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post #301 of 456

Thinking of you alittlesandy...I have to toss those good wishes back in time a couple hours, but I am!

 

fuller2, I love the should stand story!

post #302 of 456

Ok, the ultrasound was fine, but I feel kind of meh about it because I'm measuring a little behind, 9 weeks 4 days instead of 10 weeks 2 days, and the heartrate was high, around 185. The ultrasound tech said both things are normal and I shouldn't be worried. I have an appointment with my OB tomorrow morning to discuss the full report (they always schedule an appointment after the ultrasound, it's not because there's a problem per se). I'm a nervous nelly, so both of these things make me a tiny bit worried. I'm now going to obsess over Google!

 
post #303 of 456

I am dying for some tea!

 

I have stopped all hot drinks because I am TTC/might be pg.  Now I really want herbal tea. I bought chamomile but even that seems ify if you are pregnant. I also thought about roobis but i do think that is hard to find without other herbs.

 

What do you think about chamomile tea? How about another herb tea that is safe when you are pregnant.

post #304 of 456

alittlesandy, congratulations on a mostly great u/s. (((hug))) for the nervewracking parts. If it helps to hear a 44-year old close friend of mine is hanging out with her super healthy 8 month old right now after a pregnancy with several little scares like that. The ones I remember most are 2 rounds of bleeding, but there were other things, too. I'm sending lots of good wishes and can easily imagine that this will be something you look back on as a little stressful blip on a very happy journey. I know it is difficult, though. Just keeping loving up that growing little one, be dear to yourself, remember the tech saying those things are normal (pregnancy is an area where I embrace "normal" more than most)

 

kfillmore, there are at least 3 brands of plain Rooibos tea at our health food store. I see you are in Honolulu and I know you have a nice health food store there--I can't remember the name just now. Rooibos tea is definitely my non-caffeine tea of choice--yum! I think chamomile is okay, too, but I don't know for sure. I think many people think red raspberry leaf is good for pregnancy, but some think it isn't.

post #305 of 456

I was just doing some research into the instead cup/diva cup question for ttc. Reading how they work I was thinking only the Instead cup would work. I found this thread (http://forums.families.com/ttcrs-using-the-instead-cups,t123610#), where someone with the direct experience I don't have concurs. Rats...because I liked the idea of being able to have something more reusable for AF too, but still I'm glad to know. The thread (esp 2nd post) looks to have some handy links, too. I haven't explored them yet.

post #306 of 456

Hello everyone!  I'm still hanging around sending you all positive energy and well wishes.  Congratulations to Sandy and Fuller!!!  And continued blessings to the rest of our pregnant ladies.

 

Thank you to everyone who expressed concern about my DS. 

 

I am happy to report that the Goddess has made her way to me after a successful visit with Contactmaya.  I will keep her (the Goddess, not Contactmaya) through my current cycle (I'm CD 5) and then send her on her way.  My plan at the moment is to actively TTC through the end of the year and then call it quits.  With my son's recent diagnosis, it may be best that he remain an only child as we have limited resources.  There is a lot of technology out there that will be able to help him, but it's expensive!  On the other hand, I feel he needs a sibling even more than ever.  I'm pretty much just leaving it up to the universe and, as always, we will meet all challenges and adventures as they arise.

 

I was unexpectedly very upset to hear of the passing of Steve Jobs.  I think it was largely in part because it illustrated that it doesn't matter how rich or brilliant you are, some things are just out of our control.  R.I.P. 

 

But I digress...   Regarding Instead cups- my sister bought me a box of 14 back in 2007 and I have used and re-used them for both AF and TTC  (keeping in mind that I was pregnant and/or not TTC about 2 years during that time).  I still have 6 unused cups in their individual packaging and two used cups in service.  (I'm wearing one right now!)  So, Waturmama, since you are next on the Goddess list anyway, I would be happy to send you a couple Instead Cups.  I understand about not wanting to buy disposable/non-biodegradable products, but I usually cut myself a break when I receive something or find it second-hand.  I won't buy any more cups once they are used up and they might as well be put to good use before they end up in a landfill somewhere.  I usually just wash the cups with soap and water and let air dry, but I just boiled one for 5 minutes to see what would happen and the cup in unchanged and still usable.  They really can be reused many times.

post #307 of 456

Great to see you here, Stealthee! The way I read your writing about the situation with your ds, you sound very grounded. I'm glad to see that. I sure relate to the part about wanting a sibling for your child (even though I get you are applying it particularly to your new situation). You are very dear to think of sending me some of those Instead Cups. I may end up getting some for this cycle--I'll let you know if I do. I'm feeling quite serious about ttc again after a break while I cared for and then grieved my elderly dog. I like that the goddess is coming my way soon. It is good timing. I am CD4 so we are nearly cycle buddies. May the goddess work her magic on you.

post #308 of 456

Seems AF has come, and a couple of days early. And I had my birthday this week...44. Feeling very dejected. 

 

I just tell myself, there's always next month.

post #309 of 456

(((hug))) miss_sonja. I'm sorry you had an uninvited guest this week. But...

 

flowersforyou.gif     birthday.gif  flowersforyou.gif

 

I'm 44 myself. I've gotten to be friends with this age. I hope you do, too.

post #310 of 456

does anyone know of anyone (here or elsewhere) that---

 

was 44+

had a healthy living baby 

AND was breastfeeding during pregnancy????

 

post #311 of 456

hi ladies, i'm a veteran of this thread (see my success story way uptread, i was 40 when i conceived and 41 (and breastfeeding BTW) when i had my healthy son, who is now 2. we are not really TTC, but i do have an experience recently that i could use your insight upon, if i may jump in (or "crash" as it were) and sorta pick your collective brains for some possibilities.

 

we are not using protection but relying upon the withdrawl method, as well as none-too-frequent sexual intercourse. but of course timing is everything and one shot is all it takes.

 

we had sex on day 12, which is total danger zone. i did not really realize i was right on it, but was super horny, which is a huge sign in and of itself. it had been a long time since our last sexual relations and, although he says he withdrew completely and in time, i'm not convinced that he didn't get the first part of it into me. i felt a tingling going up on one side, just as i felt when we conceived our son. in the next days i started feeling a tightness in my lower abdomen, i was increasingly hungry and very tired. i had dreams about babies. i felt pregnant, and -- most alarmingly -- my nursing toddler started sucking dry. this was *the* cardinal sign for me when i became pregnant with him -- my milk dried up for my daughter, who was 2 years old and verbal enough to tell me that it was "empty."

 

i worried about it for a few more days... we were probably around day 19 here... i told my husband my worries... and the next morning when i woke up, i felt *not pregnant.* the tightness was gone, my son was gulping milk again. i thought maybe it was a chemical pregnancy. i was relieved mostly. although we would have had another baby if it happened that way. (i would have been convinced that God wanted me to have one -- to get pregnant *like that* at our ages. i am now 43 and my husband is quite a bit older than me.)

 

i got my period on day 28, which is a couple days later than normal. i usually go at day 26.

 

menstruation was pretty normal. no over-the-top cramping or clots.

 

after the period trickled to ending, i went about my business. but was surprised to wipe EWCM on, like, day 5 of the new cycle. i even stretched it out, it was the real deal. WHY SO EARLY?

 

today is day 13 of the new cycle, and guess what? SPOTTING. bright red. not a ton, but not just one spot either. and definitely not brown. it's been going on all day today.

 

IS THIS ANOVULATORY SPOTTING? did i ovulate early this past cycle? and then there was insufficient uterine lining or hormone or something, so that's why the abnormal bleeding? read somewhere that anovulatory bleeding is pretty typical following a m/c.

 

but it is not proven that i even had a m/c.

 

would you be worried at this point? should i see a doctor to rule out other causes of abnormal bleed? i had another dream about children last night -- they were in my house, my house had many additional rooms. there were a lot of kids, and they were essentially ghosts and they were in my way -- i had to walk past them to get to my living children, and i was driven to get to my kids, so had to confront them. not sure what this means, but i'm freaking myself out here.

 

anyone care to venture a guess as to what's going on with me?? many thanks. as background: my cycles have always been regular, i've NEVER had midcycle bleeding or spotting. my health otherwise seems good. i had a general checkup in february with complete bloodwork and all was well. my mother hit menopause in her 50s. i got pregnant both times very easily (first at 37, second at 40, had healthy uneventful pregnancies).

post #312 of 456

Hmm-- I had midcycle spotting caused most likely by a small uterine polyp.  Had it removed but got pregnant soon after, so I only had maybe 1 cycle with no spotting.  However this was after having midcycle spotting every month (sometimes a fair amount) for more than a year, and my gyn surgeon told me that polyps can cause such bleeding.

 

The dream -- first thing I thought was that the ghost children are your eggs in your ovaries as they go into menopause -- and as we all know wacky bleeding midcycle, strange cycle length, etc. can all be a part of perimenopause. 

 

On the other hand, it sounds like you may very well have had a chemical pregnancy to me, which could also make the next cycle a little wacky.  I'd say to not worry too much and see what happens next month.  Go for walks, get some exercise, change your environment in some small way to help you step out from old habits/thought patterns (cook something totally new, wear a color you've never worn before, buy some new music, etc.) which will help you to not obsess about this while you wait for your next period. 

post #313 of 456

Good to see you here, ElliesMomma! Though I'm sorry that you are here because you are worried about something. If I had those symptoms, I'd guess it was a chemical pregnancy. I had a few months like that and I finally tested on 11dpo one time when it happened just for a reality check and did get a faint BFP that disappeared by the time 14dpo came around. I've done that again since and don't always get the BFPs, but have decided to just trust those symptoms for myself. I don't know about the midcycle spotting. Can you call your doctor's office and bounce it off a nurse? My guess is they would say see if it happens again, but I think it is worth calling about, especially because it was red. That dream is striking. Since it has been so powerful for you, maybe it would be helpful to journal about it, or visualize it while breathing into a calm, wise place and see what you find. Might be interesting in a good way. One thing I thought I remembered about your story is that when you got pg with #2 you didn't feel pg, and you kind of saw that as a pg symptom. I'm curious if I am remembering that right and how that fits into this. (((hug)))

post #314 of 456
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Originally Posted by kfillmore View Post

does anyone know of anyone (here or elsewhere) that---

 

was 44+

had a healthy living baby 

AND was breastfeeding during pregnancy????

 


No baby  yet, but i am 26 weeks. The baby is healthy so far...kicks alot. I was breastfeeding in  the first trimester, but ds has all but weaned now, and i have no milk at all whenever he tries to nurse. Im 44.

 

post #315 of 456

I have a friend who had a baby at age 45. She was nursing her 4 yo throughout the pg, though the older one was in the weaning stage and not nursing much.

post #316 of 456
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Originally Posted by WaturMama View Post

Good to see you here, ElliesMomma! Though I'm sorry that you are here because you are worried about something. If I had those symptoms, I'd guess it was a chemical pregnancy. I had a few months like that and I finally tested on 11dpo one time when it happened just for a reality check and did get a faint BFP that disappeared by the time 14dpo came around. I've done that again since and don't always get the BFPs, but have decided to just trust those symptoms for myself. I don't know about the midcycle spotting. Can you call your doctor's office and bounce it off a nurse? My guess is they would say see if it happens again, but I think it is worth calling about, especially because it was red. That dream is striking. Since it has been so powerful for you, maybe it would be helpful to journal about it, or visualize it while breathing into a calm, wise place and see what you find. Might be interesting in a good way. One thing I thought I remembered about your story is that when you got pg with #2 you didn't feel pg, and you kind of saw that as a pg symptom. I'm curious if I am remembering that right and how that fits into this. (((hug)))



thanks, WaturMama and Fuller2. i bled for 4 days, it was not spotting but bright red and significant, although not as heavy as usual. so i've decided it was not midcycle bleed but rather an extremely short cycle. i've also decided that it was probably due to a very early miscarriage / chemical pregnancy. 

 

i had another vivid weird dream, in which i gave birth to a bunch of swimming fish / frog combinations. of which, i looked it up, and fish and frogs are both symbols of fertility in dreams, and giving birth to non-humans is a reflection of concerns over birth defects.

 

WaturMama, you peaked my interest in what i wrote before, and i looked up my old posts from my pregnancy with my son. you are recalling correctly that i stated that i did not feel "pregnant" per se when i actually was, but instead had felt more pregnant in the months before, when in fact i was not pregnant.

 

ugh. anyway, as i am not actively TTC, i think i will go back to lurkdome on this thread. thanks for your input, guys!

 

and i wish all of you the chance to have a baby (or another baby) in your 40s! go girls!

post #317 of 456

Hello lovely mamas!

 

Thought those of you dealing with recurrent losses might be interested in seeing this article DH found today. Here's the BBC version he read: http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/health-15305064

And here's an earlier (2007) related article I found in PubMed: http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/17640988

 

I can't imagine there's yet a test for this enzyme "switch", but perhaps it's around the corner?

 

Also, on a related note... I'm having lunch next week with a friend of a friend who's pg at 45 after getting treatment here. I'll share with you what I learn.

 

Peace out...

post #318 of 456

Hi everyone! It has been quite awhile since I have posted. After the loss of twins in Feb. I pretty much stopped posting on either of the boards I had been involved in, I have continued to lurk once in awhile, but guess I just needed a break. I feel bad only coming back on here to post news and I guess look for support after being MIA, but if things actually work out this time maybe I can serve as some hope for others on here.

 

Got a +HPT on Sept 27 (at 9dpo...have no idea why I tested, have never tested that early before), spent a very tentative 6 days waiting to see if AF would actually stay away (along with losses I have had 2 chemicals as well, so testing early just gave me longer to worry). At 17dpo I went and got beta done (after the 3rd M/C in a row I was sent to a specialist for some basic tests, and she told me if I were to get pregnant again to get tests done to make sure hcg was increasing properly) never had that done before, and that I would be booked for a viability U/S at 6 1/2 weeks (so I wouldn't have the long wait to 11 weeks like I have had in past, which is really hard when one has had missed M/Cs and only found out the bad news through U/S after spending so long thinking all was fine. My betas went well, 17dpo- 1562, 19dpo- 4525...I am 6 weeks 2 days now and have my U/S to look for heartbeat tomorrow afternoon, I am on pins and needles. I so hope that all will be fine this time, but with my history I am so scared it will just be another heartbreak.

 

Will drop back later with a few personals, have to catch up first on what has been going on with who lately. Hope everyone is well!

post #319 of 456

Congratulations, Halifax! Sending you sticky vibes...Your numbers look great.

post #320 of 456

Nice to see you back and with happy news to share!! I remember how rough it was for you - I am thinking strong baby vibes for youheartbeat.gif

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