I'm better now, but my first 12 weeks or so I was like that... I went to work, came home and didn't leave the couch until I went to bed. Then I would sleep for 10 hours, wake up and do it all over again. For a solid two months DH made every meal, cleaned anything that got cleaned, and basically treated me like an invalid. I don't know what I would have done without him, so I really feel for you ladies who have either Dh's who are away, or kids added to the mix, or both.
The movement is funny, It's my first so I didn't know what to expect, and I'm feeling it more than I thought I would though. I've been trying to put my hand on my belly more often when i'm feeling kicks, and I think I can feel it from the outside too, but not sure (since I'm feeling it foremost on the inside obviously...). But I keep trying to get DH to feel it, and he goes "well yeah I can feel that hun, but that's not baby, that's your muscle twitching". Damn it. I'm 26 years old-- I know my body enough to know the difference between a muscle twitch, and a baby moving for 20 minutes straight! lol. But it's the same thing we expeirenced with the doppler, is that he kept thinking it would be too early, and didn't believe me I could pick up a heartbeat. Then he was with me one day, but he was controlling the wand portion, and couldn't find anything, and I just flat out said "the baby is over here, try here", and he put it down, and sure enough, big strong hb. I was like see!!! I told you I can see it!
RE: Ultrasound. We had one so far at 18weeks, and then will do a 21 week anatomy scan, and then a 34ish week "fun" ultrasound, mostly because my sister won it in a draw, and doesn't know anyone else pregnant- so it's a free 10min 3D scan with DVD and pictures to take home. I never ever ever would have paid for the additional ultrasound, and I feel guilty about it.... but I also felt guilty turning it down, since it's a $130 package. I'm justifying it by using it as a confirmation for gender, since DH is worried that we will be told gender and have it be wrong, since it's only one person's interpretation. Anyways-- the point of that was to say that a/ we had our first (very quick) ultrasound just to check for multiples, and while it was very cool, I didn't feel any big rush of emotion and tears-- It didn't make me feel any more connected to this baby. If we hadn't needed to rule out twins, then I would have turned it down.
Going into the pregnancy I wanted just one scan- around 20-30 weeks to check placental position, since I wanted to homebirth, and then to do a quick anatomy scan. I turned down all other screening, but since there -are- some conditions that could be detected on the scan that can be fixed prior to birth (or that would be beneficial for them to know at birth), I like that one for extra comfort. But really to me, it was strictly a health thing, and no "oh my gosh i'm seeing my baby's picture!" Like I said, it's neat and everything, but it is in no way essential for my bonding with my child.