My friend and I are both pregnant, due only weeks apart, and we had a chance to go out to lunch without our kiddos in tow. A woman was at the cafe and had twin 3 year old boys and was trying to give us the "preview of coming events" speech, which I have been guilty of if I'm being honest. But, we just nicely told her we have kids and boy do we know. So then after we order and go sit down, she comes over to us and pulls up a chair and asks her 3 year olds to "tell us what it's like to have a 3 year old", and one of them looks at me for a second then hits my belly and punches my arm and then walks away. These kids were bat-shit-crazy-hyped up....uhh, yeah, I've got a 5 year old and my friend has 3 and 7 year old boys....thaaaaanks for the update. And then when she couldn't "school" us on having 3 year olds OR boys she goes on to talk about how she's glad that she's "so old" because she doesn't have anything else she's wanting to do other than be there for her sweet boys....ummm...kaaaaaaaaaaay. Just. Weird.
Oh, and an update on my grandma, she topped herself this time: I was sharing a small ice cream with my daughter and she says, "Remember, you'll have to take that OFF later!". Yup. Thaaaanks, I'm doing just fine.
Most of the time, people really mean well and are trying to relate or be helpful in a situation where they can't currently relate. But, it always seems to be a bad time, and I hope I remember that when I'm not pregnant. It's also hard for us because we're kind of exposed, even if we don't want to talk about it people know at least one thing about you immediately by looking at you, so instead of talking weather they talk baby. Also, I recognize that those with small children really need to feel useful, too, hence the "advice"...but still.