I've stressed about this too. We live 2700 miles from family, and obviously will not fly. We also decided not to host anybody for any holiday (i'm due 17th). We have a 2yo DS and we were overwhelmed by visitors after his birth which ended up being so hard on us, so we are limiting visitors. I'm not playing "pass the baby" this time, and I'm not hosting people for hours on end- holiday or no holiday. It may seem bratty but we just want to babymoon for a while- like a few weeks. Then we'll allow visitors. We told DH's family that they could come in January. Also- it's cold and flu season! UGH! This especially worries me since they'll be flying in- so many germs in that recirculated airplane air. My mom will likely be ten hours away in California (we're in portland) so she'll drive up at some point but it probably won't be as early or often as she would like. I'm over it. I am protecting the newborn period as much as I can this time. Last time was way too much.
We don't eat meat either, and live very different lifestyles so having family around to begin with is stressful and tense.
So anyway, our holidays will be just us, or perhaps a few low key celebrations with our wonderful neighbors.
I've been thinking about this, because I'm due on Thanksgiving. We live 900 miles from family, which complicates things in some ways and makes them easier in others. There's no way I can fly home alone with three small kids, so that decision is made for us. But it likely means everyone will want to come here, at Christmas, to see the baby, which kind of sucks, too. My mom will probably be here for the birth, so she'll get Thanksgiving, but what about Christmas? My in-laws are great but.....higher maintenance, I guess. (We don't eat meat and my FIL won't eat anything I cook, for example.) And they have teenagers. We live in a 2 bedroom apartment - that would be 9 people here. NINE. One of them 3 weeks old. I've avoided mentioning it to family yet because it's stressing me out to even think about considering what will happen.
Does anyone have any idea what their holiday plans are yet?
(Also, what does a 3 week old baby want for Christmas??? I have every intention of finishing my Christmas shopping in early November, or it will never get done...)