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Ahhhh, yes, me!!  It just started happening about a week ago and it makes me yelp.  It goes away quickly, but...  It's like something right in the crevice at where my thigh meets my labia is pinching me horribly.  There's obviously no baby there, and it's so localized.  Becky, I will try the pelvic floor release a few times this week to see if it will stop happening.

 


Yes! That's exactly it. I'll have to try the pelvic floor release. It sounds like it would feel good, anyway. It makes me yelp, too. I always tell DF Malcolm is pinching me.

 

post #122 of 139

I can't believe all this talk about our babies growing up! I am excited for this LO to finally arrive, but honestly it's hard to even imagine what life will be like with a baby, let alone a teen!

 

AFM- I'm excited for my Lamaze class tonight, I really feel like I'm connecting with some of the other mamas there. I live in a community where everyone has such huge families and extended families, and have known each other for generations... yet I hardly know anyone at all, so it's been a little tough making friends. And all my friends and family live so far away from me right now.  My goal is to actually stay connected with some of the ladies in my class.  I just gotta move from the "Hey, we should get together someday" stage and actually move on to the "Let's do XYZ next Wed at 1pm" stage.  Having a baby is making me realize how much I miss being tied into a community.

post #123 of 139
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I can't believe all this talk about our babies growing up! I am excited for this LO to finally arrive, but honestly it's hard to even imagine what life will be like with a baby, let alone a teen!

 

AFM- I'm excited for my Lamaze class tonight, I really feel like I'm connecting with some of the other mamas there. I live in a community where everyone has such huge families and extended families, and have known each other for generations... yet I hardly know anyone at all, so it's been a little tough making friends. And all my friends and family live so far away from me right now.  My goal is to actually stay connected with some of the ladies in my class.  I just gotta move from the "Hey, we should get together someday" stage and actually move on to the "Let's do XYZ next Wed at 1pm" stage.  Having a baby is making me realize how much I miss being tied into a community.



I don't know if your class has already done this, but you should mention having a reunion after all the babies are born to give you guys a chance to catch up then. At least with my class (10 years ago eek!), that reunion meeting was the best and that is when people really connected and set up playdates etc. I hope you find some mama friends, I know what it is like to be in a community where everyone and their family have been there for generations. My DH's family has been here since his ancestors came over from Europe! I'm here because of him so while I do have close friends now, I definitely don't have those deep ties.  

 

post #124 of 139
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I can't believe all this talk about our babies growing up! I am excited for this LO to finally arrive, but honestly it's hard to even imagine what life will be like with a baby, let alone a teen!

 

AFM- I'm excited for my Lamaze class tonight, I really feel like I'm connecting with some of the other mamas there. I live in a community where everyone has such huge families and extended families, and have known each other for generations... yet I hardly know anyone at all, so it's been a little tough making friends. And all my friends and family live so far away from me right now.  My goal is to actually stay connected with some of the ladies in my class.  I just gotta move from the "Hey, we should get together someday" stage and actually move on to the "Let's do XYZ next Wed at 1pm" stage.  Having a baby is making me realize how much I miss being tied into a community.

 

Oh, me too! I had great hopes for my birthing class and nope! Nothing. Now I'm going to try for the LLL people. They seemed nice. And it's so good to have babies grow up with a herd of other babies! I wish you luck!
 

 

post #125 of 139
That's something I've got to do too. Especially with DH leaving for the army and me and baby being all alone. I just have such problems getting out of my shell around people. greensad.gif It's been pretty much just me and DH together since moving to Austin. He has a few work friends and I have a few friends at work (but not the kind of friends I actually go out and do things with). I just don't even know where to start to try meeting people with babies, but I know Nolie and most importantly myself both are going to need interaction with other human beings.
post #126 of 139
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I don't know if your class has already done this, but you should mention having a reunion after all the babies are born to give you guys a chance to catch up then. At least with my class (10 years ago eek!), that reunion meeting was the best and that is when people really connected and set up playdates etc. I hope you find some mama friends, I know what it is like to be in a community where everyone and their family have been there for generations. My DH's family has been here since his ancestors came over from Europe! I'm here because of him so while I do have close friends now, I definitely don't have those deep ties. 

 

 

That sounds like a great idea! Next week is our last class, so I'll be sure to ask the instructor if she sets this up. If not, maybe I'll pass around a sign up to get phone numbers/facebook info.

 

Becky, LLL is a great idea too. I've been wanting to go, but the meetings are always during my work schedule, but maybe during my maternity leave.

 


 

 

post #127 of 139
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Originally Posted by cat13 View Post

I can't believe all this talk about our babies growing up! I am excited for this LO to finally arrive, but honestly it's hard to even imagine what life will be like with a baby, let alone a teen!

 

AFM- I'm excited for my Lamaze class tonight, I really feel like I'm connecting with some of the other mamas there. I live in a community where everyone has such huge families and extended families, and have known each other for generations... yet I hardly know anyone at all, so it's been a little tough making friends. And all my friends and family live so far away from me right now.  My goal is to actually stay connected with some of the ladies in my class.  I just gotta move from the "Hey, we should get together someday" stage and actually move on to the "Let's do XYZ next Wed at 1pm" stage.  Having a baby is making me realize how much I miss being tied into a community.


I was almost sad that I didn't take a birth class for this very reason.  It would have been nice to meet people and hang out with other pregnant ladies.  My SIL still is friends with several people from their Bradley class, 4 years later.  They go to birthdays, get together regularly...  It would have been nice.

 

post #128 of 139
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That's something I've got to do too. Especially with DH leaving for the army and me and baby being all alone. I just have such problems getting out of my shell around people. greensad.gif It's been pretty much just me and DH together since moving to Austin. He has a few work friends and I have a few friends at work (but not the kind of friends I actually go out and do things with). I just don't even know where to start to try meeting people with babies, but I know Nolie and most importantly myself both are going to need interaction with other human beings.

Locally, I've found my best connections through the local AP parenting group online -- it took a while to find it, I started with the homeschool group. This is not a 'crunchy' area, so the AP/babywearing/vegetarian/BFng crowd is hard to find sometimes. It took me a year after we moved to realize that I needed to find people though ... don't wait that long!

 

Also, lots of churches have 'mom's morning' coffee hours, or things like that during the week, and all the ones I know of are very welcoming to new people & not exclusive to the members of that church, so call the local ones &see what they have. My sister goes to one with 8+ moms & babies, and they just chat, do a crafty thing sometimes, have a snack, and let the older babies play. It's enough to have something on the calendar & make some friends :)
 

 

post #129 of 139
O.k......so this is exactly what I've been worrying about lately.

Teenage girl.

Italiamom....you and I...uh...yeah. totally. And holy crap...I'm so afraid. I wasn't BAD...but....i wasn't very good either.

ask my 21 year old love child.

sigh.

DH says I'm too hard on myself. I had terrible parents and was horribly sad and lonely and confused. Our daughter...she'll have really loving attentive parents. AND five older brothers. yeah. Sneaking out is probably not likely. The boys will likely set up a nightly patrol once she hits puberty.

And there it is again.

Puberty.

My best friend's daughter is EIGHT and is wearing a bra and her mama expects a period soon.... SHE'S EIGHT.

Only EIGHT years of little girl time????? I was 14....but, i was pretty developed by about 10. Girls grow up so fast....

Too fast. My 4 younger boys...they are still sweet BOYS. Yes, there is some young manliness about them, more privacy, facial hair, awkward moments...but all in all...they are boys. they FEEL like sweet BOYS.

What on earth will it be like to watch my baby girl turn into a woman. In the snap of a finger.

A wink of an eye.

I must STOP thinking like this. She's not even born, and I'm worried about hormonal issues????

Gah.
post #130 of 139

Oh EB, I have those same thoughts.  There is so much terror and apprehension for me that I will fail my daughter -- that she'll be a teenager just like me, and grow into a young woman who felt like I felt about my mother (or feel how I STILL feel about my mother).  It is so much more confusing for me emotionally.

 

At least you have all those boys to keep her on lockdown winky.gif

 

We've been moving furniture around all day.  Trying to make space in the big bedroom (which is still very small) for the baby Kanoe.  How our sleeping arrangements are going to work is still SO up in the air.  DS could sleep in the other room, and then one of us could just take him back in there and lay with him until he falls asleep 4 or 5 times per night.  But I'll be up nursing, so it can't be me, and DH can't lay on the other bed with his back (too squishy).  At least we have a king sized bed in the "big" room, but still, I'm just so worried about the whole thing.

 

That and I'm waiting for our HSA card to arrive so that we can buy the damn birthing tub, and the birth kit, and pay off our deductible.  All of which are stressing me out to NO END.  I just want to get them in my possession so that I can finish organizing for our home visit.  I'm worried I won't have them by the home visit, and then what!?  Ack!

post #131 of 139

For you scared mama's of girls - my mom and her mother had a bad relationship. My mother and I have a fabulous relationship. Just don't be a jerk, you'll do fine ;)

post #132 of 139

I just had a major internal moment where I realized that I am a few days away from being 39 weeks pregnant, and that I will most likely be going into labor sometime in the next few weeks. That just totally trips me out. I feel like I am just sitting here waiting to be hit by a train! I don't mean just about the intensity of labor, but also the huge change that is about to come in our life, having a whole other human being around all the time is going to be soooo strange. It's just been me and DH for so long. We don't even have any pets, just the two of us. Now there is going to be three. woah...just woah.

 

I'm not trying to be negative, I am actually really exctied to meet this little one finally, but man this is a big deal. I don't think I fully realized it until now.

post #133 of 139
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For you scared mama's of girls - my mom and her mother had a bad relationship. My mother and I have a fabulous relationship. Just don't be a jerk, you'll do fine ;)


Thanks Becky redface.gif  I keep trying to tell myself this.  There were a LOT of things my mom did, that I still don't understand.  I hope that I can do justice to this little girl in ways that my own mom didn't.

 



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I just had a major internal moment where I realized that I am a few days away from being 39 weeks pregnant, and that I will most likely be going into labor sometime in the next few weeks. That just totally trips me out. I feel like I am just sitting here waiting to be hit by a train! I don't mean just about the intensity of labor, but also the huge change that is about to come in our life, having a whole other human being around all the time is going to be soooo strange. It's just been me and DH for so long. We don't even have any pets, just the two of us. Now there is going to be three. woah...just woah.

 

I'm not trying to be negative, I am actually really exctied to meet this little one finally, but man this is a big deal. I don't think I fully realized it until now.


I liken going into labor to having someone say, "okay, so uh, someone is going to come and cut your leg off in the next few weeks.  Could be at any time, day or night, in the next 4 weeks.  Just so you know it's coming..."  REALLY?  It's such a mind trip, the anticipation of it.  Drives ya nuts!

 

post #134 of 139
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I just had a major internal moment where I realized that I am a few days away from being 39 weeks pregnant, and that I will most likely be going into labor sometime in the next few weeks. That just totally trips me out. I feel like I am just sitting here waiting to be hit by a train! I don't mean just about the intensity of labor, but also the huge change that is about to come in our life, having a whole other human being around all the time is going to be soooo strange. It's just been me and DH for so long. We don't even have any pets, just the two of us. Now there is going to be three. woah...just woah.

 

I'm not trying to be negative, I am actually really exctied to meet this little one finally, but man this is a big deal. I don't think I fully realized it until now.



I'm starting to have those thoughts again too! It's crazy that this huge life-changing event is going to happen...sometime soon!   I was excited last night - I had a couple hours of contractions, but they disappeared.  I was kind of hoping that would be it, because I"ve been having lots of crazy energy bursts. I scrubbed the floor on my hands and knees yesterday! I NEVER do that, so I was kind of wondering what was going on.  I am thinking it will be really soon, even though I'm only 38 weeks (tomorrow).

post #135 of 139

The anticipation! Oh my gosh, I really need to find some zen right now because every twinge in my body is getting too much of attention. I really wish something would actually happen or everything just knock it the heck off till it is real! Four days in a row now I have had contractions that are regular and uncomfortable for a period of 3-4 hours. Then it all goes away. Come on! So each day I am facing the decision, do I start timing these? Do I need to track down DH? Nope nope nope! Sh*t or get off the pot body! irked.gif loveeyes.gif

 

 

I shouldn't complain, at least I have a definite end date. I just wish I had a better idea of how far along I actually am so I might know if something might happen in the meantime. It's frustrating to be either 37, 38 or 40 weeks dizzy.gif

 

 

I put the co-sleeper together yesterday and worked on the baby's blankets. I have one finished, and the other two just need the borders done. I like to keep three blankets so even if one is in the washer and one in the dryer, we still have one. I'm really happy with how they are turning out. I'm thinking maybe I will get the car seats rearranged and install the baby seat. I tried tempting fate into sending the baby by not being prepared and that didn't work, so now I am getting it all together!

post #136 of 139

I was a horrid teen girl, I know what I did and the thought of my girls doing the same is beyond scary. Let's just say there doesn't have to be any sneaking out or sneaking people in to get into all kinds of trouble. whistling.gif My oldest girl is 8 and yeah, I see her changing now. She isn't a little girl anymore and she has been rather sheltered. We don't do a lot of popular culture, like Hanna Montana, that type of stuff. I still picked out every item of her clothing until this summer, finding clothing that I think is suitable for a child has been a struggle for a while now already. She is just getting an opinion of what she will and will not wear, begs for shoes for heels, I finally solved that one by getting her clogs. lol.gif Her school quite crunchy and has very few girls, the ones that are there are the rough and tumble type which has been awesome. A good number of her sports are male dominated. And still it sneaks in, they really do seem to grow up faster. Thankfully, all that is way over her head right now, but other girls we know the same age, they are already talking about boyfriends and who likes who. She is in 3rd grade for crying out loud! 

post #137 of 139
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Oh EB, I have those same thoughts.  There is so much terror and apprehension for me that I will fail my daughter -- that she'll be a teenager just like me, and grow into a young woman who felt like I felt about my mother (or feel how I STILL feel about my mother).  It is so much more confusing for me emotionally.

 

At least you have all those boys to keep her on lockdown winky.gif

 

We've been moving furniture around all day.  Trying to make space in the big bedroom (which is still very small) for the baby Kanoe.  How our sleeping arrangements are going to work is still SO up in the air.  DS could sleep in the other room, and then one of us could just take him back in there and lay with him until he falls asleep 4 or 5 times per night.  But I'll be up nursing, so it can't be me, and DH can't lay on the other bed with his back (too squishy).  At least we have a king sized bed in the "big" room, but still, I'm just so worried about the whole thing.

 

That and I'm waiting for our HSA card to arrive so that we can buy the damn birthing tub, and the birth kit, and pay off our deductible.  All of which are stressing me out to NO END.  I just want to get them in my possession so that I can finish organizing for our home visit.  I'm worried I won't have them by the home visit, and then what!?  Ack!

Aggg...we have space issues as well. I'm aware that some major things must be adjusted in this house...and SOON. There simply isn't enough room. We must make room. I saw a truck downtown that said "I'm your handyman...I fix everything except broken hearts!" And I thought...yeah, that is totally what we need....an extra pair of working hands! I need someone to fix the changing table, repair the lights in the two downstairs lights, fix the toilets, the leaky spout outside, kill the mice outside, and take down my treadmill desk and then put it back up properly in the play room....It's so damn heavy....ugggg.... And yes....the girl issue...it really gets to me. I don't want to be my mother. My mother loved her sons...but me? not so much. I am determined to NOT be her!
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For you scared mama's of girls - my mom and her mother had a bad relationship. My mother and I have a fabulous relationship. Just don't be a jerk, you'll do fine wink1.gif

i am going to take this to heart!!! All in all...that's really it, isn't it? Just don't be a jerk! Wish my parents had gotten this point!
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I was a horrid teen girl, I know what I did and the thought of my girls doing the same is beyond scary. Let's just say there doesn't have to be any sneaking out or sneaking people in to get into all kinds of trouble. whistling.gif My oldest girl is 8 and yeah, I see her changing now. She isn't a little girl anymore and she has been rather sheltered. We don't do a lot of popular culture, like Hanna Montana, that type of stuff. I still picked out every item of her clothing until this summer, finding clothing that I think is suitable for a child has been a struggle for a while now already. She is just getting an opinion of what she will and will not wear, begs for shoes for heels, I finally solved that one by getting her clogs. lol.gif Her school quite crunchy and has very few girls, the ones that are there are the rough and tumble type which has been awesome. A good number of her sports are male dominated. And still it sneaks in, they really do seem to grow up faster. Thankfully, all that is way over her head right now, but other girls we know the same age, they are already talking about boyfriends and who likes who. She is in 3rd grade for crying out loud! 

I am more and more and more glad to be homeschooling at this point....my boys are also glad for this as they look around at neighbor girls. They say "Mom...never send our sister to school...in fact, lets move into the mountains and build a tall tower.....Oh boy.....eyesroll.gif
post #138 of 139

Ladies I must share this link with you:

 http://jezebel.com/5822687/pregnant-and-pulling-a-deuce

 

It made me ROTFLMAO.gifIt might be better suited for the weight gain thread, buuut I don't think anyone's too interested in posting in there these days ;)

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Ladies I must share this link with you:

 http://jezebel.com/5822687/pregnant-and-pulling-a-deuce

 

It made me ROTFLMAO.gifIt might be better suited for the weight gain thread, buuut I don't think anyone's too interested in posting in there these days ;)



That was the best!  OMG! Haha!!!  You're right, I refuse to dig up that thread and post on it.  I'm gonna go start the new chat thread and I'll post a link below in a minute.  We're almost to August, guys!!

 

New chat thread!!

 


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