I am wondering if this is just a gender issue, or if I could be trying something different, or other maybe good ideas people here might have.
With my daughter, she was willing to try anything. She also came up with a lot of her own stuff. But I could come across a fun craft online and introduce her to it and it led to months of doing a variety of things. When we read books on Colonial Times, she made her own costume from stuff she had and paper too, and whatever else to be like the colonial days. She also tried to grow her own garden, and whatever else to be like those days. My son, who is 17 months older than her, would come along and do stuff with us without complaints so no issues there. He did not tend to come up with his own things. But as I introduced him to things, he tried them without objecting. He never got in to anything like she did or excited, but he still went along.
Now I have two sons in the middle. They are 7 and 9 yrs old. No matter what I try to do with them, they are just not interested. In fact, I have big problems with my 7 yr old in that he throws A LOT of tantrums. Their entire days seem focused around when they will get the computer. I set down 2 hrs each evening in which they can have it and that is all they want to do. Now it is 100 degrees out so I feel like I should not say no to computer time, but even when it was decent weather, my 7 yr old would scream all the time, throwing tantrums, demanding new toys and computer. The tantrums are actually the biggest problem. But the point of this post was initially supposed to be about how to get them to do something else.
They are willing to play Legos. They do that much of the day. If I come up with something for them to do and try to do it with them, the entire time, IF I can get them to do it, the 7 yr old will say "if I do this, will I earn my computer time?" and "is this my school work?" Which means the same thing..if I do this, will I get the computer? Honestly, I am a little sad over the whole thing. I feel like there is so little I can do with them. It gets the worst when the 7 yr old throws his tantrums. (I have been very consistent with his tantrums and thought he would be done throwing them by now, but they are still happening, I am beginning to suspect learning issues and such with him).