Originally Posted by squidink
This morning we decided on a girl's name! We haven't decided on the spelling though. It's a Nordic first name and if we use the traditional spelling, it might be confusing for Americans to pronounce. I imagine it's a PITA to go through life correcting people on how your name is spelled and pronounced, so even though we'd like to acknowledge our Nordic heritage, we're considering a more Anglicized spelling.
Also, I had my 14 week appt with the hospital midwives. I'm getting shadow care in case I have to transfer during my pregnancy. My appt this morning just underlined how much more I like the HB midwife's approach and style. She and I actually talk, but I feel rushed through the system at the hospital midwives appointments. I brought up my concern with my history of an eating disorder and my fear of gaining too much weight, and the nurse midwife was basically like "you're in the healthy range of weight gain." Well, I know that. Unfortunately, logic and rationality don't have a lot of bearing on how I deal with habitual ED stuff.
In any event, I heard the heartbeat with the doppler! My smidge swam away from it after a few seconds, so I'm assuming it didn't appreciate it & I won't be using the doppler again, but it was so cool to hear it!
Are you going to reveal the name? I think many Nordic girl-names sound sooo lyrical and feminine.
OAN: One of the midwives I don't normally see calls me on the phone a few minutes ago in regard to the "centering" style appointment I have tomorrow. I have been seeing another midwife one-on-one, but decided to give the group-style appointments a try. I think she called during a hormone surge, but...
1. Her voice had a decidedly GRUMPY tone.
2. She wanted to know if my regular midwife called to let me know that my mandatory(big baby) first trimester glucose test was high(cut-off is 135, mine was 140). I said no, and she got all huffy and told me I was in serious danger.
3. She then demands that I HAVE to take the three-hour test tomorrow before the centering appointment.
4. Her next demand is that I MUST bring hubby along to the appointment. Meaning an absolute rush to find a sitter/enroll him in daycare. DS doesn't do well in large groups, nor does he enjoy strangers in his home/going to a stranger's house. DH is a soldier and is already going to have to take the morning off ...it would frowned upon and HARD for him to take off most of the day.
5. DS was whining (hungry) and the midwife heard it over the phone, "Someone needs a nap." NO. He needs some grapes and an activity. You need a nap, grumpy lady.
So...I've had two one-on-one appointments with one midwife. She's been kind, responsive, and listens well. No, she didn't call to let me know my glucose was five points beyond the cut-off. Maybe it's not that big of a deal(?). The same midwife encouraged me to try the centering style appointments. She referred to it as "Pregnant Ladies Anonymous" and it'll be all women due in January. What she neglected to tell me was that it's with a different midwife and it will take the place of one-on-one visits. Do I tell the grumpy midwife to shove it? Or do I give it a go? I'm an LPN and have access to everything I need to do the three hour test in my own home, but then the midwives at the hospital won't have the results. Also, I'd have to change insurance to change hospitals and DH's insurance REFUSES to cover anything other than a hospital/hospital-affiliated birth center birth. And we don't have the $2500 -$3000 for a home birth. The other problem with home birth or even a UBAC is that I have no idea how my internal incision is positioned and that makes a difference for me and many health-care providers. I've requested a copy of my medical records from Germany, but they can take 90 days to get to me.
Rant over, thanks for listening :)