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2EZ—Bump! And I love your shirt, too—very chic!

AHope—I’ve gotta say, this sleep pillow spray stuff does seem to be helping me—maybe it would give L a helping hand in nodding off? I just got it at the body shop, nothing special. I’ll let you give it a sniff this weekend and see what you think. It might not help, but it’ll be relaxing for you, at least! The one of both your girls together is precious!

Crystal—we’ve talked about doing that, too, but our insurance basically said that the only way they’d let us do that is if I couldn’t get pregnant with IVF using my own eggs (and then she could be my ‘donor’. I don’t know if we’ll ever try to push for that. They also said that since I’m at the IVF stage of things for future pregnancies anyway, that we could pay privately to retrieve DP’s eggs and that they’ll pay for the transfer and everything else associated. It’s about 7 grand, though, and I don’t know if we’d actually do it. I think we’re going to see how this one turns out and decide if she really wants one that’s biologically tied to her or not. My guess is that she’s going to feel that having her own bio-kid isn’t necessary, but I’m open to whatever she decides.

Seraf—more bumps! And your Halloween costume is hilarious! I’m personally hoping that I get a girl since most of the babies we know around here are boys—that way she and Lilah can be besties and when they grow up all of these cute little babies that we know now can take turns breaking each others’ hearts…

Library—sorry that you had to wheel around a princess-ride, but I’m glad it worked! Today is crisp and cold and bright and blue outside—just like fall! I’ve been getting some real cravings for cider and pumpkins and whatnot. I don’t think it’s pregnancy related, since I get like this every year!

AFM—things continue to be on the ups! We watched the premiere of Up All Night, which I thought was ok—I’d watch it again, but I don’t think I’ll be marking it out on my calendar or anything. The warm milk and sleep spray before bed definitely seem to be helping, as did having DP sit up in bed and read so I don’t get lonely. Two nights of decent sleep and I feel human again! I also told my boss yesterday about the baby—he said he’d already guessed but didn’t think it was appropriate to ask. But he was very sweet, and we had a little queer bonding time about life events since he and his long-term partner are getting married this weekend. Now I have to tell the rest of work, but that’s a lot less stressful.
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Jinxed myself.  DP just called from home and thinks Alice has a cold. Poor li'l biscuit.

 

Isa~ Very cool that your boss is queer!!!  Congrats to him and his partner as well. 

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 Hi all! Time for me to catch up on some personals!
 

2ez--Great photo! I cannot believe you are in the third tri already! Time is whizzing by!

 

Seraf--Love the funny belly pics! Are things getting crazy with two preggos, two kids, two babies on the way in one house? Must be exciting!

 

Sara--I hope you experience all of the best of the first tri and none of the yucky symptoms. How are you feeling these days?

 

Isa--I have a sneaking suspicion that you are nearing the end of the first tri (can't keep track without a signature line from yousmile.gif). Oh well, how the heck are you? All is well here--I thoroughly enjoyed the book you pointed out to me at Powell's when you were here. I finished it a few week ago and have since recommended it to another friend who is hooked too! Thanks for the great suggestion.

 

Starling-- I'm hoping, hoping you will get the birth that you want without the hassle of a hospital, monitoring, antibiotics and all of those shenanigans. All digits crossed especially for you!

 

Library--How is Alice? I hope she isn't coming down with something. Sending you strength and peace to keep breastfeeding as long as you feel is right for you.

 

Ahope--Love those beautiful sweet cheeks! Sorry to hear that Lilah is fussy. It is so frustrating to try and figure out what the triggers are for restlessness. I hope it gets easier soon, mama.

 

Crystal--Wow, can't wait to hear the news on the anatomy! How exciting for you and DP! Ours is on the 28th and I'm starting to get excited for it.

 

Omom--I'm sooo glad you're feeling better. I hope that til works its way out soon so that you're more comfortable.

 

AOTD from a few days ago: This is my last pregnancy and our last baby. If we had started earlier, I might have tried to go for three kids, but we are so happy and content with what we have now. We both think two children is a really good balance for our family. Also, I'm not sure I'd have the strength to endure another first trimester!

 

AFM: Better all the time...I do still feel firmly seated between the first and second trimesters even though I am 18 weeks and 1 day. I'd really love to enjoy a meal without feeling sick afterwards. I am still crossing my fingers that that will fade away. I am slightly less tired too. I went to an awesome prenatal water class the other night. It was fantastic. The best part is that it's in a warm pool. I had forgotten how nice it is to be surrounded by the energy of a other pregnant women.I dragged my best friend (33 wks) with me and despite her objections, she loved it too and now we having a standing Tuesday night date at the therapy pool. I'll have to start my prenatal yoga class again soon too. That's all from me for now.

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Hi all. Dropping back in to say hello. The other night I had a nice long post, full of personals and news, and my freakin' old as the hills mac failed me. Lost it all. Anyway, I haven't even had a chance to lurk lately. But, I'm catching up on everyone's news now. Work has been overwhelming as a head to toward maternity leave. I've got one last major deadline next week and then some breathing room. 

 

I hope everyone headed toward birth is doing wonderfully (Escher, Seref, Starling, others)... hope these last weeks are restful and satisfying. Thanks for sharing your newborn experiences, Library, Wehrli, Amanda, Yellow, others. Wishes for a comfortable and happy preggo time for everyone else. 

 

I'm 36 weeks now and feeling lots of energy... and not like this baby is coming out anytime soon. I think in the last couple of weeks I've lost any notion that it's actually possible to prepare for birth or parenthood before its here in any deep way. Read a lot of books, talked to a lot of people, and understand that I'm stepping into the void emotionally, physically, spiritually. And, that feels like a good place to be. 

 

Here's a shot from a little babymoon.

 

Sending happy, healthy wishes out to all of you. 

 

Babymoon.jpg

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Isa, I have seen lots of previews for that show.  Wasn't sure if it was anything worth watching.  Yay for telling the boss.  Why did he suspect?  And, all the cute babies can grow up to break each other's hearts pretty much regardless of gender, right?

 

Library, I hope she doesn't really have a cold.  Those are no fun.  Has your childcare situation worked out?

 

Qmama, things aren't really getting all that crazy (well, no crazier than usual).  The kids are as cute as ever.  All our homeschooling paperwork made it in on time.  Sara just got a new job that's got her away from home 5 days a week plus what she's picking up on the weekends at her old job, she's a busy girl and now rivaling me for forgetfulness.  I've been picking up  an extra day at my job, so I'm working 56 hours this week, 52 last week.  The kids are going on their 3rd (and final) camping trip in 3 weeks this weekend, and they're a little tired.  Went to bed at 8:15 last night and woke at 8 this morning.  Then we're going to Washington DC on Thursday.  I started tearing all the weeds from my neglected garden yesterday and harvested an overflowing 8 quart bucket of tomatoes, peppers, beans and popcorn (which is not ready, we tried to pop a cob and the house filled with smoke).   So, pretty normal end of summer. Getting ready for the colder weather, halloween and the first baby coming.  And I'm making pancakes.  I'm sorry to hear you're still feeling sick.  That really stinks. Are you finding out if you're having a girl or boy?  I know I was much sicker with my girl, but Starling was sicker with her boy, so it's not the indicator I always thought it was.

 

Julie, nice belly!  I can't believe you're already 36 weeks!  I agree that you really can't be prepared.  It is a wonderful adventure and all you can really do is get your tools together and head in the right place (and just forget all the rough spots later).

 

Things here are good.  I'm on my 3rd day off and feel like cooking.  We had chicken and dumplings last night.  I'm thinking sushi for lunch and sambar, chole and pakoras for supper.  Also might make some hummus for lunches tomorrow.  The weather is pretty cool here.  It's 62 in the house right now.  O asked when we are going to turn on the heat and I told him we should probably just put on sweatshirts and close the windows.  I think I'm going to try to find some looney tunes because O said, "You know at the beginning of some movies, there is a rabbit eating a carrot?"  And I was like, "Bugs Bunny?"  My poor sheltered children.  People ask when the baby is coming and I say "Right after Halloween." AND NOW THE PUMPKINS ARE OUT!!!

 

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Morning all~ Hooray for Friday! I am so excited to sleep in tomorrow! It's been cool and grey and rainy and that's the best way to sleep as far as I'm concerned. Alice is still a bit under the weather, but it's not TOO bad. Mostly she's snotty and congested, but she's had no fever or anything like that, which is very good.  I used my Nosefrieda Snotsucker last night for the first time and it was AMAZING! As soon as I got over the squeamishness and used it the first time I was so impressed with how well it unclogged her that I was perhaps overzealous in my constant snotsucking. But it kept her decongested, eh?  She slept like a li'l log last night all snugged up by me and is apparently asleep on DP even as I write this. Hope she snoozes all day.  We're supposed to go to the State Fair tomorrow. I hope she's well enough to ride in the stroller and see all the horses!

 

 

Seraf~ Yum!  Please feel free to come to my house and make all the dumplings and pekora you'd like!  Our childcare is going very well. DP takes care of Alice most of the time, and my chronically unemployed sister watches her twice a week while DP teaches.  I'm very happy Alice gets to stay at the house and with family.  My sis said that yesterday since A was feeling so poorly they just sat in the rocking chair and cuddled for three hours. Wonderful.

 

Qmama~ Your prenatal water class sounds really nice! I'm glad you dragged your friend along too. How wonderful/funny that you're both exactly the same amount of preggo. Thanks for the good wishes.

 

Juliet~ What a lovely photo. It's always nice to hear from you and I'm glad you're feeling so well.

 

 

Is it 3:00 yet?  How 'bout now?  Ready for my nap already. 

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Qmama—glad you liked it! She’s got another one out, too—I can’t remember if I’ve read it or not. If anyone else is interested the book is Having Faith by Sandra Steingraber. I’ve been meaning to re-read it since we saw it on the shelf, actually. Glad you’re feeling better! And bouncing around in a pool sounds lovely. I’ve been looking for prenatal fitness classes but I can’t really find much other than yoga.

Julietea—so cute! I’m glad you enjoyed your babymoon—where did you go? Not long now!

Seraf—oh, certainly. I expect they will—I just figure that one girl and four boys isn’t nearly as fun (for playing or dating) as a more mixed crowd, you know? He had me figured out because of all the doctor appointments. I’d been going to as many as I could early in the morning before work, but over the course of four months there were still some that had to be during the day and it was enough that he figured it had to be either TTC or a serious disease (and that he was pleased that it be the former, of course!)

Library—that snot thing terrifies me. I’ve already told my father that that can be his official grandparental role, since I don’t want to get anywhere near it. I do hear that it’s deeply satisfying in some really gross way, though. Enjoy the horsies!

AFM—finally caved and turned the heat on yesterday after being home and freezing all afternoon. Much better. I’m having terrible allergies, too, which makes me sad, since of course I can’t take anything to make it go away. Tea it is.
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Library, pakoras and dumplings are some of the easier things I make. I would be happy to send recipes. You know, for all your spare time

Working today. The family of the person I take care of is already missing m in advance. They offered to set up a room if I want to bring the baby to work with me.
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Seraf: I like your ticker!  That's sweet that the family of the person you take care of  wants to set up a room for the baby.  They must really love you and appreciate your care.  Your discussion of cooking makes me REALLY MISS COOKING.  I'll cook again someday, I know.  Here's a question: how the h*ll do the two of you work so much, travel/camp so much, AND home school?  I realize that home schooling leaves you with a more flexible schedule than conventional schooling, but you have no daytime child care, so how do you fit it all in? 

 

Isa: I turned on the heat, too.  Normally I'd tough it out, but I'm not going to make little Lilah freeze, you know?  I had to dig through the bins of clothes to find the fleece jammies.  They were a little big but so cute! 

 

QMama: So glad you found a water class.  I found out about one around here when I was 36 weeks pregnant, so I never went, but apparently people love them.  I enjoyed prenatal yoga, but bouncing in a pool with a bunch of preggo ladies sounds like even more fun.

 

Juliet: Lovely pic!  Wow--36 weeks already!  What are your plans for the birth?

 

Starling: HOW ARE YOU?

 

MizYellow: How are YOU?  And baby H?  DP? Lennon?  Work?

 

Library: How do you avoid getting the snot in your mouth?! I've heard that that thing works wonders, but THAT is my question.

 

AFM: I'm listening to a coyote chirping.  We have a big easement/set of ravines behind the house, and apparently coyotes are there sometimes.  This one is LOUD.  DP and Lilah are napping, and Z is out on a bike ride with a friend.  Wow.  So quiet.  I'm trying to decide if I have the guts/stamina to go to a friend's big birthday/housewarming party 40 minutes away tonight--by myself.  I'm tempted...but I might regret it.  I pumped 5 oz of milk this morning in 10 min from one breast (!) after not nursing L on that side all  night, so I could probably get away with it.  I'm letting DP nap for a long time so that she has the energy to deal with both girls tonight if I go, but I'm not sure *I* have the energy to do it (and to drive home--I won't be drinking much, but I am pretty tired).

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Just got out of a newborn class... I guess I now I know how I'm supposed to hold her, bathe her, decipher her cues, oye. :) We were the only queer family in the bunch but they kept the "Dads" to a minimum. 

 

Seref... you sound really busy, but able to make a ton of good food, and homeschool, and raise a bunch of kids. Yes, how is this done? Also, yum. I miss sushi like crazy. I love your ticker too. Simultaneous baby-making has been a topic of conversation on and off in our house (with DW more off about it and me a touch more on). Maybe for the new go around. 

 

By the way, Sara and Seref, being a board laggard for a couple of weeks, I didn't get the chance to say "YAAAAAHOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!! Congratulations, Sara and Seref!!!!" So darn awesome. 

 

Library, I hope your weekend is all you hoped it would be. It's amazing what a beacon Saturday and Sunday can be in a crazy work week, and I imagine more so post babe. Hope the state fair is a blast. I don't go in California... don't even know where/when our state fair is. I love them, though. In Michigan (where I was raised) it was more of a thing. 

 

Qmama, that water class sounds amazing! I'm tempted to look for one here for the next couple of weeks.

 

Prettyisa... what about eucalyptus or Olbas oil in the shower or tub? Would that help the congestion from your allergies? We just rented a little cabin in Russian River in Sonoma county. It's was really nice but the area is a bit of a mixed bag. There's a little queer country town there and it's fun to be on a hiking trail in the woods and see mostly queer folks, but there's also a bit of a drug culture in the surrounding area. So, it can be a little dark too. Anyway, we just huddled in our cabin and had a really sweet weekend together. 

 

Amanda, that is a bit of a haul for a party but maybe the setting and time to yourself with friends will be worth it. Just drive safe, not sleepy. We planning to birth at home. Early on our midwives suggested a doula since we're first-timers. But, we've shelled out so much money for their care ($5000!!), and for random other stuff. (I didn't realize how much I'd have to buy for a home birth. They gave us a big list recently. I'd have still done it because hospitals make me stressed and edgy, but holy cats.) So, anyway, we went looking for low cost doulas and, though we spoke to a lot of lovely folks, nothing seemed to fit. Pretty quickly we figured out that one or two midwives and an apprentice were about all the non-family/non-friend folks we wanted around. So, we've decided to have one of our closest friends read the Birth Partner and be here to help us out. We've got a tub coming in a couple of weeks and are, of course, hoping for a smooth ride. But, we're ready to try to be ok with whatever comes. 

 

QOTD... anyone done placenta encapsulation (either had it done or done it themselves). Any noticeable effect when taking it? 

 

 

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Julie ... Thanks for reminding me about placenta encapsulation!  I keep meaning to look into that.  Must do it soon, or not at all.  I ate some of my dd's placenta in a smoothie last time, but I'd prefer to encapsulate the whole darn thing this time.  Your weekend away sounds lovely. 

 

Seraf ... Love the ticker too!

 

Amanda ... Interested to hear what you decided about the party.  I'm too chickensh*t to be that far away from my babes. 

 

qmama ... That class sounds great!  And in WARM water ... lovely, lovely.  I go swimming with dd two times a week and I love it.  I think it's especially great for getting babies into LOA position. 

 

AFM:  Still managing to keep the pre-e on the other side of the doorstep.  I think the acupuncture is really helping.  She added cervical ripening and uterine toning to the regime the last time I was there.  Still aiming for the homebirth, but fully prepared to be in hospital.  The midwife is going to do a stretch and sweep this week, being that the baby is on the large side.  I've been having fairly consistent and increasingly painful braxton hicks, especially after sex or during nursing.  I actually timed them today while dd nursed ... every two minutes for a minute each.  Yowza!  And painful.  And I'm feeling tonnes of pressure between my legs, and lots of lower back pain, and today after the run of contractions I got a severe case of diarrhea and the shivers, which preceded my labour with dd.  Could go on for who knows how long.  I'm reluctant to purchase all the homebirth supplies when I figure I'll likely be in hospital, but I'm also of the mind that it doesn't take much to pop a baby out.  A friend gave me a bunch of homebirth stuff (hers ended in a transfer) and offered me use of their pool, but I can't decide if I want to set it up or not. 

 

 

 

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Julie ... Thanks for reminding me about placenta encapsulation!  I keep meaning to look into that.  Must do it soon, or not at all.  I ate some of my dd's placenta in a smoothie last time, but I'd prefer to encapsulate the whole darn thing this time.  Your weekend away sounds lovely. 


AFM:  Still managing to keep the pre-e on the other side of the doorstep.  I think the acupuncture is really helping.  She added cervical ripening and uterine toning to the regime the last time I was there.  Still aiming for the homebirth, but fully prepared to be in hospital.  The midwife is going to do a stretch and sweep this week, being that the baby is on the large side.  I've been having fairly consistent and increasingly painful braxton hicks, especially after sex or during nursing.  I actually timed them today while dd nursed ... every two minutes for a minute each.  Yowza!  And painful.  And I'm feeling tonnes of pressure between my legs, and lots of lower back pain, and today after the run of contractions I got a severe case of diarrhea and the shivers, which preceded my labour with dd.  Could go on for who knows how long.  I'm reluctant to purchase all the homebirth supplies when I figure I'll likely be in hospital, but I'm also of the mind that it doesn't take much to pop a baby out.  A friend gave me a bunch of homebirth stuff (hers ended in a transfer) and offered me use of their pool, but I can't decide if I want to set it up or not. 

 


Not sure who your doula is but Michelle Maclean (http://www.thedivinechild.ca/Site/Michelle.html) was mine for DD's birth and she dried and prepped mine as part of her doula fee. I bought capsules from Finlandia and did the rest myself.

 

Good luck!! I hope you get your home birth this time!

 

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Starling: Yikes--nice pre-labor signs!  Crossing my fingers and toes that you get your home birth after all. 

 

Juliet: I was tempted by placental encapsulation but chickened out because of the price.  I had some pretty intense baby blues, though, and wonder whether it might have helped.

 

AFM: I went to the party and it was great!  Everything lined up at home--both DP and Lilah got good afternoon naps, and Z was out with a friend's family having ice cream in the late evening.  Lilah has been taking a bottle of breastmilk from DP well, so I was covered there.  At any rate, it went really well.  I got dressed up and looked better than I have in many months, despite the squishy belly, and I got lots of flattering comments from friends, which felt great. I called a friend on the West coast and gossiped (hands free) on the way home, so I had no trouble staying awake.  DP did great with the girls, both of whom got to sleep relatively easily and not-too-late.  Lilah didn't even have much of a crying jag tonight and took the bottle easily, thank goodness.

Question: I had two drinks when I first got there, which leaves me wondering whether I should dump what I am currently pumping.  (I'm double pumping with a hands-free bra-thing for the first time, and boy is it efficient, if kind of dairy-cow-ish)  Any advice about whether milk pumped about 3 hours after having two drinks and a diet coke (gross but YUM) should be saved and used or thrown out? 

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AmandaHope, I guessed at your weight and put it into a blood alcohol calculator. It came back that if you weigh 145 (I have been told never to guess a woman's weight, but it's involved in calculation, perhaps you lost more baby weight than I would have, so you can go plug in your own numbers) 3 hours after 2 glasses of wine your blood alcohol level would be 0.012.  That's the same as it would be 1 minute after half a light beer.  I was going to say I would go ahead and use it, but then I was curious about what her blood alcohol level would be.  So I guessed at her weight.  I came up with, if she weighs 11 pounds and drank 5 oz of milk with an alcohol content of 0.012%, her blood alcohol level would be about 0.005.  So about half as intoxicated as you were when you pumped?  My math could be totally flawed or your weights could have been badly guessed.  But I would probably give it.  Possibly in the morning if I was concerned about the caffine in the diet coke.  Ok, looked that up, too.  Here's something about caffeine metabolism.  It looks like it could have been half way out of your system by the time you pumped.  I'm not sure what happens to the caffeine once it's pumped and in the fridge. Mmmmmm math in the morning.  

 

On the other question, I don't do it all.  I only got about half the cooking done that I wanted to.  Was going to finish up this morning, but Sara bought hummus last night so I'm skipping that one.  I really missed cooking all summer when I was so hot.  The kids are with me 50% of the time and with their Mama 50%.  We both work on homeschooling with them.  We have different subjects of interest that compliment one another well. Their Mama (from here on abbreviated TM) does a lot of reading, history, spelling, art and fire safety (yes, one of the required subjects to teach in Ohio).  Here we do more math, science, geography, health and wellness and first aid.   The kids don't have the same knowledge set as kids in school, but we only have to prove that they're learning, not that they're learning the same things as the public school teaches.  They have a much deeper understanding of certain subjects than their peers and less broad knowledge of certain other subjects.  They are curious, I mean, they're kids, it goes with the territory.  So basically we set them up with the tools and watch them go (yes, we are mostly unschoolers).  Osh is currently fascinated with the periodic table of elements, molecules, chemical reactions and electricity (oh, shoot, I need to order some LEDs so we can do some fun experiments).  Ari is less in love with science but very into anatomy and phisiology with everything surrounding the baby.  They can tell you more about how genes and the placenta work than most adults I know (man, I need to meet some cooler adults).  So yeah, we travel a lot, go to many museums, talk constantly about everything and go to the library regularly.  

 

Sara is better about cleaning than I am.  Poor thing is looking at a long trimester so I'm trying to pick up more slack.  We are both working like crazy right now, but that's not usually the case.  Until a couple of weeks ago Sara was lucky to work 16 hours a week.  I work really long days, so 42 hours is only 3 days (and those are the days the kids are with TM).  Once the baby comes we will both go down to bare bones at work.

 

Yeah, work loves the snot out of me, but I'm pretty sure that would go away quick if they knew I was a queer athiest.

 

Julie, I don't know anything about placenta encapsulation.  LOL.  My OB said people aren't allowed to take the placenta home from the hospital because someone did once and it was rumored that she ate it!  I laughed.  I had a few bites (cooked) after Osh was born.  I think I cried equally with both of them, but I thought the bawling I did after Osh was more related to the US invading Iraq (2 days after he was born) but now I'm not so sure.

 

Starling, my fingers are crossed for him to stay in just long enough!  I hope you are comfortable.  The damn BH are awful once your uterus is enormous, I totally feel you there.  

 

I'm ready to whine!  Last night and yesterday my whole abdomen is huge and hard and painful.  Not like painful like I need to see a doctor, but painful like, something to whine about.  Sore and tired of trying to hold in a kid who is trying to bust her way out in every direction at once.  And I have a cold.  And poor Sara is sick.  And we ran out of food for the spider and the rabbit and we have to go work on the Columbus house today because one of Sara's friends wants to rent it (YAY!!!) and move in next weekend, while we're out of town (AAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGG!!!!)  So much for a day off.  Today was the only day off between 4 14 hour days.  Ouch.  And Oh well.  I am taking a day off to go to DC, so I'm really only working 2 days next week and I'm about to go on vacation and meet Ms Escher.  All good things.  Except the sore belly.  Going to run out to the garden real quick and look for something tasty for Pip (and Aragog, if I'm lucky).

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Juliet--AOTD: we encapsulated DD''s placenta. Or more accurately, DP did it (I couldn't quite stomach the process). We learned about it at a natural baby fair and one of the midwives we met told us all about the benefits. The process sounded so simple that we knew we could do it for practically free instead of paying to have it done. The only costs to us were buying a bag of vegetarian capsules from Whole Foods and replacing the little electric coffee grinder which DP used to pulverize the placenta once it was dried (she didn't really want to serve drink or serve coffee to friends that might have dd's placenta bits in it!smile.gif). I made DP close the kitchen doors an asked her not to discuss the specifics with me while she was actually doing it. I do remember something about drying it on a cookie sheet in a low temp oven. As squeamish as I was about it, I did take the pills with no hesitation at all for a month or so (?, can't quite remember now) until I felt that I didn't need them anymore. We just kept them in the freezer and still have some which I plan on taking after I give birth this time.

 

I can't really say whether they worked or didn't--but I didn't have any PPD or anything, so I'm assuming they did something. If you want more specifics, I can have DP message you or post, just let me know.

 

AHope--Sounds like a great night. It's so nice to get out of the house after the kids have had a good day and not feel any guilt about leaving a fussy baby.  So glad you got out and had a nice time! I'm jealous of the phone call too! I feel like I never have time any more to just sit down and have a good old-fashioned phone conversation...

 

Seraf--I hope you're able to get some rest--sounds like an incredibly busy week! Sorry to hear that Sara is sick too, that's no fun.

 

Starling--Sounds like you're having some good pre-labor symptoms! I'll be thinking about you this week!

 

AFM-- I woke up in the middle of the night with a raging sore throat and I've been sneezing all morning. I feel yucky. We had a really weird change in weather here. 90+ degrees for over a week and then overnight down into the high 60's for a week. Fall is definitely here. I hope I feel good enough by Tuesday night to get back to my prenatal water class. I have a sneaking suspicion that tomorrow I'll have to call in sick though. Fortunately with this pregnancy, I'll have plenty of leave to take my 12 weeks and still have time left over even if I have to take some sick days here and there until then! In other good news, I started feel the baby move last night! I'm pretty excited and am looking forward to the movement being strong enough that DP and DD can feel it.

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Happy Monday all :)

 

Library - how is Alice feeling? Better I hope. And confession. My DD has a disney princess swimming pool. Bright pink with all the princesses and flowers and diamonds all over it. Makes me a little pukey - but she loves it. Somehow my butch wife and I birthed a little princess fashionista  :) She keeps painting her toe nails with markers in protest of me not having, wearing or buying her nail polish. She wants all the things I ran away from as a kid. My mom says thats karma... :) Hope all is well - and a huge congrats for the hard work you and DP have been doing around sleep and BFing Alice. I've been thinking of you all.

 

Starling - how are you feeling? how are preparations going? :)

 

Sara - good luck as you keep trudging through the 1st trimester :) Yes, we will find out the sex - but we tell everyone we didn't (we did this with DD). We actually managed to keep the secret the whole way - and hope to do it again. It was nice to have a 'secret' and to have some more info about the baby, and it was nice not to have gendered pressure and stuff from others. Girls are rare in our fam - so we knew there would be way too much crap if we told people before hand.

 

2ez - you look great! 28 weeks! Wow, time is flying. I remember when you got your bfp - doesn't seem that long ago at all! How are you feeling? What do I have to look forward to??? :)

 

Amanda - those pics are so sweet. Your LOs look so cuddly together!

 

Crystal - how was the scan?

 

Isa - how are you feeling? I use homeopathic stuff for allergies, and they do work. I use a combined allergy/hayfever preparation - and I have some individual pellets for various symptoms (itchy eyes, congestion). It has helped alot. I also use a neti pot for congestion (I just started in pregnancy because they freaked me out, but seriously - they are worth it and don't hurt at all). And hot showers, etc... Hopefully this ragweed will be finished soon.

 

q mama - hope you are feeling better. I also felt the baby move this week! I'm also excited for when my DP can feel it. with our DD we were luck and it was almost simultanious that we could both feel. This one is still too little for her to feel, but soon I hope. Prenatal yoga and your water class sound awesome. You've inspired me to get looking locally. hope your nausea keeps fading fast.

 

julie - love the picture so much. beautiful :)

 

 

AFM - my bladder is free. My uterus has popped and I no longer have any issues. Thank God. Waking up every 2 hours was hard. I'm also watching DD full time and working part time at night and during her nap, so it was tiring and I became the biggest bummer mom. I have never let my monkey watch so many DVDs. She loved it and has been understanding. I made her playdoh and that helped too. BUt still. I'm happy to be feeling good again.

 

Started to feel baby move last week. I think because things were so cramped it made it easier (i was only 14 weeks). such a reassuring feeling!!!

 

 

 

 

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Good Morning all~

 

Krazy weekend!!!  My mother's house caught fire Friday evening, so instead of going to the fair, we helped pick through the remains of the attic and washed all my sister/bro-in-law/nephew's clothing which stank like smoke and melted styrofoam ceiling tiles.  The fire started in the faulty wiring of an ancient attic fan and while the whole thing was not nearly as bad as it could have been, the house isn't habitable and will have to have extensive renovations before they can move back in. Mostly it was just terrifying.  So yeah, that was our surprise weekend.  We're going to try for the Fair next week.

 

Starling~ It does sound like you're getting really close!  I hope you get the homebirth you want, for sure. You do seem to be managing to stay just this side of trouble, so I certainly hope it continues. Everything crossed for you! 

 

 

AHope~ HOORAY! I'm so proud of you for taking the evening for yourself and going to the party, and I'm glad you were rewarded with success all around. I forget that sometimes we need a moment to ourselves (like when Alice naps and I should nap but instead I try desperately to catch up with housework...)  I'm SO IMPRESSED with your five ounces from one breast in ten minutes. It takes me half an hour to pump one ounce sometimes! Great job!

 

Seraf~ I'm in favor of teaching fire safety!!  What an odd state requirement, though.  I'm sorry you're in pain. It gets so uncomfortable sometimes, eh?  I remember how much my hands hurt all the time at the very end. Interesting bodies. 

 

 

Qmama~ Sorry about the cold, but I'm happy you can feel your baby moving now! SO amazing. I miss that feeling, and miss rubbing her little butt as it made a bump on the side of my tummy.

 

 

OMOM~ I'm cracking up about your princess pool!  I'm thinking that since I'd actually be fine with dressing up and toenail polish etc, Alice is going to be super sporty or outdoorsy or something. Believe me, it'll be much more of a 'hardship' for me to take her on camping trips than it would for me to get mani-pedis!!  But I guess that's one of the exciting things about kiddos, eh?  Seeing who they grow up to be.

 

Isa (and AHope) ~ The snotsucker is really good, very useful, and the snot does not get anywhere near your mouth. When I first looked at it, I imagined it being like a siphon, where you suck and the snot comes shooting into the tube. BUT the reality is that when you stick the tube end in the baby's nose and suck, the snot only goes into the very tip of the tube. There's a filter in place as well, but the snot never even goes anywhere near the filter. It was a leap of faith the first time I did it and I just steeled myself to have the grossest moment of my life, but the moment I did it and saw how very little of the tube got snotty I was converted. 

 

 

AFM~ Well, after the fire the rest of the weekend was anticlimactic. Alice's cold is fine now. She never even had a fever, was just snotty and fussy, and now she's fine. Looking forward to our afternoon walk (and more smoky clothes washing).

 

 

 

 

 

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Q, yay for movement! Yay for a freed up bladder!

OMOM, yay for movement for you, too!

Library, not the kind of exciting weekend anyone wants! I totally agree that fire safety is important, I think it's funny that it's a curriculum requirement... unless it's against our sincerely held religious beliefs. You know what might really improve your princess stroller? A few of those stick on mustaches. Choking hazard you say?

AFM, I felt miserable last night after working on the house all day. My back hurt so bad I had to ask Sara to drive. Well, after a terrible night sleep I feel much much better. Mom and Sara are going to work on the floor some more and even if this guy doesn't want to rent it, it's ready, which makes life much better. I am hoping to sleep tonight!
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Julietea—I’ll definitely give it a try! I have a neti pot, but I’ve been avoiding it for some reason. I think oils in the tub might be more manageable. My friend had hers encapsulated (it was part of the doula package) and I think it helped—in her case depression runs pretty deep in the family and she didn’t want to take any chances.

Starling—Fingers crossed that things continue to go well on the pre-e front! And it sounds like that baby is gearing up to get here soon!

Seraf—I’m sorry you feel so crappy—glad the sleep helped, though! You’re reminding me of how much we have been ignoring our rental apartment—there’s not that much left to get it ready for a new tenant, I’ve just been preoccupied with other things and haven’t wanted to bother. Time to start, though! No one wants to move in in winter.

Qmama—glad you have plenty of sick time to use—it sounds like a good time to use it! Your placenta-in-the-freezer reminds me a little bit of a friend in high school. Whenever a pet died in the winter the family wrapped it carefully, labeled it, and put it in their chest freezer so they could bury it in the spring. It was scary going in there looking for snacks because you never really knew what you were going to come across…

OMOM—Yay for being able to pee again! I would love to be able to find out the sex and keep it a secret. But DP has a big, fat mouth and within minutes everyone she’s ever worked with/slept with/eaten lunch with would know all about it, so if I want it to be a secret until the kid shows up it’s going to have to be a real secret from both of us.

Library—so glad everyone at your mom’s house is ok! Fire is so scary! There seems to be more of it going around lately—or maybe I’m just noticing it. But there have been two fires in fairly swanky parts of the city in the last month. Perhaps Armageddon is nearer than we realize…

AFM—feeling pretty great today! We had a little queer mama party at our house yesterday and got to see Ahope and her lovely family and Wehrli and her charmer of a son! Plus Mrs PP and some of the blog ladies that I’ve gotten to know in the area. There were four babies, one (bored—I’m sorry! I should have warned you guys) elementary aged kid, and lots and lots of mamas! It was nice to be able to see everyone in one place and talk about things and catch up. Of course the highlight for me was getting to hold all the little babies all afternoon! The one weird thing I noticed is that when all of the babies were crying to be nursed I got these weird pains in my nipples (didn’t share at the party because it seemed strange to mention). I wonder if the plumbing has gotten all hooked up and practicing for crying babies in the future or something?
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I'm just lucky, Library.  I had a really hard time pumping with Z, but for better and for worse (since L is still gulping air during letdown and crying in pain during nursing at times), I just have more milk this time, and the biggest difference is that it lets down for the pump.  I had much slower/harder letdown last time around.  Part of it might be the pump--I use that "let-down button"  (with the slower speed and higher suction) the whole time on the Medela PIS advanced, and it works well.  It is a relief to be able to pump relatively easily, though; I feel your pain at working the pump for 30 min to get an ounce--I did that last time around, and it sucks.  But then your little one gets her ounce of liquid gold. 

 

More importantly, I'm SO GLAD that your mother is ok!  How terribly frightening.  Hope you get to enjoy the fair next weekend. 
 

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Good Morning all~

 

Krazy weekend!!!  My mother's house caught fire Friday evening, so instead of going to the fair, we helped pick through the remains of the attic and washed all my sister/bro-in-law/nephew's clothing which stank like smoke and melted styrofoam ceiling tiles.  The fire started in the faulty wiring of an ancient attic fan and while the whole thing was not nearly as bad as it could have been, the house isn't habitable and will have to have extensive renovations before they can move back in. Mostly it was just terrifying.  So yeah, that was our surprise weekend.  We're going to try for the Fair next week.

 


 

AHope~ HOORAY! I'm so proud of you for taking the evening for yourself and going to the party, and I'm glad you were rewarded with success all around. I forget that sometimes we need a moment to ourselves (like when Alice naps and I should nap but instead I try desperately to catch up with housework...)  I'm SO IMPRESSED with your five ounces from one breast in ten minutes. It takes me half an hour to pump one ounce sometimes! Great job!

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