My exh and my 9 yo and my 6 yo spent the night waiting for treatment and testing in the emergency room while I cavorted on the beach all night. I was not notified of what had happened until I picked my kids up this morning, twelve hours after the event. TWELVE hours went by and not a phone call or a text to tell me there was an emergency. My 17 yo son was at home wondering why they were gone for so long and didn't receive any notice either. I would have immediately gone to the ER if I knew what was happening and my ex is acting like I'm an ass for being upset that I wasn't notified and for holding him responsible for this "accident".
Right now I'm trying to focus on making my son as comfortable as possible, but I am so emotional over all of this. I have 50/50 custody with my exh, who basically behaves like a 40 yo teenager, and I feel like I have let my kids down by allowing their irresponsible dad have so much control over their lives. This never would have happened if I had been with them. I could have protected my son, but instead I was out doing my own selfish and frivolous thing. At this moment, I am seriously considering starting the process of changing our parenting plan and custody arrangement. And I really wish I had somebody to hug me and tell me it will all be okay, like I'm doing for my kids.