Ok so im going a bit crazy with my four year old specially this past week.
My current living conditions are we moved in with a man i have known since high school, we never dated until recently.
after a few months we decided with me not getting any child support from my daughters biological father, that combining incomes and moving in together would be a good decision.
He has a house and we all love it.
financially my boyfriend is stressed out, from work related things, and the economy is super bad still.
hard to make ends meet, so that is one stressor, the other is my daughter being 4 is bouncing off the walls, he comes home and ussually needs some down time, and she is always wanting his attention, constantly calling him daddy.(she calls him that we never encouraged it, but he says he is ok with that).
She is in pullups and daily i am every 15 minutes asking her to go potty, sometimes she says NO and shouts, but we still go.
that too seems to make her more edgy and rude.
With all that i do here, cleaning the house, keeping her out of his things(which he has mentioned and said it was highly bothersome).
making sure she doesnt write on anything, so i take all pens and crayons away.
She watches tv, and likes reading. So i encourage her to do those things.
She should be starting school in a few weeks for preschool. I cant wait for that, because my stress level will decrease finally.
I am new to this whole living with someone else that isnt my daughters biological father.
ive tried to talk with my partner about how he is feeling, but at times my daughter keeps stressing him out, somewhat like if he is stressed from work, he comes home to find she has taken something from his bedside table, that i didnt see her do, so how can i put it back sort of thing.
i feel like im running like mad, trying to make sure she doesnt do this or that wrong, and potty training is failing.. im sitting here crying.
he loves children, or so he says and he is real good with her normally.
i just dont know how else to get her to calm down a bit, her attention goes from watching tv, to coming to me or him and wanting to know what were doing, to going back to the tv, or toy or book.
i try to get things done and she is constantly underfoot.
or perhaps am i just not knowing what to expect at four, and this is normal.?!
the other things mentioned that i didnt see were her grabbing things from his hand such as water, or anything that is hers he is putting away, and says gimme dat! really rude, and sometimes i just dont even see those things, im just worn out~!
i come off as a mom who doesnt care. and i really do!
any advice i would appreciate!