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help us stragglers out. I'm bringing up the rear of the month and would LOVE to hear what advice you all have after having just btdt. I'm having my first home birth after a hospital birth 2 years ago. Anything at all you totally wish you had done but didn't or were really glad you did?? I'm having trouble getting motivated to get prepared and need some help prioritizing. smile.gif
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I had a homebirth with my 1st and will have one with this babe too.  We got a tub from my midwife to labor in and I wish I had gotten in it sooner.  It was wonderful.  Instead, because I did not know how much I would like it I took a shower and sat in our regular bath tub for a while--definitely will be skipping that this time.  However, I may feel like walking around more this time around than I did with DD.  I seem to prefer to walk through my BH contractions, with DD I prefered to stop--the babe is in a different position than DD.  

 

I loved having my DP and midwife give me drinks in between contractions--even if I didn't really feel like it.  Kept me hydrated!  I also think that I was actually ready to push when my water broke, but I resisted and maybe went backwards a bit--my midwife was not hear yet.  I told DP to call her and have her come shortly after my water broke.  This time I plan on just letting things flow.  My labor with DD was about 12 hours and I pushed for about 2 hours.  She was 8 lbs 1 oz and had a good size head.  

 

It helped me a lot to have people like DP suggest things to me, for instance after my water broke I couldn't make decisions very well, so it was helpful for him to suggest a couple of things to try rather than me trying to come up with what I needed.

 

I'd say to make sure you have some energy type foods--soup broth, honey, yogurt, etc.  

 

I am also due the end of the month and have been working on preparing myself for labor.  I have also been visualizing labor being fast and easy.  My midwife recommends doing a lot of visualization.  I have also been thinking about what I may want to do during labor--walking, tub, massages, etc.

post #3 of 7

All of my births have kind of been experiments in what works and what doesn't. There really isn't a perfect formula for everyone, but one of the most important things I can suggest is changing positions often. Squat, stand, lean forward, do all-fours, etc. Rotate through positions every few contractions and it really helps to bring the baby down and get them into a good position for birth. I like alternating between a squat and standing at the end.

 

If it hurts more, it's doing more! I've found that I couldn't always count on the midwife to tell me to change positions, so it was easy to only do what felt good during labor which slowed things. That was how my first birth went. For my second, I did the squats and kneeling and standing and walking and it made a huge difference. By the time this baby was ready to be born I didn't need anybody to tell me to change positions, so they were really just there to encourage and provide comfort. Don't be afraid to ask for physical support whether that be counter-pressure on your back or someone to hold you while you squat. I have an extremely difficult time asking anybody for help, but having the support this time really made a difference and I felt like I was very well taken care of and loved because of it and that made for a better birth.

post #4 of 7

Just had my first HB. My biggest wish was that I would have had more time to rest and stretch prior to going into labor, but that wasn't really possible due to my work schedule.

In terms of the birth, I wish I had read Ina May's Childbirth book before my labor, not after. I wish I had talked to my midwife in more detail about the stages of labor and her advice for positions and breathing techniques that worked well for each stage. there was one point during labor where I kindof freaked out and just didn't know how I could breathe. My midwife talked me through it but I think it would have been helpful to talk about it in advance so that when that moment hit I avoided that feeling of momentary panic. Definitely have a big glass of ice water or other drink where you can reach it or where someone could hand it to you during labor. Also having a washcloth in a bowel of ice to wipe my face with was really helpful. Also really glad that we had someone to take my daughter during the birth, if she had been awake that would have been too much to deal with.  I wish I had reminded my husband to take the dog outside when I was in the final pushing stages; I really did not appreciate the dog coming over to try to put his head on my shoulder when I was pushing. Bless his heart, he was only trying to be helpful but it infuriated me. Finally, I wished I had moved around a bit more/tried different positions during labor. I was really glad that my midwife helped me get fresh sheets on the bed and that I had laid out a clean nursing nightgown for myself--these felt so good after giving birth.

But those were all relatively minor details compared to an overall great HB and darling healthy newborn baby with Apgars of 9 and 10 who is positively thriving.

Good luck! Sending happy birth wishes your way! You can do it!

post #5 of 7
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Just had my first HB. My biggest wish was that I would have had more time to rest and stretch prior to going into labor, but that wasn't really possible due to my work schedule.

In terms of the birth, I wish I had read Ina May's Childbirth book before my labor, not after. I wish I had talked to my midwife in more detail about the stages of labor and her advice for positions and breathing techniques that worked well for each stage. there was one point during labor where I kindof freaked out and just didn't know how I could breathe. My midwife talked me through it but I think it would have been helpful to talk about it in advance so that when that moment hit I avoided that feeling of momentary panic. Definitely have a big glass of ice water or other drink where you can reach it or where someone could hand it to you during labor. Also having a washcloth in a bowel of ice to wipe my face with was really helpful. Also really glad that we had someone to take my daughter during the birth, if she had been awake that would have been too much to deal with.  I wish I had reminded my husband to take the dog outside when I was in the final pushing stages; I really did not appreciate the dog coming over to try to put his head on my shoulder when I was pushing. Bless his heart, he was only trying to be helpful but it infuriated me. Finally, I wished I had moved around a bit more/tried different positions during labor. I was really glad that my midwife helped me get fresh sheets on the bed and that I had laid out a clean nursing nightgown for myself--these felt so good after giving birth.

But those were all relatively minor details compared to an overall great HB and darling healthy newborn baby with Apgars of 9 and 10 who is positively thriving.

Good luck! Sending happy birth wishes your way! You can do it!


Congrats!! Would love to see pics of the babe.
Those were the kind of pearls I was looking for! I just started setting out my postpartum basket this am. I"ll have to be sure to make a list of things to do once I get into labor so DH knows what to do or at least what to ask about.
post #6 of 7

I think a list for the DH for what to do when labor starts would have been a good idea!  We got caught off guard because DS came one day before his due date, and we had been expecting to go at least a week late! HA!  Oh well.  Let's see... the camera... I would have put that at the top of the list!  I had to ask him to go get it after baby boy was already out!  During labor I thought about it a few times but couldn't get it out of my mouth to ask him to get it.  Kinda sad I don't have any labor/birth pictures, but oh well.  I was there and I felt it all, so that will have to be good enough! 

 

I also wish I had told my midwife or DH that I wanted Grandma and my DD to come in at the last minute to see baby boy emerge, and that someone could have shouted for them - they were downstairs... but in the moment when I thought of it, things were so intense, and I was also fearful of performance anxiety, and things were going so well, that I was afraid to rock the boat, and I think so were they, so no one went to get Grandma and my daughter until after baby boy was out. 

 

It would have been nice to have some sort of food and drink prepared for immediately following the birth, that my mom could have run downstairs and grabbed for everyone.  I felt like celebrating!  I wish I had thought to chill a bottle of champagne or sparkling cider or whatnot, and also have set aside something non-perishable to eat... maybe a cheese and cracker tray or something like that, that would have kept, that we could have snacked on.  The freezer was full of casseroles and such, but nothing "snacky" for immediate consumption by all of us.  At that point, I felt like a PARTY and it would have been nice to have something... I meant to do a frozen ice cream cake but of course hadn't gotten to it yet... since I had been planning on being overdue.  So even having had that in the freezer would have been nice.  I felt badly when the midwives had cleaned everything up and were saying goodbye, that I hadn't fed them while they were there.  I guess at that point it was okay, because they were all going home to their 4th of July BBQs, but still.  Even some nice, homemade popsicles would have been good, just to give them a blood sugar boost.  Ugh.  Oh well! 

 

As far as the birth is concerned, my motto became, "do what I gotta do to get through this" and it worked!  I did a "half-a**" course of Hypnobabies, so I used some of that, but I also made a lot of noise and roared and groaned and moaned a lot, which I don't really think fits with the vision of a Hypnobabies birth, but I didn't care because it was helping me through each contraction.  So yeah, do what you have to do to surrender to the sensations going on in your body and remember that each contraction brings you one step closer to having that baby out with you!

 

Best of luck!

post #7 of 7
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Thank you!!! I added some things to my list! So helpful for us stragglers!
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