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post #21 of 68

I love my rings so much, but unfortunately have been dealing with an ezcema flare-up and the rings were irritating it so I haven't worn them in months. Mine is a plain white-gold band with an engagement band channel set with 5 tiny sapphires and 4 tiny diamonds, alternating. It looks like this. I've always loved sapphires and did NOT want an engagement ring that had a gem sticking up to catch on things, so this was perfect for me and perfect for our budget too :) 

post #22 of 68
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Originally Posted by Smokering View Post

Tinybutterfly, that's beautiful!

 

I love my rings. :) DH and I looked everywhere in town before he finally pointed to one and said "What about that?". It wasn't an official engagement ring, because its main stone is a sapphire (I'm not keen on diamonds), so it was cheap! :p I initially wanted a big chunky Celtic knotwork-type ring, but eventually conceded that it would look ridiculous on my tiny hand. The ring we chose is small, with a tiny bit of knotwork/detaily stuff on either side of a sapphire flanked by two cubit zirconia. The jeweler tried to bully us into upgrading to real diamonds (for a mere thousand dollars - heh). DH would have caved, but I talked him out of it, so we could buy an awesome knife set instead. :p I wasn't really aware of the blood diamonds thing back then, I just didn't see the point in upgrading when the cubit zirconia looked just fine!

 

If I had to do it again I might like a slightly darker sapphire - mine's a Ceylonese sapphire and sort of changes colour depending on the light, and I like it better when it looks darker. But other than that, I love 'em. We got them in rose gold - DH's ring too - and people always comment on it. I'm also glad I took the advice of a friend and did the "baby-scratching test" against my cheek, to make sure the stones didn't stick out too far so as to scratch babies or get caught on knitted clothes or whatever. I wanted to wear them every day, and I didn't want it to cause havoc! (That also put the kybosh on my idea of a seed-pearl ring. Apparently seed pearls dissolve if you so much as wash the dishes with them or look at 'em funny - pretty, but not at all heavy-duty.)

 

Sadly, I took my rings off for my recent pregnancy, and now I've had the baby they don't seem to fit back on! I'm hoping it's a temporary thing... fingers don't permanently grow during pregnancy, do they? I know feet can... but my rings fit fine after I had DD, so I don't know why my fingers would wait for my second pregnancy to become fatter. I'll be very annoyed if I can't wear them any more, and we can't afford to get them resized at the moment.



 



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Originally Posted by mamalisa View Post

Cat13, your rings are beautiful!

 

This is going to sound shallow, but whatever.  I wish I would have got a bigger fancier ring.  I was 22 and being very conservative because we didn't have much money.  Now it's 15 (!!!) years later and we're in a much different place financially.  I love my ring, but it's not really "me" now.  Plus it doesn't fit my RA swollen hands so I'm wearing  a cheap ring I bought in Vegas.  I'd really like to have my ring reset so I'm going to start saving for that.  It's got great diamonds so I'm sure I can make it something 40 year old me loves instead of 22 year old me :)



 



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Oh, I'm not anti-them on a political/ethical level. Well, blood diamonds, yes, obviously. But I don't hold to the view that cubit zirconia or ethically-sourced diamonds shouldn't be worn because they're promoting the wearing of diamonds... like the argument that wearing fake fur encourages people to wear real fur. I think that's taking personal responsibility to a slightly paranoid level... and I sincerely doubt that my cubit zirconia have caused anyone to rush out and buy actual diamonds.

 

No, I'm just not that keen on how diamonds look, compared to my favourite stones (sapphires and pearls). Not too fussed on emeralds either, but then, no-one seems to feel that a "proper" engagement ring should have emeralds, so it's not an issue. :p My sapphire ring usually gets compliments, but I have had a few slightly pitying "Oh, that's pretty" comments from people who obviously felt I'd been cheated out of my rightful diamond! (And yes, my ring is tiny, but anything bigger would dwarf my hand. So no, I'm not going to "upgrade to a bigger one" when "we're more financially secure"...)

 

Now, my sister lost an argument with her DH when they got engaged. She'd made it VERY clear that she wanted to help pick the ring, and that he was not to do the present-a-small-box-while-proposing thing. But he did it anyway. Which I think was kind of rotten of him - but what could she do, say no? Well, she coulda... but she didn't. :p The ring's OK - a pretty standard diamond-on-a-band, which isn't nearly as original as I suspect she'd have chosen herself; but it has a really high profile and must catch on stuff and scratch it all the time. Anyway, if he felt the proposal scenario wouldn't have been complete without presenting a ring in a box, couldn't he have chosen a token ring for her to wear until they got around to finding one together? A shell ring or something? People do that. I mean, she had expressly asked him not to choose the ring ahead of time... and she's the one who has to wear it.

 

Aaaaand, I don't know why I'm getting so riled up about this, especially as it was over a year ago. :p



The saleswoman we worked with when dh bought the last car we purchased had a GORGEOUS sapphire engagment ring. It had a dark blue emerald-cut ( rectangular) sapphire in the center and two smaller emerald-cut diamonds on either side, very much like katelove's ring. I was gawking I am sure and I did tell her how beautiful I thought it was. And it wasn't large, it was just so pretty!

 

Oh, my fingers stayed bigger after my second preganancy for about a year? then went back down in size. Hopefully, your's will, too! 

 

My MIL had her rings reset into a band with a clasp in the back, so she could get the set over her knuckle, then tighten it once it was in place. That worked really well for her.

 

I know. I don't have issues with CZ or conflict-free diamonds either. And some of my rings were purchased before I knew about that stuff, but putting them away now is like shutting the barn door after the horse is already out. If I purchase again, I will be more mindful.

 

I totally get the issue with your sister's engagement scenario and the emotions tied to it. We had a similar "mess" and 29 years later it still has not really been straightened out. It was never about the ring per se, but about not being heard ( and then later not being heard again and again!) so I wear my anniversary rings most of the time. For some people it's just a ring and they are not jewelry people. For me, it was a very sentimental piece of jewelry and I AM a jewelry person. And I get that if your sister is the one who is going to wear it for the rest of her married life, it should at least be something she likes. 

 

I just typed a long explanation of what went on with our rings and then deleted it. Um, yea TMI. shy.gif

 

I think most people don't use emeralds as an engagement stone because they are fairly delicate and can't be worn on an everyday basis usually. I guess you could, but would just have to realize the stone might chip or scratch easily.

 

Sapphires and rubies are more commen in engagement rings over in Europe I think? Here in the States people tend to traditionally get diamonds and also bigger diamonds than in other countries. 

 

Here's a thread from a jewelry-lover's site full of colored engagement rings. Keep in mind these folks LOVE gemstones and often ( not always) go for the bigger is better line, though I have seen some gorgeous smaller rings there, the "average" size of member's stones who post pictures at pricescope is inflated because these are major gemstone fans. 

 

http://www.pricescope.com/forum/colored-stones/colored-stone-e-rings-eyecandy-t29435.html

 

I am part magpie or crow, too, and I LOVE to go look at jewelry stores, etsy and I used to visit pricescope regularly just to look at all the pretty pieces. I notice other people's jewelry and will often remark on pretty pieces. 

 

Thanks so much for sharing in this thread everyone! I really do love seeing or hearing about what you all have, like, don't like, etc. It's fun to see the variety. 

 

If I had the chance to start from scratch...I am still not sure what I would do. 

 

I do like my anniversary bands a lot. Like I said, that is what I mostly wear. I have some right-hand rings I sometimes wear on my lefthand with just the plain band if I feel like switching things up. 

 

I should have been a pirate. Arrrrrrrr! winky.gif

 


Edited by tinybutterfly - 7/12/11 at 4:51pm
post #23 of 68

DH and I just had simple bands.  His was destroyed and we have replaced it.  Mine still exists, and I like the sentimental concept but!  I want something different.  I hint to DH, but he is clueless.  One of these days I am just going to get something for myself. :P

 

post #24 of 68

Mine is a really simple ring with a tear shaped diamond.  I still like the way it looks, but I have to take it off to wash dishes, because it can catch and tear rubber gloves as I put them on or take them off, and that bugs me.  I was looking for a ring that stuck out less at the time, but I couldn't find one that would sit flat against a plain gold band.  I would never replace it though, because a new ring wouldn't have the emotional significance.    

post #25 of 68

We got new ones when had the sacrament of marriage this year, when we became Catholic. When had our civil ceremony almost 20 years ago we eloped and didn't even have rings, dh put his fathers ring on me and then I gave it back to him. So I'd never worn a ring that I was married with. I had various rings I wore over the years that represented wedding rings but the ones we have now we were married with and they were blessed at our wedding by the priest so they are sacramentals also. 

 

 

post #26 of 68
I love my engagement ring. The main diamond isn't all that large, but is cut in a way that gives it amazing depth. And it casts rainbows. I forget what the jeweler called it. If we were doing it again, I might have the ring made in 18 carat instead of 14 carat gold.

It was really hard to choose a wedding band. I didn't want anything that was made to fit together with the other ring, just something that complimented it, so I wound up with a really plain band. If I had it to do again, I'd get one to match dh's, because it has a beautiful braid down the middle, and I would obsess less about how it "went with" the other.
post #27 of 68
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Originally Posted by mamalisa View Post

This is going to sound shallow, but whatever.  I wish I would have got a bigger fancier ring.  I was 22 and being very conservative because we didn't have much money.  Now it's 15 (!!!) years later and we're in a much different place financially.  I love my ring, but it's not really "me" now.  Plus it doesn't fit my RA swollen hands so I'm wearing  a cheap ring I bought in Vegas.  I'd really like to have my ring reset so I'm going to start saving for that.  It's got great diamonds so I'm sure I can make it something 40 year old me loves instead of 22 year old me :)


 

I understand this.  While I like my rings, I would pick something different nearly 20 years later.  My original set is quite complex and I don't wear them often.  If I had it to do over, I would get a larger, simple solitare and a simple but wide band.  DH bought me a cast gold ring to match his but it is chunky and it bothers my finger at times.
 

 


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Originally Posted by tinybutterfly 

I think most people don't use emeralds as an engagement stone because they are fairly delicate and can't be worn on an everyday basis usually. I guess you could, but would just have to realize the stone might chip or scratch easily.

 


Good emeralds are also very expensive.  I went through a period where I wanted an emerald cut emerald ring and the jeweler (a cousin of mine) said it would be over $8,000 and that a good diamond would be less expensive.
 

 

post #28 of 68
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Our rings are handmade wooden rings made from Koa wood (from Hawaii, where we live right now) and California Oak (since we met in CA). They are so beautiful and special and I am so in love with them.... BUT... I voted to get simple titanium bands instead of these. I'm much more utilitarian than DH, and I hate that I have to take my ring off for things like swimming, gardening, etc. We both only wear our rings a few days of the week because of this. While I don't mind being ring-less, I hate having to take it off/put it on.  

 

As for changing finger sizes in pregnancy... I hope mine don't! They are already pretty large now as it is. I've been ok with mine so far, except on days that I am really swollen.

 

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My engagement ring(s) was similar.  I am so not a jewelry gal and I am not fond of diamonds (morally and esthetically) so DH knew that I would never wear a "traditional" ring (plus, I'm kinda cheap and can't justify spending that kind of money on a ring).  At the time, DH had a business making skateboards and he made me a ring out of the wood. (He had to make me another one about a year later because the sealant chipped and it got water damaged, so I understand the pain of having to constantly take it off.)  And my wedding band is a simple 2mm palladium flat band. Boring, I know! orngtongue.gif  But it's practical and fits my lifestyle.

post #29 of 68

This is my ring, it's fake and cheap haha

 

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this is DH's ring tattoo, it says Taken

 

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post #30 of 68

I'll go against the grain here too.  I love my ring in all it's diamond-ness.  love.gif  My engagement ring has a large center diamond with three diamonds on each side.  The wedding band is 7 diamonds across.  I don't like the look of metal that much on rings and you can't really see any on my ring except on the underside. 

 

It's pretty glamorous feeling which is nice when I find myself in sweats most days.  It's my one luxury item and I'm ok with that.

post #31 of 68

I did get a new ring.   When dh and I got engaged I picked out this lovely pear-cut solitaire diamond, and a plain gold band. I was very satisfied for years. But I did scratch both babies with that ring, as the pear shape does have a sharp point.   So for our 9th wedding anniversary we both got new rings. Mine is just a single ring now, gold with a diamond set down low. I love it. It's unique, simple and has an artistic flair.  It's feminine but not delicate looking.  That's pretty much me! Lol!

post #32 of 68
We got a major case of the poors this year so we sold my rings and earrings. If I had a choice, I would want a mother's ring instead of just a diamond. Hopefully this will be in my future!! I love rings and miss mine!
post #33 of 68

This is my engagement ring, it's a green sapphire:

 

ring.JPG

 

When we get married (on Monday!!) it'll have a very thin white gold band on the top and the bottom (I like things symmetrical) My ring for my first marriage was my grandmothers... it was yellow gold and had 3 stones in a row, two diamonds with a ruby in the middle. I loved it, but I think it's jinxed... her husband died very young, mine went crazy. Mom is banned from passing it down to my daughter!!

post #34 of 68
Thread Starter 

I love that your rings are blessed, Arduinna! 

 

Soooo many pretty rings on this thread! 

 

A long time ago there was a fun thread on wedding dresses and weddings. It was great! I think there was one on our parents weddings, too. 

 

Oh, best wishes, Mummoth and enjoy your wedding! 

 

 

post #35 of 68

 

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We got a major case of the poors this year so we sold my rings and earrings. If I had a choice, I would want a mother's ring instead of just a diamond. Hopefully this will be in my future!! I love rings and miss mine!

Oh dear! That's a bit tragic. :( I guess that's another upside to having cheap rings; not worth selling. :p Is a mother's ring one of those ones with the children's birthstones? My aunt has a necklace like that; very cute.

 

My mother's rings are kind of amusing... my father is notoriously keen on discounts, and when he and Mum got engaged she drew the wedding set she wanted, with the engagement and wedding rings curved and fitted together somehow. Dad was all "Right, I know a guy...", and the result, while cheap, looked NOTHING like Mum's design. Mum was gracious about it, but I've always thought it was a portent of things to come! (They're still happily married, though, albeit in a house full of not-quite-right discounted items, so I guess it worked out OK!)

 

Now, my grandma has some blingy rings. She married a millionaire late in life and he showered her with expensive jewelry of dubious taste. There's one that's a HUGE oval emerald surrounded by diamonds - not like one on each side, all around like the petals of a flower. It's enormous and garish, and Grandma worries constantly over which of us should inherit it, not realising that nobody on my side of the family, at least, would wear it if you paid us. I love my grandma... she has rings up to the knuckle on nearly every finger, and spends far too much energy worrying about what'll happen to them when she dies.

post #36 of 68


i totally wanted a yellow sapprire but couldnt justify  the cost. 

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This is my engagement ring, it's a green sapphire:

 

ring.JPG

 

When we get married (on Monday!!) it'll have a very thin white gold band on the top and the bottom (I like things symmetrical) My ring for my first marriage was my grandmothers... it was yellow gold and had 3 stones in a row, two diamonds with a ruby in the middle. I loved it, but I think it's jinxed... her husband died very young, mine went crazy. Mom is banned from passing it down to my daughter!!



 

post #37 of 68

http://www.gemvara.com/Customized/jewelry/v/925179/?ringSize=6.5 this is the ring I want. still working on getting an official proposal. 

post #38 of 68

oooh, that is a lovely ring!
 

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http://www.gemvara.com/Customized/jewelry/v/925179/?ringSize=6.5 this is the ring I want. still working on getting an official proposal. 



 

post #39 of 68
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oooh, that is a lovely ring!
 



 


and, he proposed last night and gave me his mother's ring, which is totally not my style. he says I get my real ring at our wedding though, and it will be that ring. 

 

post #40 of 68
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and, he proposed last night and gave me his mother's ring, which is totally not my style. he says I get my real ring at our wedding though, and it will be that ring. 

 


Congrats! orngbiggrin.gif

 

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