Hi all. I am in the throes of figuring out what my baby's last name should be when he is born this fall, and one of the options I'm considering is changing my legal name so it can be the same as the baby's. My partner is considering the same thing, and we haven't decided which if either of us will make a change, but we think it might be important to have legal names that are the same as our baby, so that we never find ourselves shut out of seeing him at the emergency room or some other bureaucratic nightmare.
What I'm wondering is, if one or both of us changes our legal name to match the baby, how hard would it be to keep using our birth names professionally? For example, I would put my professional name on my resume, but then when I start my new job, I would whip out my ID & Social Security card for the I-9 and it would say a different legal name. Is that a problem with employers? Do they still usually honor your decision to use a professional name separate from legal name?
And what about when I go back to grad school (something I hope to do next year)--I assume I would apply under my legal name, but if I want to use my professional name to register for classes, so the professor calls me by it, is that difficult to arrange?
Can you put your professional name on a credit card, or does it always have to be your legal name?
I would welcome any advice or experiences that you all can share about keeping a professional name distinct from your legal one!