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[earthchild89]

Hello everyone.. I'd like to introduce myslef.. My name is Mary, and I am a dreadie hippie Mama of two beautiful boys ages 3 and 6. I live in the Deep South of MS.. and sometimes feel out of place..

I found this group/forum.. as a result of a Google search I performed...

I got a phone call about an hour ago from my Sister-in-Law, who also happens to be my next door neighbor. Her son, my nephew, spent the night last night.. and went home about 20 minutes prior to the call. All went well. :) He was very well behaved!

She began the conversation, "You and I both know how much my kids love their Aint Mary (that's what they call me).. BUT... I don't want you sleeping naked with my kids in the bed with you."

--SCREECH!!!--

Haha.. That was shocking, huh?

Well... this is what happened: My nephew fell asleep in my arms while DH and DS (youngest) and I were watching a movie. I laid him on the recliner. When the movie was over.. DS went to bed in his big brother's big bed -big brother was spending the night next door- and I put my nephew in the bed beside my son. THEY BOTH had jammies on! I even took a picture, because they were so cute! *They are best friends, and this is the first time my nephew has actually stayed the whole night!*

DH and I were ready for bed.

WE BOTH SLEEP NUDE. ALWAYS HAVE. ALWAYS WILL.

We go to bed.

I wake up to, "Aint May E"- that's how he says it... "I want to go home."..

So, I get up, get dressed and send him home.

Then, as I am fixing breakfast, I get that phone call. My brother-in-law, her husband, is PISSED. She says that Ridge came home saying he slept naked in the bed with Aint Mary. His mother is afraid that if he goes to school and says that, that the Department of Children Services will come and take her child.

Maybe I'm missing something here.. but what harm has been done?

He was in my son's room. He came in my room. I was asleep. Period. He wasn't naked. No one was touched. What is the big deal?

My youngest son is very close to me and very much like me. He loves Mama. And just like Mama. .. he hates clothes. He swims nudie bootie... and so do I. I sleep nude because in Mississippi it is HOT.. and HUMID, and I can NOT sleep when I am hot.

I can't help it that he came in there last night, nor can I help it that he went home and talked about it.

BUT

I don't see any reason why DHS would interfere, regardless? When my youngest slept with us, I slept nude. Big deal. We're human. 

I just can't see what the problem is. I am not a pedophile. I just do what feels natural. Period.

Someone please give me some input.. I was made to feel horrible and I don't think that was fair. I teach my kids to embrace their bodies. Nudity is commonplace in our household. Sorry if no one else is comfortable with it. We all are.

I cover up when company is over and when we go out, but at night in my own bed.. I mean.. sorry,.. I am still in somewhat shock....

What I really wanted to say to her was : "Big freakin' deal! Like he hasn't seen YOU naked!" Same body parts.

Anyway, sorry for my rant.. this is why I'm here.

Peace K!

Mary

[Chicky2]

Welcome to MDC, fellow dreaded Mama!  Come drop in at the dready mamas section under Natural Body Care.

As for everything else, well, yes we are human and we were all born naked (except my mom, lol) and while you and I may see this as no big deal, unfortunately, some people would.  I wouldn't really worry about it, but next time he spends the night I would just sleep in shorts and a tank top or something, and drag an extra fan into the bedroom.  It's about respect, really.  If they are uncomfortable with it, would they stop sending your nephew to spend the night?  Would it cause huge problems?  IMO I might not find it worth it, and just put something on just like you would if you had company over.  I dunno, but I don't really care for confrontation when a reasonable compromise can easily be reached, but that's just me.  We all know that sometimes society is weird. 

Anyway, just jump right in and find your favorite areas of MDC!

[earthchild89]

I'm not really WORRIED about it, just a little, I don't know.. ruffled.. lol.

Point was.. I didn't put him in the bed with me butt naked. He came in there at something in the am and I was naked in my bed.

I get fully dressed when we have company.

She allows her daughter to bathe with me.. so???

I don't know, I mean we are really close, so it shouldn't be a big deal. I doubt she would keep him at home. No huge problems, just wanted some input.

I hope I found the right group..

Peace K!

[Viola]

Hi and welcome to the Mothering boards.  I don't know why this would be a big deal, honestly.  My sister's kids saw me naked when they were young.  What did his parents say when you told them he wasn't sleeping with you, he just walked into your room?  If he's old enough to be bothered by the nudity, he's old enough to understand the concept of privacy and knocking. More or less, I mean. I have a 7 year old who still comes into my room at night, sometimes, and she usually just walks in to ask me to come tuck her in again, and sometimes she actually sits outside knocking at 2 am.  If I were naked, she'd probably be too tired to care, but she does get annoyed when I'm naked in front of her during the day, even if she walks in on me in the bathroom or in my bedroom.  

Oh well, I hope you can work it all out.