with a newborn you get to stare at a gorgeous face all night long while you aren't sleeping. Do you sleep with white noise?

 

Mami: Your pregnancy is moving right along, how are you feeling?

 

Amy: getting so close! You must be getting excited.

 

AFU: We are doing well, I have had a few uterine issues but other than that just enjoying my family. I am feeling pretty useless with Lennon but he is enjoying his bossie time so I am trying to just let them have fun together since she will be returning to work soon. Harrison is getting so fat already, he nurses like crazy and is quite demanding and vocal about it! I just can't stop staring at his lovely little face. And crying at his beauty. Ah hormones :)

post #194 of 641

Seraf- We do not shield our kids from anything in this world and they are equally a part of our decision making. They have been our strength through all of this. I was in the ER a few weeks ago (nothing major) and they asked us if we wanted to know the sex of the baby. We declined and are holding to that decision. We do however already own every neutral colored outfit and pajama there is. We did see the doctor today for the first time since the blood test and he finally gave me a copy of my medical record to take to the new doctor we have found. He did mention there were other tests we can do, such as an anatomy scan. Not sure if we plan on doing it because for the first time in a while we are at peace. How is Sara doing on her journey?

 

Mizyellow- I am feeling just fine aside from the fact that this baby is an expert in martial arts already. The baby is constantly moving and really likes to lay right behind my belly button. (Ouch!) DP finds it hilarious that even in my sleep I'm jumping around because the baby will not stay still. I think the only time it does sleep is when I am walking around. I did think that I was not gaining enough weight but according to the scale I stood on today I have gained 12 lbs. I think that sounds about right. We have made the decision to move into a bigger home and the move is scheduled for Saturday. Lucky for me all I have to do is supervise. We still believe that all the kids need their own space and are excited to decorate the nursery. Hope all is well with you, Harrison, DP, and Lennon.

post #195 of 641

ahope, what a beautiful family you have!!!  dd1 is stunning!  :)  love lilah too, what a cutie and all that hair.  :)

 

seraf, i let dp know.  she said it's ok she will deal with it.  :)

 

ds2 had his 18 month checkup today.  the ped has deployed a new computer system which isn't running smoothly yet, so we were there for 2hrs since everyone was running behind.  ugh.  and i was solo today because dp has a deadline.  anyways, he did great with the shots, hated being measured and weighed and pooped in his diaper while we were there (smart me brought a spare, plus wipes, plus a small wet bag from daycare, w00t!).  he continues to be a very.large.boy - height: 35.5" and weight: 30lbs 2oz. 

 

in other VERY exciting news, dp felt a kick from the outside this evening.  of course i was too far away to get in on the action but i'm hopeful i can catch one soon!  squeeeeee!  i first felt ds2 at 17w2d (yes, i have it written down, not that i'm a geek or anything, lol!).  our friend mom at daycare has her gender scan tomorrow and we can't wait to see what she's having.  :)

 

in daycare news, the state investigation has wrapped up and we are waiting for the official report.  the corp office of the daycare franchise got back in touch regarding our letter of complaint and the vp of our region wants to talk to me due to the "serious nature" of the issues.  i really hope our actions can improve things - i've talked to other parents (the majority of the people with kids are in my dept so i know most of them) and there are 7 others who are not happy with the way the daycare is being run and 5 do not plan to stay for the preschool room.

 

amypdx - all eyes are on you now!  :)

 

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post #196 of 641

Yahoo!!!!!! Welcome babies!!!

 

Pigirl... so many congratulations to you and yours! Ooch, spinal headache. I hope you're feeling better and in babymoon land. Amanda! Welcome Lilah Nyx! Love the name and the spelling. I hope you're all relishing these first few days and that your swift birth was all you desired. I'm so happy for both of your families.

post #197 of 641
Wow, Indigo ... dd weighs 29 lbs at 2.5 years! I thought she was pretty average? Can't say that I've been keeping track though.
And kudos to you for handling the pooplosion!

That's right, Amy ... All eyes on you!

AFM: at a cafe, supposed to be working on the next round of edits from my publisher. Fiddling with my iPhone and planning my labour playlist instead.
Pride is this weekend ... My mom is sleeping over so dp and I can to out with friends to dinner and then the after party for the Dyke March (day before pride).
Last chance to get out for a awhile! Dd and I are having an awesome summer with just the two of us while dp is at work ... Yesterday we went to a free outdoor concert from spectacular tribal trance DJ and his group, Ganga Giri, who i saw at Burning Man and we danced our butts off.
Not sleeping at all. Escher, we should set up middle of the night chat sessions!

More later! I should pretend to do these farty edits. So not into it.
post #198 of 641

Hi, everybody.  I feel so far behind on the thread!

 

Seraf: Thanks for your sweet words.  What a lovely way to wake up!  I'm glad you and the family are enjoying the pregnancy--that's wonderful. 

 

Crystal: Congratulations on 12 weeks!  That is fantastic, especially after an early loss.  What a relief!

 

Starling: I know exactly how you feel.  In the last few months, work got harder and harder.  And the labor planning seemed more and more inviting.  I'm grateful that we listened to at least a few songs of the play list before things got crazy on Sunday.  That concert sounds glorious, and it is great that you are getting such quality family time this summer before the family changes.

 

Amy: GOOD LUCK!  Wow--if you really want to get things moving, might I suggest castor oil and nipple stim with a pump?!  JK--no need to rush things along if you are feeling ok.  Your nesting is truly impressive.  I can't imagine disassembling appliances. ;-)  Remind us what your plans for the birth are?

 

Pigirl: CONGRATULATIONS!  I'm thrilled that your little guy arrived safely, that you and your midwives worked through what sounds like some difficult calls, and that you were able to get him out of there without surgery even though his position made it tough.  Pushing for hours must be exhausting to the bone.  Are you super sore?  Did you tear at all?  I had a few "skid marks" and did get two stitches, and I'm definitely feeling it, though not to the point of needing more than a few ibuprofin.  How is the nursing going?  I'm remembering today how shocking it was when my milk came in with my DD1.  I hope you are adjusting ok.

 

Yellow: We did it!  Brought second children into the world and our families in ways that felt right to us.  What differences are you noticing this time around?  It sounds like Harrison is a champion nurser.  I'd almost forgotten how intense it is when the milk comes in.  I thought mine was in yesterday...until I woke up in the middle of the night, rolled over, and practically fell out of bed from the weight of them.  SHEESH. Just when the belly (starts to) shrink, the bbs get monstrous.  Even my DD1 was shocked.  And Liliah can only nurse if I do a lot of compression, which isn't exactly relaxing...though I'm grateful that she is such a good nurser.  How are your nights going?  Our good sleep seems to start around 3am, when she settles in for at least 12 hours of sleeping and stirs only to nurse.  But in the wee hours, she gets gassy and fusses quite a bit.  Now that my milk is in and she is almost through the meconium, I'm hoping her digestion picks up.  She is usually so peaceful, though, and I experienced complete bliss when I put her in the Moby for the first time yesterday.  With her sleeping snuggled against my chest and sighing into my neck, I feel like I can do this--move her from inside to outside--without struggling with some of the anxiety and loss that I felt when DD1 was born.  It is amazing what a difference the births make.  Even though this one also ended up with some shock value, I did it on my terms in my body's own way without any of the feelings of helplessness that I felt when I was induced with DD1.  And there is not a shred of doubt in my mind that had I not had the exact midwives that I'd had, I would have had a repeat of DD1's birth this time around.  And this time I would have been even more devastated, because it was my last chance.  I am sorry that I didn't get to have a peaceful waterbirth (after two failed attempts), but I can let go of that much more easily than a repeat unwanted induction. 

 

If there is one piece of advice that I'd give every pregnant person, it is to choose your care providers with profound care, and switch if you need to.  Doing so was the best medically-related decision I ever made.

 

Whew--thanks for letting me process all of that!  I hope I'm not boring you all to tears. 

 

 

 

 

post #199 of 641
Amy, family might just be around for the birth, Eh?

Crystal, just out of curiosity, why do you prefer a girl?

Yellow, hope you feel better soon.

Mami, it's amazing how different they all are, I couldn't feel movement above my belly button until this week. My kids are shielded from plenty. Lol.

Indigo, he is a big boy! Ari is only 41 inches and she will be 6 in a few weeks.

Starling, what is on your labor playlist?

Hope you girls with new babies are doing well.

ETA, AmandaHope, reading about your days with your new family and baby brought me to tears, but they weren't boredom induced. I so loved snuggly babies in wraps.

Sara had an interview for a 3 - 3.5 month job. I'm very hopeful she gets it despite the fact that I could go into labor while she is working as far away as 2 hours I told the baby if she gets the job, I'm expecting the baby to come on the 4th in the evening, that would make it a Friday night and it would work well.
Edited by seraf - 7/27/11 at 11:31am
post #200 of 641

MizYellow: The crying--I've burst into tears several times already, and I'm just not someone who usually cries easily, so it is really disorienting.  Most of the tears are happiness, gratitude, etc, but I'm also getting super overstimulated and overwhelmed, especially by my in-laws.  They were just here for a lovely lunch that my mom made for DP's birthday today, and I barely kept it together.  I started crying the second the door closed behind them.  They  make small talk and chatter constantly, and I just want peace and quiet.  Ironically, given how desperate they are to help however they can, the one thing I need is the one thing they are constitutionally incapable of giving. I don't blame them, but how do I tell them to please leave us/me alone?  I'll talk with DP about it tomorrow--don't want to rain on her birthday parade when it is already so overshadowed by Liliah's birth.  

 

Seraf: Seeing babies in wraps was the one thing that made me sure that I needed to have another baby.  If my back holds out, I may be wearing this little girl for years.  YUM.  Exciting about Sara's possible job, but I'm really hoping you don't end up delivering the baby entirely on your own.  Even the strongest need a little help, no? 

 

Mami: I'm glad you've felt peaceful about the pregnancy and hope you can make that feeling last however you need to.

 

Ok--of for a nurse and nap. 

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