You know what drives me crazy?! That we are supposed to carry on with our lives as usual even though we are tired/nauseated/puking/sore/dizzy, but when DH gets a tummy ache.....oh my, he can't possibly function. Oh, as a matter of fact he must lie in bed and no one can even talk to him 
So last night I was seriously trying to respond to everyone, but I just couldn't because I was so tired. lol!
Bacon: thanks for the info, I'll ask about it. Allergies have been better the past couple of days, so maybe I just had a little bug or something I was fighting off and I was really sensitive. Hopefully they stay away until I can start shots. Sorry about your bleeding. That must be so difficult to feel like you're in limbo. It's good it isn't getting any worse though. Hang in there and get some rest.
Freelancemom: that sounds really rough. I hate guilt trips from family members. I hope the past couple of days have been better, aside from being sick all the time.
Mamaprek: OMG, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I can't imagine what that would be like for anyone, but especially you being pregnant. Hugs
I'm so emotional right now! This thread was a great idea!
I'm seriously emotional for no reason. Today I stated thinking about how it was no longer going to be me and my DS during the day and how the bonds were all going to change which is kind of ridiculous but I had to have a good cry before I could go into the grocery store.
Oh Cellist... sorry you are having to deal with all of the that! :( Hang in there!
Hugs, Cellist. I hope you can get an earlier u/s and some peace of mind!
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I have no understanding of how your health care systems work (or don't work) over there. It's very different here.
Pardon me if I'm being to nosy - but is there a particular reason that you are so on edge about this? Ie; previous loss, anxiety disorder, stress, etc? I certainly don't ask to judge.
However, if there is something there, that makes you certain that an early scan would help you, then I think you have every right to demand one. The mental health of the mother is important, (as I'm sure you know) and stress can adversely effect pregnancy. The only thing I would suggest is waiting until there is something to be seen, because going too early may also cause you a lot of anxiety.
Again, I confess ignorance of your health care system, but if you have no luck with your insurance, and you are running out of options, then I would just show up at the local ED and tell them you are in a lot of pain. They will be compelled to give you a scan to rule out an ectopic.
I understand that this idea might be a bit naughty in some people's eyes, but if my years working for the state health dept here in Oz have taught me anything, it's that sometimes if the system doesn't work for you, you just have to work the system.
megame: I was totally like that this weekend too. My daughter is so excited about being a big sister, and I really hope everything goes well between them, and us.
Cellist: insurance issues are the worst! I can't believe they're assigning you a care provider. Have you considered just paying out of pocket so you don't have to deal with all that crap?
Milk8shake - yes, I have an anxiety disorder. Last time I saw a heartbeat at 6w5d and it was great to have that reassurance. I'm hoping I can just tell my provider how helpful that is and see what happens. I feel bad about using the ED the way you say; the last couple days have been a bit better anyway, so maybe I can ride out the uncertainty.
Dandy Lion, I did think about paying privately, but I don't think we can ultimately afford it. I just hope I can convince the OB coordinator to assign me to the person I want. I think I have identified someone now...
Thanks all, for listening!!
Oh, cellist, while I don't have anxiety issues usually I totally feel you on the pregnancy-anxiety. I turn into a woman I barely recognize. And gah, the insurance is disgraceful. It makes me laugh (ironically) that one of the arguments for private health insurance is that we're supposed to get more 'choice'.... I hope so much you're assigned the person you want.
How are you doing today?
alyadri - sorry your MIL is being a pain :( I saw that you are in MN and I wanted to offer to come play with your kids, but then I saw on FB that you are in Pipestone :( I hope the work on yur house goes smoothly...
I hear ya and want you to know you sound completely justified in your frustration!!!
lilkat, too bad I'm 4 hours away :-( I wish so badly that we were closer to the cities!
Alyadri, I'm sorry your MIL has been so uninvolved, and what a disappointing reaction to your news!
I thought I was doing fairly well, mood wise, but I kept crying today. It was a frustrating day. It started off well, but then I told the kids we were going to clean the upstairs -- rooms, bathroom, hallway. Our bedrooms are pretty crowded and we're going to be renovating, so things are kind of set up to be temporary, but it has been that way for a while. Kind of difficult to keep tidy, but we need to try. I told them that if we worked together and focused, it wouldn't take too long, and we would have lots of free time for the rest of the day, but if it weren't done by lunch time, we would keep working after lunch. There was so much arguing with me and fighting between the kids and kids sitting down to read when they should have been working. It was so frustrating. I would go in to one room to help dd, and she would just get mad at me when I told her what to pick up. Then I would have to go back over to the boys' room because someone was on the other's bed or had shoved stuff under his bed or had messed up the blankets on the bed or had put his laundry in the other's laundry basket.... Ugh. We did an OK job in the end, and I was able to get the whole upstairs swept. I did kind of lose it at one point where my oldest ds had taken my youngest ds out of his bedroom (youngest was messing it up) and put youngest on my bed, which I had just made, and wrapped all the blankets around him like a nest. I know oldest ds was just trying to make a fun distraction for the toddler, but I had just been up on there and fixed the blankets all up. Gah!
Later in the day, my 3 yo was whining for something. He was hitting me with a hairbrush, not hard, just to get my attention; I was trying to ignore him. At one point, I took the brush from him and tossed it to the other end of the room. A short while later, he was back, this time with a wooden spoon, hitting me over and over, again trying to get my attention. I ignored it for a bit, and then again, I took the spoon and tossed it across the room, except it was a pretty long wooden spoon, and with where I was standing, the height of the arc it followed took it right up to the ceiling fan. It hit a glass cover on one of the lights and broke it all over the kitchen. I felt like such an idiot. I've spent the last two weeks, since we've started turning on the ceiling fan, telling the kids not to put anything close to it or pull on the cords.
After dinner, I was tired and queasy; dh was in for a little bit, so I decided to lie down for a rest before tackling the kitchen. I was on the couch and I thought the front door was closed, but then I saw my 3 yo -- wearing only underwear -- open it up, with his toddler brother on his heels. So I jumped up to stop them but I got a huge wave of round ligament pain, which stopped me halfway up from the couch. My 9 yo came to the rescue.
Whew! It's nice to get all that off my chest.
I am so totally frustrated with people who equate wedding rings with stable relationships. As though mine and DP's relationship is somehow inferior or destined to fail because we aren't married.
It's not as though we don't plan to get married - we do! But it just hasn't happened yet, for a bunch of reasons.
But, it's almost "how dare you have a baby with out a husband (gasp!)"
We have been together for 6.5 years, and in that time have been through more than a lot of people go through in a lifetime. We've brought a house together, supported each other through career changes and study, come to terms with my Mum having brain surgery, and the way that changed my family, suffered the loss of three pregnancies, dealt with the impact of those losses on our relationship, and have still come out the other side. I am totally convinced that he will be by my side, no matter what, forever.
But to so many people, it all means nothing with out a freakin' ring. Now don't get me wrong, I believe in marriage. I want to get married. I can't wait to get married. I want to "formalise" our feelings - but I don't need to. Ultimately, it is not going to make me love him any more.
I can't believe that in this day and age, people can be so judgmental. The divorce rate is sky high, plenty of people get married for all manner of wrong reasons, and I know my fair share of married couples that hate each other. Seriously! Give me a break.
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Milk8shake - it sounds like you and DP have a really beautiful, strong relationship. Any busybody who cares more the legal status of your relationship than the emotional status really needs to just butt out.
Milk8shake, I am sorry you are experiencing people passing judgement. Not fair. It is none of their business why you decide to do anything you do! One silver lining; it's prep for all the unsolicited advice you will someday get about raising your baby???? 
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