Originally Posted by Adaline'sMama
I know you said that you are just going to "deal" with it, but I really encourage you to ask your mother to only stay for 7-10 days and then have a break between the time that your mother leaves and his mother arrives.
I second this. I was going to suggest you ask your mom to stay the first 10 days, then have a 1-2 week "babymoon" with only you, baby and DH before his mom comes.
With my first, my mom came 4 days after the birth and because of her work schedule, she only stayed for 4 days--this was not long enough and I wished I'd had more help that first couple weeks. 7-10 days would have been perfect! But any longer than that really would have encroached on our private family time, much as I love my mom, get along with her perfectly, and she was an awesome help around the house.
After she left we had a couple weeks on our own before my in-laws showed up, and that time with no house guests was so precious. It's really important for you to have some space to establish your new family, and especially for your DH to bond with the baby and develop confidence as a parent. The only way to really do this is to be on your own for a while, figuring it out for yourself how to create the best partnership with DH. And then by the time your MIL arrives, you'll be ready again to have a helping hand but you'll still have gotten some of that precious alone time, which IMO is really important.
Your mom and MIL don't have to be pushy or intrusive for your DH to accidentally get left out of things. I think most first-time dads would tend to defer to women when it comes to baby things, and out of inexperience/insecurity, your DH might not be as hands-on with the baby if he doesn't have to. (Obviously depends on the guy, but in general.) He hasn't been carrying the baby for 9 months already, and he doesn't have boobs, so he will have more of a learning curve than you. With nobody else around he will be forced to jump right in with baby care and will start off as a great dad because of it.
My DH has the sweetest and fondest memories of holding our baby and learning how to care for him on his own when it was just us and our newborn in the house. He still talks about it! So that's my 2 cents.