This will be ds2 for us. With ds1 our family and friends threw us a shower and we saved just about everything. However, there are some things that we will need more of (cloth diapers), just need to replace (infant car seat) or for that matter things that we will need with two that we didn't need with one (a double stroller for next summer, because he just gets to hot to babywear for my taste).
We relocated last fall and there are two groups of women that will be at a shower for us at the end of the month. No one has really asked what we need and the one or two who did I told them about the registry and that we saved a lot from ds1. If there is anything we need it's on one of the registries (Kelly's Closet, Babies R Us, Target).
For those women English is a second language and I was told that they don't do registries, but wanted a list. I tried to explain that these stores have a list on file for what I need. I also went to the most local stores (like the tucked away baby section in Toys R Us rather than having people drive the half hour into the city to the nearest Babies R Us) and changed patterns and such to things that were readily available. For the other women, most are retired and on a fixed income.
I checked my registries this morning (haven't done it for several weeks) and nothing has been purchased. I am so afraid of getting a bunch of stuff we don't need. I really don't want disposables (but I'll use them if I have them), we don't need any clothes, blankets, burp cloths, toys, etc.
Anyone have any suggestions on how to gracefully and tactfully let people know about the registries?