Just remember why you left everytime you hear from him... I never thought I would be one of those women.. and I was always the one to ride to my friends rescues that managed to find a guy like that... I eventually fell into ones trap.. Charismatic... was the word everyone used for him when we first met... the word they now use isn't appropriate to say here. I was with him for 3 yrs... I lived in his house... I didn't work.. I wans't allowed to see anyone but my parents.. and that was approx 1 once a month, my mother was battleing breastcancer then.. I fell into a deep depression. I got lucky and did not get pregnant. It took my grandmother passing away to shake me out of the stupor I was in an open my eyes to what kind of a life I was living. He was verbally, and emotionally abusive... and If i didn't have my own temper I have no doubts it would have been physically as well.. though in the end it did come to that.
I got lucky.. I didn't end up pregnant though at the time I would have given anything to be. I have a friend w/ a son who's father is worse then what I went threw. She has been battling long and hard for sole custody of him because his father has threatened to kill him many times over, in gross detail. there has also been signs of physical abuse. and I have seen first hand the rage this guy has. he refused to leave a bar when she was 8 monthes pregnant and exhausted.. so I was going to take her home and come pick him back up ( he was in no condition to drive) and he grabbed me and threatened me, held me up by my throat. At the time I couldn't convince her to stay away from him. But she witnessed it.. and in the end it helped her leave him. I regret not pressing charges against him, but she was distressed as it was.
It sounds like you have a much better support system now. It does get easier, life will go on. and you'll be glad you got out.
I never would have met my wonderful husband and in some ways don't think I would have reconized how perfect he was for me had I not been threw what I had in the past. when I woke up and decided to use what happened to me as a learning experiance and part of the grand scheme of things I started looking forward to life again, and what it holds. I actually met him at my friends wedding, the one I mentioned above. She had found a great guy after what she had been threw.. and they where fraturnity brothers... as they say the rest was history. It can be amazing how it all works out in the end. Just stay positive!