DH is from Kenya - we met in Kenya, got married there, and then moved to the US for him to go to grad school about a year after we got married. We've been in the US for three years now and I am soooooo frustrated. DH finished his grad school program a year ago and still has not found a full time job in his field. He recently started a part time associateship so at least he is able to network and work in his field but it's only part time and they are paying him just slightly more than minimum wage.
He is so frustrated/depressed that he has a master degree and cannot find a job. We have a 2 yr old and another on the way in Feb, and he is so stressed that he can't get a decent job.
Dh is very smart and gifted and it's so hard that he is not getting the opportunities or respect that I think he deserves. Being a foreigner is so hard in this country - I feel like with the political situation there is a lot of anti-foreigner bias and then there are the race issues in this country which makes it hard for any black man and then there are stupid stereotypes about Africans so with all that my DH constantly feels like people are looking down on him and he is not getting a fair chance. Even in his job now, he finds people don't take his opinions seriously because a lot of hte AMericans he works with are arrogant and think they know best.
We're likely going to move back to Kenya because we both feel like this is not a healthy place for him and therefore not healthy for our family. We are about to start the citizenship process (Kenya allows dual citizenship) so that we don't ever have to deal with US immigration again (which is another whole post in itself) and with the baby coming in Feb we don't feel like it's realistic to move before next summer.
It makes me really sad that my country is not welcoming to foreigners and that it's not a good option for us. I've always thought we would end up in Kenya anyway and I enjoy living there but I thought the US would always be an option. We are close to my family and it's been such a blessing and it will be really hard to leave them.
Has anyone else experienced this? Does your DH have trouble finding work, feel disrespected, etc? I don't know how to best support my DH right now - any suggestions? It's been really stressful financially as well - we have a pretty good marriage overall but this is definitely putting a strain on our marriage just because of the stress of it all.
Edited by bluedaisy - 7/11/11 at 5:37pm