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post #21 of 43

BaconLover have you ever tried Morning Star Farms "fake" bacon.  My boys love it!  My vegetarian dh HATES the smell of it though.

 

I have been such a slouch today.  I've pawned off my too oldest boys to their friends for playdates/sleepovers and my 4yo is taking a 3 hour nap.  Totally what I've needed today after having a US this morning that hasn't eased my mind one bit about what the hell is going on in my body.  

 

3 things

I'm 40 and completely freaking out about the prospect of having a 4th child.

I work full time as a social worker, but I have July off - (which is such a blessing considering the turn of events!)

my last son was born in water at home, and I hope for the same with this one!

 

post #22 of 43

Harmony96 - please make sure you go back to school with a plan, not just go back to school and think that will automatically fix the income issue.  Neither DH nor I have a 4yr degree (DH doesn't even have a 2yr) and we earn a decent living.  In fact, DH has less education, but earns the majority of our income.  We've lived off just his income for a long time. 

 

Anyway - nice you see you all in this chat thread.  I too have a WAY overgrown yard, but have never really been a yard work person (grew up in apts and townhouses).  DH was the one that wanted the yard.  I did tell him that I don't do yards.  He doesn't really do diapers, I don't really do yards.  We each help from time to time with it but it's really not our thing.

 

Thankfully I have a crazy awesome FIL who comes over every now and then to take care of our yard.  We do go out and help him.  Right now, when he comes, we're trying to tame the jungle our back yard has become.  My FIL actually apologized and said it was his fault our back yard was so overgrown.  He's got a great heart, but I know that our back yard is OUR fault.  Not his. lol

 

Anyway three things...

 

1) I am the oldest of 2, DH is the oldest of 10 (7 biological, 3 are adopted cousins).

2) My sister is also pg and expecting her 3rd.  We were actually pg together the last time too and were due in the same months as this time. I haven't told her I am pg yet, but I know she'll be super thrilled!

3) I want to do a belly cast because the last one I did was left in a closet downstairs and got all dusty and bent.  DH said just not very long ago that I need to do another one since that one is a tad beat up now.  At the time I was thinking that is highly unlikely, but now we might just get that chance!

post #23 of 43

Frenchie! Great to have a fellow vegan! I was vegan when I was pregnant with DS but I had such horrible food aversions (and hyperemesis) that I did try a few things with dairy/eggs in them. For example, I could not bear almost all protein foods but I could stomach Quorn products which are made with egg whites. I even tried real dairy ice-cream during a period of time I was having problems keeping anything down.... It didn't help, though, and I didn't pursue it. I am hoping not to have to do that this time... I'm a vegan on ethical grounds and I was really conflicted by it. We'll have to share recipes/tips!

 

Baconlover, my dad still teases me about missing bacon as it was the hardest thing for me to give up.... mind you, I've ben veggie since I was 10 so we're talking 25 years ago lol.gif

 

3surfboys, will you take any time off when you have this baby? I have the summers off (though I am meant to be doing research!) and it is a nice perk.

 

Oh, darn, I have forgotten my other personals..... will be back.

post #24 of 43
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Harmony96 - please make sure you go back to school with a plan, not just go back to school and think that will automatically fix the income issue.  Neither DH nor I have a 4yr degree (DH doesn't even have a 2yr) and we earn a decent living.  In fact, DH has less education, but earns the majority of our income.  We've lived off just his income for a long time.



Oh, definitely, we wouldn't go back to school until we want to figure out what we want to do when we grow up, lol.  But our living is far from decent right now and neither DH nor I have the experience needed to do any career jumping.  I have some sporadic work at home stuff that I do, but we absolutely can not make ends meet on his income alone.  We were doing okay before March, when his pay structure changed and he took a HUGE pay cut (with the potential w/ the new structure to actually make more than he was before, but that hasn't come CLOSE to happening yet), but now we're not doing okay at all, and as each week passes, it's seeming more and more like it's a permanent situation (me needing to bring in some income).  He can't even get a second job, either... neither of us can, b/c his hours are from 9:00 a.m. to 9:00 p.m. already.  :/  I'm trying hard to be content in knowing that this is very likely our permanent situation, but it is very, very hard.  :(

post #25 of 43

Better than Bacon???  They must be amazing!  I do really like pumpkin though- pumpkin pie s my favorite of all desserts.
 

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My 6 year old loves bacon.  He also loves pumpkin chocolate chip muffins, and when I asked him to name his recipe he decided on "Better than Bacon Muffins" lol.gif



 

post #26 of 43

Andrea, that's a very tough situation to be in. I do think it is possible to move in a different direction, though I think it also entails a lot of luck. I'm a college professor and do see non traditional students come through my classes. My experience is that these students - motivated by very real things - succeed in ways that their younger colleagues do not.

post #27 of 43

3 surf boys, I haven't tried Morningstar bacon, but I have tried their hamburger patties though.  Not bad, a veggie pancake :)

 

zubeldia, I've been thinking about hunting my own wild boar to aquire my bacon fix.  Given the danger they pose, I wouldnt feel bad about decreasing their population.

 

Harmony 96, I was thinking of changing careers earlier and dental hygiene is looking pretty good.  On the other hand, a lot of people fall into their future careers by talking to other people and filling a need somewhere.  It doesn't take school to do that, just opportunity.  Dr's offices always need a good offic manager.  Good luck and the career move, Its always stressful, but there's always a way to make things work.

post #28 of 43

Hi, just poking my head in here before heading off to bed so that I will be subscribed!! Getting too sleepy to really focus enough to comment on anyone else's stuff!!

 

My three things:

1. I speak three languages fluently--English, Spanish, and Romanian (and not because of heritage)...and have lived in three foreign countries (though one was just for about 5-6 months).

2. I love to be organized and to have a generally simplified, minimalist house, but I won't let anyone see our trashed out home office (it's like a bastion of mess)!!

3. I love some pretty random stuff that mainstream folks find quirky...like hoopdancing, renfaires, steampunk, and swing dancing...with all the garb/costuming involved with each...though we've not got a lot of money to spend on garb so I upcycle stuff to wear.

post #29 of 43

Its so fun to learn more about each of you!  Great Idea to post three things.

 

Texanromaniac- my sister is adopted from Romania.  It was a long, expensive process for my parents, but totally worth it.  She is 17 now.  They started trying to adopt when she was a couple months old and couldn't get her to the states until whe was 15 months old.  All she said at the time was "Da" when you asked her if she wanted something.  So cute!  I am curious where your love of Romania stems from.

 

Three things...

 

1) I am expecting # 6, and it will be 6 children in 11 years for me. I am 32. 

 

2) I love being self sufficient-- I work from home with a business I founded, homeschool my children, have had homebirths with the last two, help run our family farm--- we have 150 acres including a  100 tree orchard and I put up enough fruit to make smoothies and canned fruit and dried fruit to last the year, we grow our own wheat and veggies, I'm a beekeeper, we raise chickens, I make what I can from scratch... you get the picture.

 

3)  I already know this baby's sex... Still a little early cause I am not 6 weeks yet, but give me one more week and I will not have a doubt.  Just know my body that well after this many pregnancies!

post #30 of 43
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Texanromaniac- my sister is adopted from Romania.  It was a long, expensive process for my parents, but totally worth it.  She is 17 now.  They started trying to adopt when she was a couple months old and couldn't get her to the states until whe was 15 months old.  All she said at the time was "Da" when you asked her if she wanted something.  So cute!  I am curious where your love of Romania stems from.


It's kind of funny cause I spent most of my childhood in Mexico (parents were missionaries there) and until I was 16 had hardly ever NOT been able to understand what people were saying...since we lived in Mexico, Texas, or Arizona until I was 15 and I was fluent in Spanish from the age of four...and so if I wasn't hearing English I was hearing Spanish. VERY strange to get off a plane in Europe and realize that I couldn't understand what people around me were saying!!

 

But when I was 16 we moved to Romania to be missionaries there (this was not too long after the revolution in December 1989 and we arrived July of 1992). I was VERY against moving to another country again. I was quite happy settled into our home church in Texas and going to our church's Christian school (after mostly homeschooling up to that point). But go I did, as I was still underage, and it changed me. I learned Romanian through osmosis, really...never had classes or anything....just asked friends (many of whom in the early days there spoke English) how to say stuff or what stuff meant. During the two years my family was first there I made many friends and grew to love the country, the people, the food, and the culture...so much so that I accompanied my family back for one more year after their furlough before I headed off to college and they headed to their new field of Peru.

 

Even after all that I wanted so badly to go back that I ended up spending three summers during and after college going back and working in summer camps...and finally I moved there myself from June 2005-June 2006 as a non-traditional missionary myself. While there I worked in a summer camp, worked in a baby orphanage for babies that had been abandoned at hospitals, worked with another orphan outreach going to a foster home for boys once a week and an orphanage for girls once a week and doing programs with them, worked with the youth group of a local church, and taught English classes with another foundation (to older people who worked at the gas company)!! One thing I will never forget is delivering the Christmas boxes from Samaritan's Purse and having these little orphans who had practically nothing to call their own insist on turning around and giving me something from their boxes to remember them by...it was amazing!!

 

The only reason I am not still in Romania is because I met and fell in love with my husband and moved back to the US to marry him...and of course we got a house and started a family. But someday we totally plan to take Bug and Sprite (and any surprise baby that might show up once we have our two) when they are older and travel around Europe and I'll be able to introduce my husband and children to my other country!! :-D

 

post #31 of 43

8in: your stats are similar to my #6 stats :)

 

Andrea: (((HUGS))) one thing I've heard people say recently is that your life is not a snapshot.  It's a filmstrip.  You life is always changing and often where you are NOW is NOT where you will always be.  Especially if you decide you want to be somewhere different.  Your mind subconsiously starts looking for ways to make it happen.  Granted it's unlikely to happen overnight, I'm pulling for you that things will get better. 

 

What type of work does your husband do?  The reason my husband has a good paying job without schooling is because he's in a trade.  So he learned on the job for years and has enough experience and training to earn more.  There are also local apprenticeship programs that allow that same type of opportunity.  DH has been told a number of times he's "lucky" he has a good job.  He's been working to support us from the age of 19.  He took the first job he could get and worked is butt off.  He works hard and doesn't miss work very often unless there is a good reason.  He's had his share of 12, 16, and even 18 hour days. 

 

He applied 3 times at a better job when we was at his first one before he ever got in.  We just kept trying.  Same for the job he has now.  He applied and interviewed a number of times before he finally got hired.  He knew he wanted something different and just kept at it.  So it's a tad humorous and a tad annoying when people tell him he's "lucky."

 

There are also a lot of people who just go with an interest they have, learn a ton about it, and find a way to offer a service to others.  I'm currently reading a book 48 Days to the Work You Love because while DH's job pays well, the environment in which he works is not one he's excited about.  He does it because it pays well and cares for us which he feels is his responsibility.  I know he can be just as successful doing something he really truly loves, but it's a tough transition to make and one he has a hard time wrapping his head around.  Tough to leave a job that provides well even though you hate being there.  Plus, in his mind "work" is not "fun."  So he has a hard time with the concept of earning a living doing something he "wants" to be doing. 

 

He's always done anything to support us to that I could do what I wanted (stay home with the kids, coach softball, do the online work that I do).  So I want that for him too.  It's not going to happen overnight, but it's definitely something I want us to move toward.  While I'm highly unsure of how exactly we're going to make it happen. I DO want it to happen within the next 5 years, so working on it. I refuse to accept that every day my husband will wake up early and go to a job he'd rather not be at for 10+ hours a day and do this for the next 30 years.  I want more for him. 

 

While neither one of us can clearly see how something drastically different from our current life will work, I'm still going after it!

post #32 of 43

Thanks, Stacie.  I feel like my filmstrip is just one frame long, though, lol.  DH is in sales right now.  In the past, he's been in retail management (but for a small store, just a few total employees, nothing big or anything).  He also was briefly in a plumbing apprenticeship program, but didn't like the frequent layoffs lasting for 6 weeks or more, didn't like the work environment, didn't think his back could handle doing it for the rest of his working life.  The job he has now, he's had since right before DS was born, and it's by far the longest-held job he's had since we've been here (since July of 2007).  Nothing else has lasted more than 6 months for various reasons.  He has applied at other places but hasn't even gotten called for any interviews.  :( 

 

So until some very clear answers come soon, I'm trying to be content with our current situation.  Maybe some more film clips will fall out of the sky and DH and I can splice them into our single frame, lol.  But until then, we're on a continuous loop.

post #33 of 43

Andrea: does he like sales? 

post #34 of 43

He likes people.  This particular sales job puts him around people all day long.  And when he puts forth even a little effort, he's good at it.  This isn't a job where we're going to get super-rich off of, but if he goes somewhere else, then he'd have to work two jobs to come close to making ends meet, so it wouldn't really be any better situation than we're in now. 

post #35 of 43

I love the three things idea, here are mine:

 

1) This is my third pregnancy and all my children will be 4 years and 2 months apart - not planned.

2) I love lists and pieces of paper. Notebooks, little pads, pieces of paper I LOVE them. I continuously have at least 3 lists going at a time. I used to put - 'figure out what to do with life' on my list for like 2 years but I leave that off now. I am already looking forward to the lists that I will be complying for this pregnancy.

3) If there is a choice between two movies I will pick the one that is the shortest without even reading the description - drives my dh crazy:)

 

 

post #36 of 43

Three things:

 

1) I am a knitter.  I had been avoiding knitting for baby because I was dealing with infertility and it was too sad.  This cycle, before I knew I was pregnant, I started knitting my first baby sweater.  Maybe it was lucky, as this was the cycle.  

2) I love to watch professional Starcraft 2 games.  I play too, but I'm not very good.  (Adding this explanation since lots of people don't even know e-sports exists.  You know how there are professional sports teams where the best guys get paid to practice and play?  Yeah, that exists for SC2 as well.  There are people who make their living playing, and people who make their living providing the commentary for the games.  There are tournaments with up to $85 000 in prize money for the winner.)

3) I cook huge amounts of food at once on purpose so we will have leftovers and I won't have to cook for a few days.  

 

 

 

post #37 of 43

Kyamo, I had NO clue you could get paid for playing a video game (it is a computer/video game, right?).  Wow!!!  I am venturing to GenCon in Indianapolis for this first time this year and I hear they play video games there, too...will have to see if there is someone amazing playing there.  Maybe not, since I don't think too many "pros" go; just game-lovers. 

 

Harmony, I'd like to think your current situation is not your permanent situation, too.  It might take a while, especially while the kids are little, but I bet you'll get to move or do some of the things you want to in time.  *hugs*

 

3surfboys - I am a social worker, too!  What kind of social work do you do?  I am in geriatrics/health care.  Was in hospice, but got a better offer from a home care agency, which paid me more to work less, so I went for it.

 

Those on meds - SSRIs are class C in pregnancy.  I took 20 mg fluoxetine last pregnancy and had NO troubles for me or DS.  Since I took it for anxiety, I have a different med this pregnancy, which is class B (safer than class C); maybe you can work with your doc on finding something class B that would help you?  Or at least feel somewhat even on an SSRI?

 

Thanks, bcblondie for starting this thread!

 

My three things:

1.  This is my second pregnancy and I HATE waiting the billion weeks until you can "announce" to everyone.  My closest family know now, but I want to scream it to the world.  On the other hand, the anxiety of something going wrong is killing me, too!

2.  I am a knitter, too.

3.  I work four days per week and I am already starting to get really tired and I WISH I DIDN'T have to work!

post #38 of 43
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Kyamo, I had NO clue you could get paid for playing a video game (it is a computer/video game, right?).  Wow!!!  I am venturing to GenCon in Indianapolis for this first time this year and I hear they play video games there, too...will have to see if there is someone amazing playing there.  Maybe not, since I don't think too many "pros" go; just game-lovers. 

 


Yes, it's a computer strategy game.   What kind of gaming do you do?  

post #39 of 43

Andrea: just keep your eyes open for a better sales job.  It's a gift to be a good sales person.  In the right position it can be very profitable.  Just keep looking around!


About video games - I've heard of people who play online games and get to certain check points or levels that others have a hard time getting to and then they SELL the game they were playing for good money.  Seriously - after I heard that I was convinced that if there is anything you are really into and are better at in some ways than most people, you can earn money doing it. 

 

Other - Anyone else wake up with a dry mouth even though you know you drank a lot of water the day before?

post #40 of 43
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Other - Anyone else wake up with a dry mouth even though you know you drank a lot of water the day before?


ALL the time!  My dry mouth wakes me up at night, lol.

 

In other news, I am telling my co-teacher tonight.  Still agonizing over just the right words to use, lol, but I'm sure something will come to me.  Morning sickness has arrived today so I'll probably mention that to her, lol.

 

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