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post #41 of 215

nak. I don't want to do artificial nips until she is a  little older. Thankfully she has only puked those coupl of times. But she's been really fussy on the breast last night & today. :( Flailing around, latching off, etc. Not at every nursing session, but at enough of them.

post #42 of 215

We're also toying with the idea of introducing a paci. I'm not sure though. DD1 never had one and I was very happy with that decision in her case. This one's a little bit more fussy than she was though (though still not bad at all). I'm going to try to ride it out another week or so then reassess.

 

Guys, I'm scared to jinx it, but we may have finally settled on a name. The name is...*drumroll*...Elinora! DH wants to sleep on it though, so I'm awaiting final confirmation. I have my fingers, toes and eyes crossed that this one sticks!

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Guys, I'm scared to jinx it, but we may have finally settled on a name. The name is...*drumroll*...Elinora! DH wants to sleep on it though, so I'm awaiting final confirmation. I have my fingers, toes and eyes crossed that this one sticks!

Well, a tentative congratulations, then! :p Elinora's lovely... and I've been a fanof the nickname Ellie since I saw Pixar's Up. Here's hoping your husband wakes up still liking the name!

 

Took DD to her final dancing class today. Next term we'll do something different - possibly gymnastics. I want to have her in some kind of physical activity-type class - she's very good at dancing, and as future homeschoolers I want her to do some kind of phys-ed (unlike me, ahem). But her current class is way across town, and they did exactly the same stuff to the same songs every week - they weren't really teaching her any new dance skills or anything, just running around wearing fairy dresses. Which, to be fair, DD loved. :p But I think it's time to shake things up a bit! The trouble is, I can't find a decent preschool gymnastics class... or any other dancing classes either, unless I wanted to start her properly on ballet, which I don't, at all. So... more googling!

 

I think we might do Playcentre next term too. It's a parent-run thing; sort of like kindergarten. but more free-play and the parents stay with the kids. I could take Miles and chill while she played, and hopefully meet some other mothers. I need some new mum friends. :p I only have two friends with kids roughly DD's age, and one of them's busy and the other's flaky, so my playdate options are limited! I'd like to start walking regularly with someone... I could use the exercise.

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I think we might do Playcentre next term too. It's a parent-run thing; sort of like kindergarten. but more free-play and the parents stay with the kids. I could take Miles and chill while she played, and hopefully meet some other mothers. I need some new mum friends. :p I only have two friends with kids roughly DD's age, and one of them's busy and the other's flaky, so my playdate options are limited! I'd like to start walking regularly with someone... I could use the exercise.

 

Playcentre sounds kind of like Gymboree here. I need to find some other moms with babies around here too. All of my current friends have older kids and I'd like to be able to hang out with baby moms. I do go to school with a couple of other women who have babies, so that's good because they understand my schedule. But it's bad because they have my schedule so none of us have free time!
 

 

post #45 of 215

Smokering- We started our DD in a toddler gymnastics class and she LOVES it :) It's pretty much the same thing as the dance... running around to music, but they do learn how to walk on the balance beam, hang on the bar, etc. It's very exciting to see her as I was a gymnast and cheerleader for 20 years :)

I also hear ya on the making mom friends-- that is my goal for when we move to our new station in about a month. I need to talk to adults! And I need exercise--- bad.

 

P.S. Any tips to help the babe hold the paci in? I've been trying the 'pulling' technique and he can hold it in, but still drops it more than I would like. I need one of those babies who holds onto the thing for dear life!! haha

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Smokering- We started our DD in a toddler gymnastics class and she LOVES it :) It's pretty much the same thing as the dance... running around to music, but they do learn how to walk on the balance beam, hang on the bar, etc. It's very exciting to see her as I was a gymnast and cheerleader for 20 years :)

I also hear ya on the making mom friends-- that is my goal for when we move to our new station in about a month. I need to talk to adults! And I need exercise--- bad.

 

P.S. Any tips to help the babe hold the paci in? I've been trying the 'pulling' technique and he can hold it in, but still drops it more than I would like. I need one of those babies who holds onto the thing for dear life!! haha

 

Do you know where your new station is yet? You're really having to move with a new baby and a toddler? Yuck. I guess that's one good thing about having a c/s is that people won't expect you to do any heavy lifting.

 

I have no idea how to hold the paci in, other than duct tape. ;)  There are some awful-looking devices that basically strap around the baby's head to hold it in, but I can't bring myself to do that. I think all you can do is wait until he's a little older and can figure out how to keep it in.
 

 

post #47 of 215

Jenni--- We are moving to Ft. Sill Oklahoma for about 6 months and then--who knows where!? To tell you the truth, I am dreading going to Disney than moving. I was outside at Lowes with Finn in the carrier and in the BabyHawk and we were MELTING. I don't see me being able to nurse him in that either. I don't think my boobs are made for that position and he gets frustrated and is constantly pulling off. Not to mention that we have to come straight home and pack up the house---  then drive 16 hours to OK where we don't have a house picked out yet (no one will rent sight unseen, and we can't make a trip out to sign a lease). So yeah.... haha

I can swaddle Finn perfectly to where it holds the paci in... I just wish he could hold it in without the blanket. It would make my life easier :) Maybe I will just attach one of DD's headbands to it --j/k! ;)

 

My grandfather is in the process of finally letting go and passing. I have to drive to Alabama tomorrow in hopes that I will make it before he goes, to say goodbye and help my grandma with the funeral. It is very upsetting to see how heartbroken my grandma is... they have been together since they were teenagers (they actually married others after being separated by my grandfather being in Germany with the Army...and then came to marry each other after both of their divorces) She is having a really hard time processing the fact that he will be gone and she will be "alone" or "without him". It's hard to see her grieve and not be able to do or say anything helpful--- I am terrible in these situations. We are all VERY close to him and it really is devastating to our family to have him be gone--- but he has really deteriorated over the last year with Alzhiemers and neuropathy so, it is everyone's wish that his body go to Heaven where his spirit already is.

It's also going to be the first time that I leave DD--- We haven't gone a day without seeing each other and I am slightly freaking out. --- but at the same time, it will be nice to only have Finn to look after for a few days. Let's just hope that I won't have to stop too many times to nurse on the 7 hour drive!

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Jenni--- We are moving to Ft. Sill Oklahoma for about 6 months and then--who knows where!?

 

My grandfather is in the process of finally letting go and passing. I have to drive to Alabama tomorrow in hopes that I will make it before he goes, to say goodbye and help my grandma with the funeral.

 

That will only be about 3 1/2 hours from me! We could actually meet in PERSON!

 

I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa. It's hard to lose family members, even when they've been sick and dealing with major illness for a while. Your poor grandma, I'm sure it would be really hard to be apart from someone you've spent that much of your life with.

 


 

 

post #49 of 215

MaryElizabeth - I'm so sorry about your grandfather. Your poor grandma. :( Wishing your family much love during this difficult time. hug2.gif

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Hugs, MaryElizabeth. To both you and your family. You will be in my prayers.
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I'm 2 1/2 weeks postpartum now. Anyone else have ridiculously horrible posture? I've noticed that anytime I'm sitting I'm big time hunched over. I'll catch myself and sit up straight and it seems to take more effort to stay up straight than it should but if I'm not thinking about it I'll just be so hunched over. My posture has never been perfect but this is ridiculous! Is this related to my abdominal muscles still recovering from pregnancy? I've never used a belly binder but was looking into them last night and in their description it said they help with posture. Is it worth it to get one? I don't know. I'm just tired of being a hunch back. redface.gif

post #52 of 215

swell_mel, my posture is pretty wretched, but I attribute most of that to it being lousy at baseline, plus also the added challenges of breastfeeding and/or typing with a baby on my lap (like I'm doing now!) :(

 

We had a little outing today--went to a local restaurant/sports bar for lunch and to watch the U.S. women play in the World Cup semifinals. Amelia did very well--no crying at all! On a whim earlier today I tried to nurse her in the Baby Hawk and she did great, so she was nursing most of the time we were at the restaurant. My husband was freaking out before the expedition about my plans to NIP and I think he didn't realize how little skin I'd be showing. Now that I've got him somewhat acclimated, I can try some other time not in the sling. He keeps thinking that we're going to get thrown out of some public place and/or I'll be flashing everybody. In the sling, you can't tell what I'm doing unless you're right on top of me, and even then you can't see anything except a sliver of boob and a bit of skin at my side. It does make it harder to eat my food, though.

 

Also, we got me some nursing bras yesterday, although today I soaked through the bra, a breast pad, and my shirt, on both sides. *sigh*.

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I'm 2 1/2 weeks postpartum now. Anyone else have ridiculously horrible posture? I've noticed that anytime I'm sitting I'm big time hunched over. I'll catch myself and sit up straight and it seems to take more effort to stay up straight than it should but if I'm not thinking about it I'll just be so hunched over. My posture has never been perfect but this is ridiculous! Is this related to my abdominal muscles still recovering from pregnancy? I've never used a belly binder but was looking into them last night and in their description it said they help with posture. Is it worth it to get one? I don't know. I'm just tired of being a hunch back. redface.gif


Yep. I definitely have that. I also attributed it to weak abdominals after pregnancy.
post #54 of 215

Ditto on the horrible posture--- nursing a baby kills me! I need the chiro BAD.

 

Thanks ladies for the well wishes. Hopefully I won't get hit with a brick of emotion when I get there. I hate feeling out of control and I hate crying... especially in front of people!

post #55 of 215

MaryElizabeth: Wow, your grandparents have quite the love story! I'm sorry to hear about your grandpa. :( Alzheimer's terrifies me.

 

I have terrible posture, but I always have done, so nothing new!

 

I got inspired to sew yesterday - wanted to try making some nursing tops for myself - and my bally sewing machine packed up. Again. At times I loathe that machine with a fiery intensity. It does this thing where the thread gets caught around the bobbin... holder... thing.... and hums and sticks and you end up with heaps of loops on the back of the fabric, and/or the fabric gets sucked down into the feed dogs. Anyone know what I'm talking about, and how to fix it without spending money? I got it serviced recently and it worked again for a while... sigh.

 

I'm still depressed, but I have a few things to look forward to this week. Tomorrow a friend's coming for a playdate (heh - supposedly - she's the flaky one!); and tomorrow night we're having friends around for burgers and Star Trek-watching (a new, post-baby tradition to replace DH's weekly movie night at his friend's house, because I refuse to be left alone every Saturday night with two kids while he goes out and buys junk food, I mean really); then on Monday I'm going to see Harry Potter with two friends and a sister (and no baby - which reminds me, I need to boil Mum's old breastpump and the bottles, to see if he'll take one - ulp!). And sometime during the school holidays, we're going out with my family to a farm with mini-donkeys and stuff, which DD will love.

 

Soooo, what can I make for dessert for tomorrow night? Not ice cream, because DH forgot to refreeze the ice cream maker after my last batch. Mousse, possibly, but I'll have to make a double batch. Profiteroles? Nah... hmm. I shall think on it. I love making desserts. It's the twelve-year-old in me.

post #56 of 215
Smokering, have you played with the tension a little bit? Maybe the bobbin case needs to be replaced? As for desserts, i have been craving those shortbread cookies with a blob of jelly in the middle. Yum! Thats my suggestion.

My posture is awful, too, although it has gotten better over the years. I am so much more aware of it now and try very hard to sit up straight whenever i think of it.
post #57 of 215

Bad posture club representing! I typically have rather good posture but at the moment feel slouchy. I blame it on how different it is for me to carry pregnancy versus being solo in my body. I'm trying to be mindful. Shapewear kinda stuff is helpful in reminding me of good posture but it's terribly uncomfortable and hot so I don't bother. I'm also trying to remember to suck in my gut 'cause it's not cute postpartum. 

 

My baby - who is three weeks old today! - takes a paci. He's the first baby since my 12yo to take one. He uses it minimally - sometimes when having a mega fussy not happy with the boobies night he'll fall asleep in seconds with one and sometimes for a few minutes in the car. Thankfully no nipple confusion. 

post #58 of 215

If you have a paci with a loop in it (like a Nuk) you can put a small washcloth or preemie cloth diaper through the loop and tuck that around or under baby. When my second was in the NICU, they did this to keep his paci in as he was always flicking it out and then pulling at his tubes.

 

Smokering, go to www.sewingmamas.com and post what kind of machine you have and your problem. You'll have it fixed in no time!! Lots of really knowledgeable folks there. What I always recommend is 1) new needle. 2) COMPLETE rethread and rewind a new bobbin.  These two things fix MANY problems with stitching!

 

I have noticed the bad posture thing too! Never thought it might be about the weak abdominals.....but makes sense!

post #59 of 215

MaryElizabeth, sorry about your Grandfather.  May you find peace.

 

Lotus despises pacifiers so she just uses me as one. DH wants to be able to giver a bottle but I am too paranoid about nipple confusion.  Our last was breast and bottle fed because it was an adoption so I induced but didn't have quite enough and since she was a preemie she couldn't skimp on food at all.

 

Posture isn't too bad here except when I am holding her.  I did notice 2 days after she was born my abs hurt just like when you don't do yoga for awhile than you really work the core muscles good and feel it the next day.  But i was happy to know that they were building back up.  I dropped the 18lbs. I put on with the pregnancy just with the birth and 5lbs. more afterward so all I have left is muscle toning which comes naturally with all the stairs, rocking and lifting I have been doing.  Could use a good massage though *LOL*

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My grandfather is in the process of finally letting go and passing. I have to drive to Alabama tomorrow in hopes that I will make it before he goes, to say goodbye and help my grandma with the funeral. It is very upsetting to see how heartbroken my grandma is... they have been together since they were teenagers (they actually married others after being separated by my grandfather being in Germany with the Army...and then came to marry each other after both of their divorces) She is having a really hard time processing the fact that he will be gone and she will be "alone" or "without him". It's hard to see her grieve and not be able to do or say anything helpful--- I am terrible in these situations. We are all VERY close to him and it really is devastating to our family to have him be gone--- but he has really deteriorated over the last year with Alzhiemers and neuropathy so, it is everyone's wish that his body go to Heaven where his spirit already is.

It's also going to be the first time that I leave DD--- We haven't gone a day without seeing each other and I am slightly freaking out. --- but at the same time, it will be nice to only have Finn to look after for a few days. Let's just hope that I won't have to stop too many times to nurse on the 7 hour drive!


Hugs & safe travels, mama! I'm sorry you are losing your grandfather. I hope you find peace soon.

 

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