first time posting here. We have babysitter that approached us about becoming a live-in nanny for us while my husband is attending college 70 miles away 4-5 days a week. He is home every weekend and many Fridays, but our family time is limited since I work 3 days a week also. Our income has decreased by about a third and having the nanny is actually less expensive than paying our other sitters to come to the house while I work.
We have three children 7 1/2 DS, almost 5 DD and almost 2 DD. The oldest is homeschooled. We have never done daycare and have been blessed to have christian friends willing to come to our home most of the time to babysit (7 1/2 years of this). I earn decent money and carry the health insurance for the family.
I liked the idea of the live in nanny because she was also homeschooled, connects well with the children (she has limited experience with children, but is open to doing things our way, she's 34 years old) and I wouldn't have to hassle with scheduling sitters, that gets hairy sometimes.
Things have worked out good for the most part. She watches the children 2 1/2 to 3 days a week, day shift, feeds them, supper for us when I get home some of the time, rarely does our laundry, rarely does any housework. She is neat, pleasant, not intrusive into our family space. She has use of the car when my husband is home with it, 3 days a week. She has twelve weeks of time off in a year (all the time my husband is on school breaks). She has environmental sensitivities so we have replaced all chemicals, detergents, soaps, with fragrance free. She is also an organic girl, so that is new for us.
A big thing I wasn't expecting is that her sister has ended up living here as well. She is slightly disabled physically and they are very close. It started out as a short visit and now she has been here more than not. She is also pleasant, neat and loves the children. Of course, now there are two of them to feed. Their parents do provide some of the specialized food that we cannot get around here.
One drawback, of course is that there is no longer any family privacy. I have my children babysat when I need it (3 days a week) but 24/7 my home is no longer mine.
The financials work out like this sort of $.7.oo per hour, 9 hours per day, 12 days per month. $760.
400 room and utilities, unlimited phone and computer access, phone in her
own room, private room and bathroom upstairs
100 food ,being very conservative on this (remember there are two of them)
50 use of car, either my husbands or if he is not here and she needs it she
uses the van, we provide all gas unless she is going on a vacation trip
$260 is what we would owe her monthly using these figures. We actually pay her arount $200 per month and end up buying some of her supplements, Did I mention that her health is not good? adrenal issues with exhaustion, limited physical capacity to do anything extra, lots of naps on days off. I would be willing to try hard to cough up some more $ if I was getting some more household help. I envisioned spending more time with my children while we split the household duties.
She has a 5 week period of time off coming up and will be taking our car all over the countryside with her gas $. My husband will put his diesel truck back on insurance to use during that time. Is is unreasonable to expect her or her parents to pay for the extra insurance premiums this will cost? The car will be put on full coverage while it is out of state. Her parents did offer to help pay for the extra food expense of having the sister staying with us. Her parents living situation is quite unstable,and that is one reason the sister wants to stay at our house.
Any thought on the fairness of this situation to both sides. Just looking for another perspective, maybe from people who have had a live in nanny. We like her and she is happy, so not looking to change anything in a big way.