The more I think about it, the more I realize that "daddy" doesn't really fit me any more than "mama" does. Badger will continue calling me whatever he wants to call me (at the moment it's mama) but when the new baby comes (I can hardly believe I'm even saying that) I'd like to have a gender neutral name to call myself with him/her. I've been doing some poking around online, but haven't come up with anything. Max is papa...what can I be?
Gender neutral word for mom/dad?
The Hebrew word for mother is "Ima" (pronounced eee-muh). Not exactly gender-neutral since it means mother, but it is something different. You could always make up a word or do a variation of a word to personalize it while also making it gender neutral. Something like "Amma" is similar to Mama which would make it really easy for Badger to switch over and call you that...
Hi Maxsfox ... There are a couple of older threads on this subject, if you care to search for them. I'll chime in here though. My partner is genderqueer and our little one calls her Baba. I've also heard of mada (combined mama and dada). And of course you want to be called by a title ... after all, that's a huge component to being a parent and being recognized by the world at large as a person who has a unique connection to your child. It's a rare straight parent who would prefer their kids to call them by their first names. I don't know any.
Here's an old thread: http://www.mothering.com/community/forum/thread/1161292/genderqueer-parent-names
My partner goes by Duda, though mostly our toddler calls DP "Du" or "Ma-Du," the latter of which he made up completely on his own. (I'm Mommy.)
As an aside, I don't call either of my boys "son." But I generally don't call them by their real names either unless they're in danger or I need to get their attention quickly for some reason. Each has his own set of pet names with which I'm sure I will embarrass them as teens. :)
I do, which is why I suggested it. But these are consensual living types who care about what their children prefer as much as their own preferences.