My MIL tried to invite herself to the birth. I kind if flipped out, but thankfully, DH had the tact to say, "I think Aza will prefer a quiet birth without company" and that was the end of it. She's all in a panic because of UP, and could never handle knowing we're planning UC, and especially couldn't be present without driving us nuts. Anyway, Megan, hopefully things work out with your mil!
The longer I've been pregnant, the more this rediculous little panic voice grows. It tells me that our baby will die at birth just to prove to everyone how wrong we were to believe so strongly in up/UC for us. As if the world is just trying to spite us. It's totally stupid, and incredibly annoying to be niggling at the back of my thoughs, because actually, I feel really peaceful and calm about the whole thing. So I've decided to counter this panic voice with a calm, intelligent, trusting one. Hence the affirmations.
Have you all told your family of your birth plans? After the birth, will you tell the people you can't really tell now, or keep it a secret? I think if everything goes well, DH and I will feel like such mighty, capable people, it'll be hard not to tell anyone who asks, but he says we still shouldn't tell his mother. When it comes to her, he's surely right, but it would be so wonderful to tell the people who would make us so afraid that, well, actually, we just went in the bedroom and pushed out the baby and it breathed and all was perfect.
Oh, I'm oh so happy for you other UC mamas! It's so good to feel not alone or crazy for this uncommon birthing choice, and to talk to other mamas who trust that we can birth healthy babies, alone, in our own homes, even if it's the first baby. Hugs to you all!