We told our 27-month-old DD right after we got our BFP. We want to be open and honest with her throughout the whole pregnancy (on a level that she can understand) and for her to be involved every step of the way. She went with me to my first appointment with my midwife yesterday and she will be coming to all of the other appointments too.We are planning a home birth and she will be in the house with us; of course she will have the option to leave the room at any point or stay with us, totally up to her. If we did experience a pregnancy loss, we would explain things as best as we could to her. She is a very intuitive little lady and would know something is up; I don't want to try to hide anything from her.
I also still breastfeed DD and have already noticed a change in my supply and it is becoming increasingly uncomfortable when she nurses. Also trying to explain that as best as I can and hoping that if weaning is in our future, either on her part or mine, that by being honest with her it might help facilitate a more gentle experience for both of us.
Besides, if I'm as sick with this baby as I was with DD in my first trimester, there will definitely be no hiding anything from her!!!
This sounds a lot like us! I'm working on my doula certification, too, and we talk about birth and babies a LOT around here, so Renny already knows a lot. She knows that babies grow in their mamas' wombs, and she's seen me use my Diva cup and all. We've even talked about a baby sibling, and just the other day she told me that Daddy should go find me a seed so I could grow a baby sister in my womb. So I'm going to tell her this weekend, once I've A) officially missed a period and B) have more time to really talk to her about it. I'm going to emphasize that it's just a little seed right now, so that if I MC, I can tell her that the seed just didn't grow, and we'll try again. I'm planning a homebirth, too, so Ren will definitely be around for all my prenatals and the birth, too, if she wants.