I don't know- when I read scottishmommy's reply about a week ago, I was like, yes! I'll ignore the whys. I figured someone would respond with the whole "don't ever ignore your kids" things, but quite honestly, the ignoring has worked well since I started it.
Just to clarify: DD is almost 3. She's been asking why more and more frequently, it started maybe 6 months ago. She asks "why" about things that she legitimately doesn't know, and I do still answer those. But most of her "why" questions are things she does know the answer to. I think a lot of the reason for this is because she doesn't know other ways to carry on conversations, but I do think sometimes there's a contrary-ness to the "why."
Anyway, I don't ignore HER. And I don't think that that is what scottishmommy meant. I ignore the "why." So, for example, if she's like "Why is Grandpa in Denver?"- she knows the answer to this. We've talked about it 500 times. So I'll ignore the question and instead redirect her, for example, by asking, "What do you think Grandpa is doing right now in Denver?"
I've only been doing this for about a week, like I said, but I feel like it's working by:
-reducing the number of why questions
-improving her conversational skills
-improving my frustration level with her, and hers with me