I have a 3 year old who is still an active and very attached nurser no where near ready to give it up. I am very comfortable nursing her. My husband and I are both very happy to meet our daughter's needs to the best of our ability to include nursing - at this point in her life still an integral part of her well-being. Whether she is tired, sick, upset, overwhelmed, or just wants to snuggle, nursing has always been her safe and cozy place, a place where she feels connected and can recharge. Now that she is three however we are debating the timing of a second child and this leads me to many, many questions and I worry about what the effects may be on my daughter.
I have done some reading on the subject and am aware that my milk supply may diminish, breastfeeding may become painful and uncomfortable, and that tandem nursing, even with the best of intentions, is not always easy. I know my husband and I theoretically are ready to have another but I am not sure how that decision may affect her. My questions regarding this subject are:
How did you know you were ready for another despite your still dependent and frequently nursing toddler? How did becoming pregnant while nursing affect your relationship with you nursling? How did your nursling handle the changes? I know she will adjust to whatever the future holds and that children are more resilient than what we sometimes think, especially if we make an effort at explaining transitions as they arise, but I wonder whether now is the right time or whether it is better to wait until we see a clear sign of her not depending on the nursing as much, whenever that may be. Any advice would be much appreciated :)