Hello everyone. I am hoping to receive as much support here as possible and as much information as possible as well. I have looked for a local ICAN group but there isn't one. I believe the closest one is Tulsa :( That is too far for me to attend meetings and such.
We moved here from TN in February, so we are literally "alone" here without support.
We are expecting again in February 2012. I am 7 weeks and a couple days, but with the medical community's lack of support, I need to find someone to attend my birth asap.
I had 4 children, totally natural and vaginally. The first 2 were with a midwife in MS (Mississippi) but she moved out of country at the start of my third pregnancy.
After my 4th child, we moved to TN and I had an OB/GYN. He started cervidil to dilate my cervix as I had an issue starting after my second birth when I had a second trimester loss which required a D&C.
My daughter turned breech right before he started the cervidil. He starts screaming c-section once he realized she turned. I argued and fought, but he and the hospital refused to work with her and me on getting her to turn. Emergency c-section. During my next pregnancy, in the third trimester I was told I had no choice but a scheduled c-section. I cried. I hit my doctor. I screamed at him and made him stay while I expressed my anger at the whole situation. He pulled the dead baby card and told me he would lose his license if he didn't do the c-section....yada yada...
So, one emergency c-section, three scheduled c-sections. 4 total. No medical reasons what-so-ever.
I met with a midwife in OK City on Friday. She was rude, making false statements and offering NO factual information. She was terrible, eventhough my children were in the room. She actually said that I have to be ok with a forced c-section. Then she said aloud that she needed to be careful with her words and said no one can be forced, but that I have no other options. She kept hounding me the whole app with saying I had to agree to a c-section and so on.
So, my question is, can anyone help me find someone who will be honest and compassionate in attending my vba4c? Her office lied big time to me, saying they are the only ones who are allowed to vbamc in OK. I knew that was a lie right away, but whatever. The part I didn't know was a lie was being told that their midwives absolutely have NO problems with a vbac after 4 c-sections.