Hi, everyone. I finally have a few minutes to post.
Indigo: Hope the repeat u/s goes well and that they get to see what they want/need to see. Btw, what is the hold that worked better to relieve your DP's oversupply?
Isa: Glad you had a great time in NOLA despite the storm. Looking forward to seeing you next weekend!
Starling: Wow, you are close. I'm sorry to hear about the BP and looming threat of induction. At least you've gotten far enough that the baby should be well, though have your you and your midwives considered testing to see if her lungs are ready or whether to do the steroids? I hope you can hold off until next Sunday. The high risk ward doesn't sound very nice. I can understand your needing to do some thinking and mourning about the likely loss of the home birth. I think I had to do a bit of that myself. I'd always really wanted a home birth and wish that we'd taken the financial and emotional plunge and just had Lilah at home. I hope you can find peace with the birth that you get.
Escher: Definitely practice with the Moby. My favorite position is the cradle hold. As for your mom, if she isn't staying with you and IF you think she'll be able to be genuinely helpful (ie, do laundry, cook, clean, hold the baby even if s/he is crying, change diapers, withhold unsolicited advice, get what she needs for herself so you and DP don't have to play host, etc.), than two weeks might be great. My mom stayed with us for two weeks, and I wouldn't have wanted her to leave any earlier (but I was ready for her to go at two weeks). It really depends how she is with you and your family and how intense those emotional issues are. I found that I was incredibly sensitive emotionally in the first two weeks. Those hormones are NUTS. If having your mom around usually makes you feel vulnerable or upset rather than loved and supported, you may want to put off her visit for a few weeks.
Sara: Welcome to Q&P! So glad you are here. I wonder if you and Seraf are the first couple to be pregnant on this board at the same time. I still get heart palpitations thinking about it, but more power to both of you. I'm excited to follow along as your family grows so rapidly. And I'm glad to hear that you are enjoying your work right now. What a great feeling.
Library: Sounds like you have a good, workable feeding situation that you are at peace with. Glad to hear it. Your job sounds hard but quite amusing, too.
My parents and grandmother just left. As it turns out, it was a lovely visit, mostly because on Thursday night, Lilah started feeling much better! It is amazing. One week exactly after we started her on the new reflux meds (and also having reduced my milk supply with block nursing), she suddenly became so much happier! She also started smiling, which feels like the most beautiful thing I've ever seen. Since Thurs., she has done probably half the fussing/crying than she did before, and we can almost always help her calm down relatively quickly. My mom hasn't called her "challenging" since Thurs. afternoon (though you are right, Seraf, that it could be worse).
The miracle came on Friday night, during her official temple baby naming. It is a formal service (during which DP was also officially welcomed for having converted to Judaism--so it was a big deal all around). On the drive there, I gave her reflux meds and lots of gripe water, and she decided to suck on one of the pacifiers we'd tried without success before. When we got there, she fell asleep in my arms with no fussing at all and slept through most of the service. She woke up and started squirming before the part with her naming, but she took the pacifier and stayed calm during the naming. The naming was really moving--I spoke about her name, and how her middle name is after my grandpa who died in March. My grandma and father got all emotional. The lesbian mom rabbi was incredibly sweet and did a moving blessing for Lilah and for our whole family. It was also powerful to have DP's parents there helping her celebrate becoming officially Jewish, since for a long time, they were uncomfortable with that (though they never pressured her, to their credit). Finally, the service included two of my very favorite Hebrew songs and melodies which I had sung at my Bat Mitzvah when I was 13. The whole thing felt circular and connected and vulnerable in the best possible way. And Lilah made it easy for us by being calm and comfortable. I've rarely felt so relieved or thankful, and I'm hopeful that she'll stay more calm and comfortable from this point on. The change really is remarkable. She became much more interactive and much less fussy practically overnight. And her acne is almost gone, too!
Z: sense of adventure
That I won't be able to meet my work responsibilities this fall
That I'm too short-tempered with Z
That Lilah is feeling better!
That the weather is beautiful.
That Z is doing so well with Lilah.