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post #21 of 39

Hello! I am not quite due in the Winter however March around sometimes still is winter. ;) Due end of March with #5 planning a UC.  Had a UC with my last and it was awesome.  Not sure if I want a doula this time though. Since we already did this once before its a lot easier this time. Everyone assumes we will homebirth again and doesnt give us any slack so that is nice!  Having had two prior cesareans (with my first two) I don't completly UP.  I do go in for one u/s around 20 weeks quickly to make sure placenta is in a good spot and not on my scar tissue or low lying. That could be a big disaster if I didnt know about it and it was attached to my scar tissue. My friend just had a UBAC today so it made me super excited to UBA2C again!!  Can't wait!

post #22 of 39

I am currently 33 weeks pregnant with my first child. His name is Wolf and he is due around 10/04 of this year. My pregnancy has gone swimmingly so far, although I struggled with quite a bit of nausea in my first trimester. Nothing like driving down the road while puking in a cup! The second trimester was really easy physically, but the third is getting rather uncomfortable. Walking around, bending over to pick something up off the floor... never things I thought I would have trouble doing! My new stretch marks are also pretty depressing, but oh well! It is a crazy feeling as my son's arrival grows closer and closer. I don't exactly feel spiritually/psychically connected to him like I thought I would, but I am certainly physically/emotionally connected to him. I am a very mystical person and I guess I had this idea that my child would speak to me during my pregnancy and that I would feel that I knew them by the time I birthed, but at this point I am just going crazy with curiosity about what he will be like. I wonder every day what he will look like and what kind of personality he will have. I had a dream a while back that he was a redhead with freckles, but I don't think that is really true. We will just have to wait and see. I hope he looks like his papa!

As far as affirmations go, I just keep telling myself that everything will go smoothly and that birthing will be as easy as pooping! LOL! I like to chant "Om Gum Ganapataye Namaha", which is a mantra to Ganesh, the remover of obstacles. My son has shown a fondness for this chant by dancing whenever I play a version of it set to African drums. I also like to say aloud "I am not afraid!" often. And it's true... I AM NOT AFRAID! Another really beautiful chant I enjoy listening to is Maha Durga Kavacham sung by Durga Saptashati, which means "shield of Durga which protects family growth."

post #23 of 39

Sheesh I've told EVERYONE! Both of my parents, my sister will be with us, we hired a doula, the lady at Starbucks...I mean EVERYONE! What good is trusting your body and taking responsibility for your health if you cant potentially shift other people's perspectives about birth being a disaster waiting to happen? A pregnant woman needs to be wherever SHE feels safest to birth (IMO), and if she has all of the information in front of her, she can decide which risks she is truly comfortable taking. I indirectly work for a hospital and let me tell you in no uncertain terms: Hospital Births Carry MANY Risks!

 

This is my first baby, I'm due in September! I am covered by an HMO, and while they have a midwife group there, it really has been an incredibly stressful situation asserting myself. It would take me DAYS to recover from the anxiety of prenatal appointments so I have just stopped going. In fact, I'm only going to one more at 37 weeks so I can get my disability paperwork filled out! I also have a very dear friend who works for the insurance company as an L&D RN who we will be taking baby to after the birth for a once over and to get the REST of my disability paperwork filled out.

 

I really feel like the key is to be honest and flexiblewith yourself.. I have done so much research in the last few montsh, and have made friends with a wonderful midwife (can't afford to hire her, but she has been very helpful with resources, information, ideas, support, etc), that I feel pretty confident in my ability to ascertain what is a true problem and what is touted as a 'problem' by the legal offices of my insurance comapny. If, however, I decide during the birth or right before that I'm no longer comfortable UCing, I'm open to manking that change.

 

SO excited to meet this bebe! He is beyond active, head down locked and loaded, and now if he would just engage and get out of my ribs... :)

 

I'm sending love and great vibes to all of you UCers out there...way to be powerful!

 

xoxo

post #24 of 39
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Sheesh I've told EVERYONE! Both of my parents, my sister will be with us, we hired a doula, the lady at Starbucks...I mean EVERYONE! What good is trusting your body and taking responsibility for your health if you cant potentially shift other people's perspectives about birth being a disaster waiting to happen? A pregnant woman needs to be wherever SHE feels safest to birth (IMO), and if she has all of the information in front of her, she can decide which risks she is truly comfortable taking. I indirectly work for a hospital and let me tell you in no uncertain terms: Hospital Births Carry MANY Risks!

 

 


Because alot of people's perspectives CAN'T be changed based on what you think is best. My family is a prime example. Either your family is open-minded or they hold their tongues. Mine definitely question my sanity when I even mention UP, so no telling my family for me! I trust my body because it's my body, I have control over it. I don't have control over what other people think just because I feel one way so strongly.
 

 

post #25 of 39

Hi, I am Lisa. I am due with baby #2 at the end of February.  I wanted a homebirth even before I was pregnant.  In NC, it is currently illegal to have a lay-midwife to deliver babies at home.  One of our local midwives was arrested this spring because she preformed a homebirth.  So I am choosing to have unassisted homebirth.  I love to read all of your stories and feel all the positive vibes.  Thank you!!

post #26 of 39

Hi Lisa! Welcome and congratulations!

post #27 of 39

IwannabanRN:

 

I feel you completely, the people we are closest too can really make or break our sense of safety, and for what it's worth I am incredibly impressed with your strength! I am very lucky in that my family has taken the "there she goes again, let's just smile and nod so we dont get our heads bit off" approach. I feel a little differently with regards to nonfamily though, I do think the conversation about a woman's right to chose her birth setting (among other things I mean geez, it's still my uterus isn't it?) is important and will have it with as many people who care to humor me. I also hope that I can provide some much lacking education to other women (again, only if they invite me in for a conversation...not trying to convert anyone here) that can help them rethink the way our world views the female body as defective, disgusting, and to be used for the sexual gratification of men. The femal body is inherently functional and freaking incredible, and I want everyone to know it!! 

 

That show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" has been a bit of a fun topic too...I mean, if SOOOO many women can mistake childbirth for a major bowel movement, it cant be impossible can it? :)

post #28 of 39

Come to think of it, maybe I WILL ask for an epidural next time I'm constipated...

 

heehee

post #29 of 39



 

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Originally Posted by Mama2ChicknLil View Post

IwannabanRN:

 

I feel you completely, the people we are closest too can really make or break our sense of safety, and for what it's worth I am incredibly impressed with your strength! I am very lucky in that my family has taken the "there she goes again, let's just smile and nod so we dont get our heads bit off" approach. I feel a little differently with regards to nonfamily though, I do think the conversation about a woman's right to chose her birth setting (among other things I mean geez, it's still my uterus isn't it?) is important and will have it with as many people who care to humor me. I also hope that I can provide some much lacking education to other women (again, only if they invite me in for a conversation...not trying to convert anyone here) that can help them rethink the way our world views the female body as defective, disgusting, and to be used for the sexual gratification of men. The femal body is inherently functional and freaking incredible, and I want everyone to know it!! 

 

That show "I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant" has been a bit of a fun topic too...I mean, if SOOOO many women can mistake childbirth for a major bowel movement, it cant be impossible can it? :) 

 

 

 

Come to think of it, maybe I WILL ask for an epidural next time I'm constipated...

 

heehee


LOL I wish my mom were the "just smile and nod" type. She's so one track minded that I'd like to pull my hair out at times.

 

Sidenote: I'd like an epidural next time I'm constipated as well. :P

 

 

post #30 of 39
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Oh, goodness, what a giggle I got from this! An epidural for constipation. Perfect. Actually, DH and I were discussing this recently when my aunt visited and said, "You wouldn't have a tooth pulled without novicane, why would you give birth without epidural?" I was a little tiffed, and he was saying, "No, wait, your teeth aren't supposed to come out, that's why it hurts! A better comparison is loosing baby teeth, which of course you don't use novicane for." My hero. :D

 

I've been so surprised as some of my large family finds out our plans. After MIL's panic that I hadn't seen a doctor at 8 weeks, I hadn't planned to tell anyone, but my mother did (thanks mom). Some of them are so supportive! And the ones who aren't, just keep it to themselves. Woohoo! Makes me feel so so good, because the criticisms make me feel equally bad. Attacked, actually. Which is surely an overreaction. Those negative voices, especially the ones who won't even listen to why I want to do it this way, they're so powerful, KWIM? But the positive voices fill me with such love and confidence.

 

Which is why I love this place! If we can't get affirmation from people close to us, at least we can come here and get it! So, go mamas! Our bodies are making perfect little babies now, and will birth them in the same way.

 

How's everyone's pregnancies going? I'm feeling lots and lots of little  movements! Anyone hearing baby on the fetoscope yet? My little one always moves away as soon as I touch the scope on my belly, the little swimmer. So I'm still waiting.

post #31 of 39

I'm a couple months before you, so I'm hearing the babe on the fetoscope quite easily now.

 

DP said on his FB about our plans to HB with a doula (for a few weeks we did plan a doula to be there) after his aunt asked if we were having a MW or UA (his aunt is a doula). I was a bit like duh.gif because I wasn't sure what reactions may come by anyone who read between the lines. But there was nothing, just his aunt encouraging waterbirth and offering any help/info she could love.gif His fam doesn't seem to see HB as a crazy thing to do. Some in my fam do, but are just "whatever" about the next "crazy" thing i decide to do. MY XH's fam is very against it. When XMIL found out I was preg again, her first thing to say was "Just don't be planning a homebirth!" I smiled and changed the subject. I won't discuss my birth choices with them. Never really would, but they were more aware when it was their sons dc.

post #32 of 39

I'm due Nov 24, with a baby girl, the first after 3 boys. This is my 3rd UC, and I'm doing it UP this time as well, (although I did have an ultrasound)

  Feeling great, and getting larger, and am excited about birthing at home, but a little worried because my dh is working 10 hrs away for a week or two every few weeks. He'll try to get off a few weeks before baby is due, but if she comes earlier I may be on my own.

  My last birth was 2 hrs from very very start to finish, so I'm also worried I might have a 1 hr labor and am feeling like that could be too intense and quick, and cause me to be more likely to tear. Any tips for slowing down labor?

    Everyone I know is kinda used to the idea that I do UC. My parents don't even mention concerns anymore, as my sister has had both of hers UC as well. So that part of it is pretty easy. I'm at a place where I feel confident enough in my choice that I don't feel a need to defend it or keep it a secret, but don't make it known to anyone who doesn't seem interested. I sure feel relieved not to have to go to multiple prenatal checks and not to have the invasive intervention of a hospital...It feels like the right and only decision for me, as I hardly would have time for someone to take me to a hospital anyways. Who wants to give birth in a vehicle in the middle of a cold winter when they could be in their cozy little cabin? It's neat hearing of so many other women who have made the same decision!

 
post #33 of 39
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I'm due Nov 24

Any tips for slowing down labor?

 

My last birth was 3 hours and the babe was born top to toe in one contraction. I was advised to lay down next time. Both my kids were born up on a birthing stool because laying down hurt.

Regarding the fetoscope, I have been hearing the heartbeat for sometime. The hard part is finding it. It usually takes a fair bit of palpation to figure out where her heart should be to know where to aim. I am not an old pro with the fetoscope yet, but we play around with it from time to time. Otherwise this pregnancy is lovely. I'm hot and the baby feels bigger every day. I have gained 20 pounds (tho I was dieting when I got pregnant, so I'm only up 15 pounds from where I had been 3 weeks before conception.). Life is generally good. The kids are way excited.
post #34 of 39

I got my first "Are you getting an epidural" question today, when I was at a diner, waiting for my to go order. The server comes up to me in her spare moment and asks when I'm due, I answer politely. Then she says it......"Are you getting the epidural?" I laugh lightly and say, oh no. ha I'm staying home. Her eyes bug out of her head in disbelief (expected that) and she says "well aren't you having one of those nurse people there?"    "A midwife? Nope. Completely unassisted! Except for my husband being there." To which her eyes almost pop out of her head at this point. It was kind of funny to watch, though. lol She is called to the till and as I'm getting ready to leave with mine and DH's dinner, she says "be sure to come back and tell me how much pain you were in!" and I holler back oh, I'll be back. Some people are so.......funny?

post #35 of 39
Oy, not cool. At least she asked...all I every get are the "you are going to love the epidural" comments. Uh, yeah.
Edited by Mama2ChicknLil - 9/1/11 at 10:18pm
post #36 of 39

There's really no acceptable way to ask a woman how she plans to have her baby, but she could have at least asked what my plans are, instead of assuming.......She wasn't trying to be mean, she was just curious and baffled. lol An older woman sitting at the counter with her husband overheard me and kept giving me dirty looks and whispering to her husband. Ooohhhh, I can imagine the things she was saying.

post #37 of 39

We're expecting our second in mid-December.  My first was induced due to pre-eclampsia with every intervention short of a c/s.  When we got pregnant with this one (new state, new doctor from the first) and I told the docs my history, I was immediately labeled high risk and informed of all the extra tests I would need and the specialists I would have to see.  I remember driving home incredibly upset when the song "Uprising" by Muse came on the radio and I sang along for all I was worth.  I was sick and tired of being controlled and that they were "right" and my body was "wrong". (It doesn't help that I have pretty severe whitecoat syndrome and my BP can jump anywhere from 20 to 40 points just from walking into a doc's office).  I told my DH that I never wanted to go back and he said I didn't have to (Yep, he's amazing).  I tried talking to a couple of midwives, but they also deemed me high-risk and wouldn't take me.  The birthing center freaked me out too, especially when the lady was telling me all of the reasons they would transfer me to the hospital.  Since that first appointment (@9weeks) we've been UP'ing, and it's been wonderful.  DH will take my BP and measure my fundal height and I weigh myself at work.  We've definitely become more proactive with this birth and are excited to have the baby at home.

 

I don't do affirmations but I do talk to God a lot, especially when I'm out walking and with the sunshine and the wind and the earthy smells around me, I can't help but think that if He was good enough to give us this earth with all of its delicate balances and intricacies, how much more does it mean that he would give me a body that was perfectly designed to bring new life into this world?  I'm still a little nervous about certain things, which is why we may be going to a clinic to get a U/S next week (I've been having this pervasive feeling/anxiety this whole time that we're having twins and feel like I just have to know!).  Anyhow, thanks to all of you ladies who have BTDT and inspired me to keep searching for a better way.  Keep it up!

post #38 of 39
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There's really no acceptable way to ask a woman how she plans to have her baby, but she could have at least asked what my plans are, instead of assuming.......She wasn't trying to be mean, she was just curious and baffled. lol An older woman sitting at the counter with her husband overheard me and kept giving me dirty looks and whispering to her husband. Ooohhhh, I can imagine the things she was saying.


Not really related, but this makes me think of the recent dirty looks and outright pointing I've been getting around town lately on my bicycle. I don't drive, and my bicycle is my primary means of getting around, and hey, we're still supposed to exercise, even though we're pregnant! But from those dirty looks, I'm definitely a bad mother. Isn't it so frustrating and stupid how we can judged on our parenting abilities before our children are even born, and for things as personal as our transportation and health care and even eating choices?!?
post #39 of 39
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Not really related, but this makes me think of the recent dirty looks and outright pointing I've been getting around town lately on my bicycle. I don't drive, and my bicycle is my primary means of getting around, and hey, we're still supposed to exercise, even though we're pregnant! But from those dirty looks, I'm definitely a bad mother. Isn't it so frustrating and stupid how we can judged on our parenting abilities before our children are even born, and for things as personal as our transportation and health care and even eating choices?!?


UGH! You terrible woman! How DARE you exercise while you are pregnant! Don't you know you're disabled once you conceive? LOL
 

 

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