I'm sure there have been lots of threads on this topic already, but I just don't understand how people so consistently say insensitive and/or inappropriate things about the size of my belly. ESPECIALLY women who have been pregnant before -- it's like they don't remember how it felt to be pregnant, to have your body changing and out-of-your-control, to be totally hormonal and self-conscious.
I will be 24 weeks on Friday, and I guess I am showing a lot for a first pregnancy. I am healthy, I work out, I am thin everywhere else, but I just have a big belly (well, and giant boobs). Ok. Fine. Why does this elicit so many comments? And why do people feel free to say whatever they please about my body?
I have had multiple people ask me if I'm having twins. One asked if I'm having triplets (I SO wish I were joking here). My own yoga teacher (usually so sweet and discreet) said today "are you sure there's just one in there?" (et tu, brute?). My mother has commented on how big I am compared to how big she was when she was pregnant with me (I'm her first), and many other strangers have observed that I'm "going to get huge."
I just don't understand.
Here's how EVERY conversation should go:
Stranger: "So, when are you due?"
Me: "November 4th."
S: "That's so exciting. You look fabulous!"
DONE. End of conversation. If you must know how far along I am, then PLEASE respect that I've responded and provided you with that personal information, and respond with sensitivity and kindness. Or at least a bit of thoughtfulness. It's really not hard.
I am trying my best here. I am huge, I am tired, I am achy, I am hormonal, I am emotional, and I have never done this before. A little support and encouragement goes a long way - and the negative comments are really the last thing I need.
Edited by MrsKatie - 7/13/11 at 8:38pm