Do you have any other schooling options? In my district there are probably a dozen elementary schools and it is possible to go to another school other than my home school if they have room. We moved ds to a charter after an "unproductive" year dealing with his school, though there wasn't any "fighting" going on because we had no idea what to do at the time. Ds' current school has done everything they're supposed to and we haven't had to fight.
If you have no choice but to go back to this school, I'd go in prepared; I'd look for a special education advocate in your city, and I'd do a consultation with a special education attorney (or a few, and find one you can theoretically afford if it comes to that--though I wouldn't mention lawyers unless it does come to that because that is adversarial, which isn't necessarily what you want at this point). I'd draw up a sample IEP or 504 (whichever you think is appropriate, though I think the school makes the final determination).
Wrightslaw.com has a lot of free and useful information. Though I'd consider getting this book Wrightslaw: Special Education Law, 2nd Edition, if only to have the option of doing this, "Mr. Principle, I feel like our communication regarding ds last year was unproductive, so I did some reading this summer (gently plop 450 page book that says "Special Education Law" in big letters on his desk) and I've found some practical ways that we can work together to help ds." Though that may be considered adversarial which isn't necessarily a good idea--on the other hand it may show that you now know the law and may cause a bigger headache for him if they don't just follow the law.
If you can find all those e-mails, phone records, ANY communication with the school regarding your ds from this past year, I'd make make copies and put them in a binder. I'd also log those communications in a calendar (also in the binder) so you and anyone you need to show it two can see how much communication their was, if they responded, and how they responded. Just in case. I'd also collect any receipts/records/dates regarding your ds' tutoring; that may be useful later.
Also, since your school is putting up such a fight...
- Make all "big" requests by certified mail (504/IEP meetings, requests for special education testing, any time-critical request).
- Make every request by e-mail even if you also call. Print copies and save the originals in a folder in your e-mail.
- After every call/meeting send a follow-up e-mail summarizing what you discussed/solutions agreed to, when and where you discussed it (in the hall, in the principle's office, rm 102, etc.) --like writing the "minutes" of a meeting; print copies save the originals.
- Keep a calendar (maybe even an executive diary that has all the hours of the day listed) of all contact with the school.
- Show it--innocently, "it's just such a help to me to have this all organized
." We've built a few houses and the salesmen have said they love the clients that show up with binders because those turn out to be the serious buyers who have good credit scores
-- it won't make an uncooperative school love you, but they may quit dragging their heals if they think it'll bite'em later.
http://www.wrightslaw.com/
http://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/guide/adhd-causes
Under the IDEA/IEP, if your child has a disability that adversely affects educational performance, your child is entitled to an education that is designed to meet the child's unique needs and from which your child receives educational benefit.
A 504 is helping your child get the same education that everyone else is getting--more for a student that needs accommodations to help them learn (like sitting next to the teacher) or for behavior, and that they are not punished for things that they cannot control due to the ADHD (like needing to work standing up or not sit inside a group).
Parents as Experts
Special Education Law and Advocacy
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A lot of my links are ADHD related but wrightslaw.com
has information about special education law in general.
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Key Differences Between Section 504, the ADA, and the IDEA. (http://www.wrightslaw.com/info/sec504.summ.rights.htm)
Key Differences Between Section 504 and IDEA. (http://www.wrightslaw.com/howey/504.idea.htm)
Is a Child with ADD/ADHD Eligible for Special Education? - WrightslawHelping Parents Secure ADHD School Accommodations: IEP & 504 Plans for ADD Children | ADDitude - ADHD & LD Adults and ChildrenWrightslaw - IEP FAQSection 504 Online Introductory Tutorial
Section 504 - Civil Rights Law, Protection from Discrimination ...Wrightslaw
Handling a Manifestation Determination Review
http://www.adhdnews.com/testforum/test886.htm
Crisis Management, Step-by-Step - Wrightslaw
Autism Speaks, Community, Family Services, Texas: Advocates
s504discipline.pdf (application/pdf Object)
CHADD Live | Home Page
CDC - ADHD, Symptoms and Diagnosis - NCBDDD
Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy, 2nd Edition (book)
Wrightslaw: From Emotions to Advocacy, 2nd Edition (book)
ADHD- Middle and High School, search
http://www.google.com/search?q=ADHD+middle+school&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a
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http://www.additudemag.com/adhd/article/1572-2.html
http://www.addinschool.com/elementary/socialskills.htm
Coach Your Child in Friendship Skills
http://add.about.com/
ADHD-Vision
http://www.add-adhd.org/
Edited by Emmeline II - 7/14/11 at 7:46am