desperate to get rid of babydaddy

[mls11428]

ok.. so this is my story.. when i was 6 months pregnant my son's father got locked up. and spent 2 plus yrs in prison. i brought my son to see him 1 time in prison. in the mean time his family has had nothing to do with him. never done anything for my son. his father has been out now for almost 10 months and still has yet to see him. we live not even 10 minutes away from one another. since i have filed child support. he has paid 2 payments of 50 dollars and just quit. he refuses to help out in anyway or get to know my son. i want him to sign over his rights since he seems to want nothing to do with him. he is a criminal an do not see him being a good role model for my son. what do i do?? please help

[hjdmom24]

As long as he is not persuing contact I would say don't do anything. My oldests father is the same way and there is still a child support order out there..I have recieved $4 in his lifetime. Other then that since he is not interested it has been a non issue. You could go to court and ask him to sign away his rights..but that may stir up a bunch of drama you otherwise wouldn't have to deal with. All I had to do was call child support and made sure it was on paper that I had sole custody.

[kristandthekids]

Originally Posted by hjdmom24 

As long as he is not persuing contact I would say don't do anything

That. Since he's not bothering you, I wouldn't shell out the money for lawyers and legal fees trying to terminate what he's not using in the first place.

[lilyka]

And since he is not bothering you it will be good to have him still the legal parent.  Then if anything comes up in his life and he gets his act together he will owe you back child support as well as current and his wages can be garnished etc.  If he gets possesive and wants the kid then you can use his lack of involvement as a reason to terminate rights.  Otherwise the only reason I see terminating rights to be to your advantage would be if somone wanted to adopt your son.

[StephandOwen]

Let sleeping dogs lie. He's not bothering you or the kiddo, so let him be. He may or may not get his act together some day, but there's nothing you can do to encourage or prevent it.

[smeep]

My son's father has never met my son (nor has his family). He split when I was 3 months pregnant. We went to court for CS when my son was 3 months old. He paid for a while, then stopped, then it was here and there... whatever. he finally started paying some again since we contacted the child support office, but only because they threatened him (most likely took or said they would take his license). 

Honestly, I wouldn't consider having him sign over his rights unless, A) I were with someone (married or long term) who was going to legally adopt my son, or B) I feared for my son's safety with him and the only way he would stay away is to relinquish his rights and thus the child support he owes. Those are the only two reasons I would do it.

Your child deserves to be supported financially. He may not pay it now, he may not pay it ever, but one day he just might get a job and be forced to pay it. You'll never know unless you leave it be. See what the legal junk is in your state, if they get put in jail or lose their license or anything if they don't pay for X months, if they can take it out of his check, etc. You can also look and see if there are any programs that will help enforce child support.