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Smokering pointed out that we are, in fact, into a whole new month! Here's the July PP chat thread!

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I've heard of it. I thought Eats on Feets was a better name. :p I'm not on Facebook, though... I did tell my midwife that I was willing to donate, though; a lot of midwives coordinate milk donation between mothers, sort of under the table, if they happen to have a client who can't breastfeed.

 

I like to think I'm preparing our flatmate well for fatherhood. :p He's single and has no kids, and has led a sheltered life thus far... but since he's moved in with us he's been treated to a front-row view of me fainting, vomiting, wandering around the house in early labour... DH cutting up the placenta and steaming it... my cloth pads drying on the clothes horse... plenty of breastfeeding... and now me with attractive wet patches on my shirt. Not to mention the crying, vomiting and pooping of the baby itself. If he ever should happen to take a wife, nothing will faze him. In the mean time, he spends a lot of time hiding in his room... but then, he's a computer geek, so that's not exactly out of the norm. Oh well, he chose to move in! At least I'm a good cook...

 

ETA: Also, we're well into July now. Shouldn't we have a new chat thread?


You're not on FB? How do you function? lol   I have friends & family that are all over the world, and all over the States, so FB is the only way to consistently keep in touch with all of them and share pictures and what is going on in our lives.

 

Your flatmate can probably be considered "bomb proof" now.  :)

 



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Sorry I have been out of the loop! Finn has turned into a fussy baby and is either nursing or needing to be soothed 24 hours a day!

 

By the way... I am totally with all of you on the watching TV.. being on the internet while nursing. What else are you suppose to do? haha

 

I am already tired of the newborn stage... let's get to 3-4 months already!


I'm not tired of it yet! It passes so fast and then they're crawling and walking and getting into everything. Our house is going to be a nightmare to babyproof, mainly because it's so big and old and weird. I'm NOT looking forward to that at all!



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Oh no, 3-4 months was scary with DD1! I'm all for fast-forwarding to 5 months though.

 

I'm having a lot of leakiness too. Even with lying on a towel, I've pretty much destroyed our mattress. eyesroll.gif

 

You guys are going to laugh, but baby Rosa is back to being baby Nameless. I spent 3 days putting off announcing the name, before realising that my reluctance to share it with anyone probably wasn't a good sign. Back to the drawing board...

 


I cannot sleep without a bra on or I completely soak myself, the baby, the mattress, the sheets, and the pillows. It's like someone opened a milk firehose on the bed. Yuck.

 

No name baby again! Do you want me to send you my baby names spreadsheet? Maybe it will help you find some inspiration.

 

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snowflake - we took over a week and really struggled with it.  take your time!

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I have to admit that when i leak, i don't even notice it anymmore. Usually DH points it out to me! Jude is super fussy, way more than any of my others. I actually had DH introduce a bottle of expressed breastmilk last night because i was worried that my lack of sleep was affecting my ability to drive safely. I hadn't had more than an hour stretch since he was born and i was starting to get a little looney. Jude took the bottle well and then nursed the rest if the night. It was wonderful to get a good 3 hour stretch in!!

I can't believe it is well into july already. Where has all the time gone?
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Yeah, I'm no hurry for the newborn stage to end. I like newborns, and I LOVE that he sleeps all the time! If he were a bad sleeper I'd no doubt want to fast-forward, but I really like his low-maintenance current state, and I have no guarantee he'll remain this easy when he gets bigger. :p

 

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You're not on FB? How do you function?

Heh. It is getting slightly annoying... just because my sisters and mother keep posting photos of Miles on FB, and I haven't seen them, and if I ask DH if I can look on his account he gets very snotty and tells me I should join up myself. :p But... I dunno. I didn't join it initially because I was too antisocial, and read too many threads about "Facebook drama", and didn't really want to know everything about the lives of people I used to go to school wish, and because I wasted too much time online as it was. Now it's mostly just sheer bloodymindedness that prevents me signing up. I dunno, I might cave eventually.

 

Snowflake: Oh dear. lol.gif So what do you actually call her from day to day? Just "the baby"? (Eh, we call Miles that a fair percentage of the time anyway, and he has a name).

 

Just beware - the longer you leave announcing the name, the higher people's expectations might climb! I remember once some acquaintances of ours took weeks to name their baby... and we were all waiting with bated breath... and then they called him James. Which, y'know, is a fine, respectable name. But we were all kinda "After all that?". (Not to their faces, of course!) We'd sort of been expecting them to come up with something awesome and crazy after all that time, like Batman Dangertron.. but nope. "James". :p

 

You don't like Rosamund or Rosamond or Rosalie or Rosemary better than just plain Rosa? Or are you after something totally different? Any way we can help? Is your DH likely to cave on anything he vetoed?

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Snowflake: Oh dear. lol.gif So what do you actually call her from day to day? Just "the baby"? (Eh, we call Miles that a fair percentage of the time anyway, and he has a name).

 

We'd sort of been expecting them to come up with something awesome and crazy after all that time, like Batman Dangertron.. but nope. "James". :p

 

Ezrah has a name too, and most of the time I call him "Baby" when I'm talking to him, and "the baby" when I'm talking about him. For some reason he just seems to little to have a name. He doesn't feel like a whole person to me yet.

 

Batman Dangertron.... I love it! lol  A friend of mine who has a baby about a month older than mine said that her older son wanted to name the baby Lightening Dragon Fire.
 

 

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I too have a whole list of unused names that I'd be happy to share!

 

Well, tonight we actually prepared dinner for the two of us for the first time since we came home. Up until now we've been eating food other people brought, eating takeout, or grazing out of the fridge, and all in the living room because the kitchen has been a wreck. But tonight we actually had a nice sit-down dinner AT the table. Although I had to break halfway through to nurse Amelia and put off finishing my own food... it figures. Then a couple hours later she threw up prodigious amounts all over everything, so we just got done bathing her and getting her and the crib freshly outfitted. Every day is an adventure! Other than that she's seemed normal, so I don't think she's sick or anything. I do hope she doesn't throw up like that again.

 

I don't know if I'm looking forward to the babyproofing stage either. It seems like we have so much crap everywhere and much of it is far too close to the floor. Although if we can figure out how to keep her out of the wires behind the TV and such, we may be halfway there.

 

Oh, we also finally got the newborn prefolds I ordered! As soon as our covers are done drying, we can start experimenting with them. Well, maybe we'll wait until morning. Hubby isn't up for a lot of adventuresome diapering in the middle of the night, and I can't say as I blame him much. We just bought a 50-pack of diapers at Walgreens and still have half a pack of Pampers left. I hope we'll manage to get rolling with the cloth diapers and not have to buy any more disposables after these ones. *cross fingers*

 

I'm still getting used to calling Amelia by her name. Most of the time I call her "munchkin" or "the rugrat" or some such. I have to break myself of that habit eventually or when she starts to talk she's going to think her name is Munchkin. But I have some time before that happens!

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Snowflake: Oh dear. lol.gif So what do you actually call her from day to day? Just "the baby"? (Eh, we call Miles that a fair percentage of the time anyway, and he has a name).

 

Just beware - the longer you leave announcing the name, the higher people's expectations might climb! I remember once some acquaintances of ours took weeks to name their baby... and we were all waiting with bated breath... and then they called him James. Which, y'know, is a fine, respectable name. But we were all kinda "After all that?". (Not to their faces, of course!) We'd sort of been expecting them to come up with something awesome and crazy after all that time, like Batman Dangertron.. but nope. "James". :p

 

You don't like Rosamund or Rosamond or Rosalie or Rosemary better than just plain Rosa? Or are you after something totally different? Any way we can help? Is your DH likely to cave on anything he vetoed?

 

We call her Baby Sister or The Baby (first name The, last name Baby).

 

Expectations - I know, I was thinking that! She'll probably end up being Lilja (the local equivalent of Lily, in both meaning and popularity) with no middle name. People will be like "It took you a month to come up with that??".

 

I do prefer longer versions of Rosa, but DH isn't sold. He doesn't like long names. Doesn't like middle names. Doesn't like names that have nicknames. Our biggest problem, however, is that he only wants names that are common within his language, and most of those names are completely unpronounceable and/or sound ridiculous in English. I would love to compromise and do one name from each language, but DH thinks that would look weird. You see what I'm up against!

 

By all means forward me names lists! I'm not sure that it'll help seeing as DH is opposed to most "foreign" names, but at this stage I need all the inspiration I can get.

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Hey Mama's! I hope everyone is feeling well! I completely haven't been around in the two weeks since DD was born but I have a question. When does one's cervix tend to move back up? I ask this because we dtd for the first time at two weeks post partum because I was totally feeling up for it - I had felt up for it for like a week actually but I waited just because I felt like I should. Anywho, it went well but I noticed that DH is still hitting my cervix. It's only low enough to be hit like that when I'm about to have a baby. So my question is, was that happening because we dtd sooner, or am I starting to have a partial prolapse issue or something? I've been doing some squats but not a lot. My hunch is it's fine but I just wanted to hear from others, thanks!

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In constant baby-wearing mode here. DH is running the rest of our life so I can be totally free to care for our little guy. I'm tired but managing well. My sweet DD makes me tea and breakfast in bed most days, and if not her, then DH. I feel really cared for. New little one is super demanding. Nursing is going great and most nights he is sleeping from 10-4, with a few feeds that we don't rouse for. When he does wake, he needs consoling. This during the day as well. Lots of cuddles and bouncing on the yoga ball works wonders.

Thinking of you all. Xoxo
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Hey Mama's! I hope everyone is feeling well! I completely haven't been around in the two weeks since DD was born but I have a question. When does one's cervix tend to move back up? I ask this because we dtd for the first time at two weeks post partum because I was totally feeling up for it - I had felt up for it for like a week actually but I waited just because I felt like I should. Anywho, it went well but I noticed that DH is still hitting my cervix. It's only low enough to be hit like that when I'm about to have a baby. So my question is, was that happening because we dtd sooner, or am I starting to have a partial prolapse issue or something? I've been doing some squats but not a lot. My hunch is it's fine but I just wanted to hear from others, thanks!


First of all, I am in complete shock and awe that you were up to DTD at 2 weeks postpartum! Seriously. Wow. And, yes, the cervix will move up and back. I don't know exactly how long it takes, but I know I have done cervical checks around 6 weeks pp and it is back where it should be. If you have other issues like incontinence or cramping that might mean something - but if you are feeling good enough to DTD, I would think everything is just fine!

Snowflake, good luck with the ongoing name saga! I hope you feel settled with a choice very soon.

Smokering, just join the stupid Facebook! You know you want to orngtongue.gif No, just kidding - I think if I hadn't joined way back when, I never would have. I knew a few girls from high school were on there and I really wanted to catch up with them and it all just kind of snowballed from there. I have often thought of deleting my profile because of a lot of snarkery that happens on there, but instead I have just gotten used to blocking people and only hanging with my good friends and family. I really don't blame you for holding out.

I am flying solo with all three little ones this weekend. Wish me luck! I desperately need it!
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I am glad to know that I am not the only mama who has a little fuss ball :) He generally is sweet though... just the typical newborn--- hungry 24-7 and wants to be held/patted/swaddled. Luckily my DH let's me take a big nap on the mornings that he is home. <--- makes a HUGE difference!

 

Smokering--- don't worry, I didn't want to join FB either... but almost all of my contact with the inlaws and family happens through there so it's kind of a necessity unless I want to individually email people things... ugh.  I think about cancelling my account ALL the time. It creeps me out that almost anyone can find a way to look at anything that I put on there. Even with the privacy settings...

 

I hope that all of you are doing well and feeling great! I know that I am living in a fog of sleepiness and ZERO energy... I can't believe that some of you are feeling up to DTD!!!! <--- I can't even think about that yet!!!!

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I do prefer longer versions of Rosa, but DH isn't sold. He doesn't like long names. Doesn't like middle names. Doesn't like names that have nicknames. Our biggest problem, however, is that he only wants names that are common within his language, and most of those names are completely unpronounceable and/or sound ridiculous in English. I would love to compromise and do one name from each language, but DH thinks that would look weird. You see what I'm up against!

 

By all means forward me names lists! I'm not sure that it'll help seeing as DH is opposed to most "foreign" names, but at this stage I need all the inspiration I can get.



What language is it? 

 

Rosalie and Rosalia were on our short list.  DH preferred Rosa, himself, but was flexible . . .

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Expectations - I know, I was thinking that! She'll probably end up being Lilja (the local equivalent of Lily, in both meaning and popularity) with no middle name. People will be like "It took you a month to come up with that??".

Oh, that's pretty! I like it. I don't think it'll disappoint anyone. :) Um, this is probably a dumb question, but where do you live? I was trying to figure out what language your DH speaks - Rosa sounds vaguely Spanish-flavoured to me, but Lilja doesn't.

 

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I don't know if I'm looking forward to the babyproofing stage either. It seems like we have so much crap everywhere and much of it is far too close to the floor. Although if we can figure out how to keep her out of the wires behind the TV and such, we may be halfway there.

We got lucky with the babyproofing last time, I think. DD was comparatively undestructive and unsuicidal. With a boy this time, I'm worried it might be different! We have a lot of computer stuff... and also a projector, which EVERY toddler who visits zeroes in on. It seems like the focus knob thing is twiddled and covered with sticky fingerprints after every playdate. Mind you, it's old - I think it'll probably die before the baby's old enough to pesk it!

 

We do have a lot of heavy wooden furniture, and I remember when our in-laws tried to convince me to sand the corners off my glory box so DD wouldn't bang her head on them. I was like "Are you kidding? Heads heal, but that would ruin my glory box!" :p So far, no disasters...

 

In other news, DD (our three-year-old) is driving me INSANE. She's picked up an incredibly snotty, teenagey attitude; answers back to everything. Every time I say "Don't do this" (usually "Don't squeak the baby's cheeks, that hurts him" or "Don't squash his head, he's sleeping" or variants thereof) she'll automatically reply "But I WANT to!" in a rude voice. And every time I ask her to do something, she'll say "I don't want to". Like clockwork. Every. Single. Time. And she whines! Whines about getting up, about going to sleep, about going to the potty, about putting clothes on, about putting weather-appropriate clothes on, about keeping her socks or slippers on in the house (it's cold here), about being told to sit still while we're watching something, about being told not to jump on the couch... And when she does finally consent to do something, she'll say "Fine, whatever" and stomp off to do it. It's kind of hilarious in its sheer teenageyness, but it's also incredibly obnoxious. Any magic ideas, or consolation that this is a stage all kids go through at three-and-a-third and that they grow out of it at three-and-a-third-and-a-bit?

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Smokering:  I don't think gender has to do with toddler suicidal behavior - it's my fearless 2 yr old daughter whom I'm banking will send us to the ER someday soon.

 

All three of my older kids have had what I feel like has been at LEAST a tantrum a day since our little one was born.  They have seemed to GRADUALLY decrease in quantity and quality as time has gone on . . . so my only offer of hope for you and your 3 year old is time?

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DTD - Yeah, I'm making full use of my 6 weeks on that one. But to answer the question, I felt up there the other day whilst showering and my cervix was really low.
 

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Um, this is probably a dumb question, but where do you live?


Not a dumb question! I feel really daft making vague references to it, but I try to maintain some online privacy (I don't really need my friends knowing about my cervix height) which is why I don't say where I am. I'll just PM you. Or better still you could join FB and read all about it! (Peer pressure...)

 

No idea about the 3 year old stubbornness & attitude. I can only commiserate. Our biggest issue at the moment is bedtime. It takes HOURS to get her to sleep. It's completely out of control.

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In other news, DD (our three-year-old) is driving me INSANE. She's picked up an incredibly snotty, teenagey attitude; answers back to everything. Every time I say "Don't do this" (usually "Don't squeak the baby's cheeks, that hurts him" or "Don't squash his head, he's sleeping" or variants thereof) she'll automatically reply "But I WANT to!" in a rude voice. And every time I ask her to do something, she'll say "I don't want to". Like clockwork. Every. Single. Time. And she whines! Whines about getting up, about going to sleep, about going to the potty, about putting clothes on, about putting weather-appropriate clothes on, about keeping her socks or slippers on in the house (it's cold here), about being told to sit still while we're watching something, about being told not to jump on the couch... And when she does finally consent to do something, she'll say "Fine, whatever" and stomp off to do it. It's kind of hilarious in its sheer teenageyness, but it's also incredibly obnoxious. Any magic ideas, or consolation that this is a stage all kids go through at three-and-a-third and that they grow out of it at three-and-a-third-and-a-bit?

 

This is my life...except with an added 6 year old that is commenting and behaving awesomely.  It gets SO old, so fast.  Dh has really been losing it on the older kids lately.  He just can't seem to deal with the chaos as well now with three.  He wants to react in a "Don't do that or I'm going to..." attitude whereas I try to distract and get them doing other activities so they aren't as annoying.  He is probably making me more crazy than anyone!!

 

As far as DTD...I'm SO far away from that physically and mentally.  A)  I'm touched out and can't stand the thought of someone else pawing at me.  B)  I had some fairly decent skid marks that are still healing (although nicely) that I'm not wanting to disturb until they are fully healed.  As for the cervix, mine always seemed low after my first two kids...would kegels help?  I try to remember to do them, but it's not on the top of my list.

 

On a happy note, I took a really nice long walk this morning and it was wonderful!  I left the baby home with dh and took my older girls and the dog.  We walked 3 miles.  It just felt so good to get out and move again after feeling so unable to move those last few months. 
 

 

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Hey Mama's! I hope everyone is feeling well! I completely haven't been around in the two weeks since DD was born but I have a question. When does one's cervix tend to move back up? I ask this because we dtd for the first time at two weeks post partum because I was totally feeling up for it - I had felt up for it for like a week actually but I waited just because I felt like I should. Anywho, it went well but I noticed that DH is still hitting my cervix. It's only low enough to be hit like that when I'm about to have a baby. So my question is, was that happening because we dtd sooner, or am I starting to have a partial prolapse issue or something? I've been doing some squats but not a lot. My hunch is it's fine but I just wanted to hear from others, thanks!



I'm at 5 weeks PP. DH and I DTD about 2 weeks(?) after having DD2. He kept hitting my cervix and it was not pleasant. Every time we tried after that (3 times maybe) he kept hitting it. We DTD last night and it was the first time I got to enjoy sex since about 2 months before giving birth. So for me it was 5 weeks.

 

I'm beginning to think DD broke my tailbone on her way out. It still aches really bad when I sit for long periods.

 

Life has been crazy. I'll update more later.

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Spit up question:  DD spits up constantly.  I'm pretty sure a lot of it is oversupply, but this seems to be more than my other kids.  Essentially, she nurses, I pull her off to burp, she gives me a huge burp followed a second later by a huge amount of milk.  This evening I have noticed there are streaks of bright yellow in the spit up.  What is this?!

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Wow.  So much to catch up on, and I so rarely have free hands to type!  I can do the one handed peck thing, but I'm too wordy to do that on Mothering. smile.gif

 

Lydia is doing well.  Today we had a joint shower with a friend who also had a girl 6 days after her (our daughters are 3 months apart!).  A baby boy born 10 days after Lydia was there, and we have some adorable photos of the babies laying on a blanket together and touching each other. 

 

Lydia is HUGE.  She is four weeks today and weighs 11 lbs. 4 oz. I am so thankful that I can make milk and both my babies grew fat and happy quickly, but I'm sad that I didn't hardly get to put a single newborn sized outfit on my girl!  She is so cute though!  She has dark blue eyes and light hair, long eyelashes, and a perfectly shaped head.  All of her features are little and delicate and feminine.  She got my long fingers and oval fingernails.  I just love to look at her!  Today she really seems to be responding to my smiles!  

 

We've been dealing with fussiness for several hours in the evening.  It's like she wants to sleep, but something doesn't feel right and after I get her settled, she'll wake up screaming again.  So, I've been giving her TINY amounts of Tummy Tune Up (a probiotic).  It really seems to be making a difference.  Instead of crying, she lays there happily looking around.  I'm hoping we found the secret.  We will be looking at our family diet soon and trying to eliminate food allergies, but it doesn't seem to be extreme in any case.

 

Oh, and DD gave Lydia a cold.  So now we are dealing with congestion while trying to nurse, etc. greensad.gif  I feel awful when she's struggling to clear her nose, but the bulb sucker thing is absolute torture, and she seems to be handling the baby snot on her own just fine.  Eating and sleeping is noisy, but it's still happening.  I have been taking C and D and echinacia for Lydia to get in the breastmilk.  It is bizarre though, that her snot is bright yellow!  The pediatrician saw it Friday and wasn't concerned, but it is strange looking.  I think she is better today than yesterday, so let's hope this passes soon!  It's so strange how I don't appreciate my children breathing clearly until they can't!  Let's stay well, little people!

 

I think it's a miracle that anyone can find the time to dtd.  Between a 2.5 year old who doesn't want to stay in bed at night and gets up at 7:30 AM and a newborn who doesn't sleep in the PM, we hardly get to kiss goodnight!

 

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